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[sil.]

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Globalization is making the
rich world even richer

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but billions are locked out. They\'re living on
the edge between the rich world and the poor.

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They face tough choices if
they want to join the party.

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It\'s especially hard fitting
locked out, if you\'re a minority

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in the heart of a prosperous continent. Do you stick with
your roots or do you break out into the wider world?

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That\'s the dilemma faced by one young Hungarian
but he made a breakthrough in his career

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and a discovery about his past.

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In communist Hungary,

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Gypsy children were often taken from
poor families. They were raised

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in large orphanages with
hundreds of other children.

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Among them was Árpad
Bogdán, a film director

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who turned his experiences into an award
winning feature film. It\'s moved audiences

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in Budapest and abroad.

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My film is about the dilemmas of someone

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who realizes that in order
to face the future,

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he must come to terms with his past.

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And that\'s,

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that\'s something that I still have
to do in my own life with myself.

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Today, Árpad is in district 8,

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Budapest\'s Gypsy Harlem.
But does he belong here?

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Or is he a Hungarian artist like any other.
His life is at a crucial junction.

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[sil.]

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You might think that being known as a Roma or Gypsy
director is kind of useful in this neighborhood,

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but there\'s a downside as our pats are
about to be reminded here at Radio C,

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the Roma station. When
you won every film award

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going in 2007. The cynics said
you got them out of sympathy

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because you happen to be a Gypsy.

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Nobody cares at the international
festivals, whether you are a Gypsy or not.

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People see a film and they either like
it or they don\'t. I am proud of my work

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because it gives people an insight
into a world that is mostly ignored.

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If there is a place in Hungary where
Roma culture does play a central vault,

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it\'s the Gandhi High School in Pécs. In
a country where the largest minority

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still faces acute prejudice. This school aims to
give kids a sense of pride in their heritage.

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Árpad\'s keen to show his film here.

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But he isn\'t sure, a Roma
heritage is what he wants.

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This is a life on the edge.

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When you get out from an orphanage,
you might know you are a Gypsy

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but you can\'t really relate
to that in a cultural sense

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because you don\'t speak the language, you didn\'t
grow up in the community and you don\'t share

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any of its values. Other
Gypsys accept that,

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but you never really belong with them
or the whites. You just get (inaudible)

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somewhere in between.

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Can we find the file by the date of birth?
To find out where he belongs,

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Árpad has to start here at the archives
of the child protection agency.

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Thanks to recent change in the law, everyone
can now see their own file. At last,

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Árpad may have the chance to find out who his
parents were and why he was taken from them.

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But there\'s a word of warning.
The very few success stories.

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I have to be frank about that,
that this chance is so great

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and the cultural depth so wide, so
much time spent away from each other

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in very different environment that these
families can never really be reunited properly.

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[music]

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Armed with a few names and dates, but not
much more. Árpad goes back to the orphanage,

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where he first stayed. It
closed down few years ago.

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I was brought here at the
age of three or four

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and I couldn\'t understand what all
these bars are there for everywhere.

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I was struck by this prison feeling,

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the sense of isolation.

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I felt locked up and I thought I
was being punished for something.

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I just couldn\'t figure out what
they were punishing me for.

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[music]

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Get out of here while you can. If you
are here, your life has been cursed.

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If you are still here in a month, there
is no way out except one that is death.

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This was written by the one who gave up the fight
but it wasn\'t out of weakness or cowardness.

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[music]

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It still feels awful just being here.

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Seeing this again makes me wonder how I made it
as far as I have. How come I wasn\'t lost forever?

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Mind the steps.

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In the cellar, crucial documents about
the time Árpad and his six siblings

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were taken into care and addresses.

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These are original documents. The father had been
the only bread winner (inaudible) in the family

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and he was serving a prison sentence. That\'s why
my mother couldn\'t support the children anymore.

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Domestic environment, cleanliness
and personal hygiene

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in the family is unsatisfactory. The parents like to
drink. They discipline their children by beating them.

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Next stop on his journey is the
orphanage on Lake Balaton,

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where Árpad spent most of his childhood.
The majority of the kids there were Roma.

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But in the society that long been hostile
towards the Roma, they were given little help

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to understand their heritage.
In the orphanage, being Roma

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had no positive implications for us.

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But some of the kids were
visited by their parents

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and they brought smells and flavours that were
strange to me and even a little bit frightening.

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But there was also something exotic

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and exciting about them.
The smell\'s an open fire,

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the smell of freedom. But to be honest, mixing
with the magical creatures that attracted me

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there was also the smell of sweat, the
smell of alcohol, the smell of poverty,

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lots of things that were unappealing.

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Being called as Gypsy

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is still a pejorative
prejudice thing in Hungary.

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Even thinking about the
faces, I get a lot of,

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\"You broke out, you roll
us up, you are umm…

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you are different, you are
better than the rest of them.\"

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It all suggests that if you
need to climb that much,

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just to get to the level of everyone else, you must
have had to start something really, really low

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in a very bad place. But
as an artist and a person

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I think I owe it to myself,
not to accept that you…

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[sil.]

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This really has been raised to the ground.

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The orphanage is gone and developers have bought the land.
Hard to imagine, there was once hundreds of children here.

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It feels really strange to find this

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instead of my past. But
this… this place is a…

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is aperfect metaphor for me, a
vast emptiness, a great void.

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That\'s exactly how I feel about
my childhood. The few of the kids

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I used to know here have committed suicide
since many lost their way, many failed.

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Back then, some teachers kept
cursing our bloody Gypsy parents.

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I definitely thought of my
origins as a kind of stigma.

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I knew I couldn\'t do anything about it

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but should I have to apologize
for it all the time?

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[non-English narration]

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And I think I wasn\'t the only one who a bit ambivalent about
this, I wasn\'t the only one that to feel a little bit ashamed.

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Árpad Bogdán how have you grown.

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Still unsure whether to find his family,
Árpad seeks advice from his former teachers.

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They\'re happy to see their star pupil but
their perception of the Roma hasn\'t changed.

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I knew you would have double
trouble when you got out.

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Firstly, that you\'re from an orphanage
and second, that you\'re a Gypsy.

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Dealing with only one of those would be more
than enough but both. We we\'re so unprepared

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you, you might as well have given us
a cyanide pill and said good bye.

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Now tell me, since you seem to be so upset
about something, what did you miss?

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I should have been taught how to
deal with now having any parents.

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Why didn\'t I have parents?

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I should have been taught about
what it means to be a Gypsy.

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Whenever I see a Gypsy in the street,
I get shivers down my spine.

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But when I went to the orphanage,
I was clean, relatively healthy,

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well bread, well fed kids,
Gypsy kids but I felt

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no hostility towards them.

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What would have become of him without the orphanage?
I thought he was lucky not to have parents.

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What would have become of him?

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Nothing. Okay, they all miss their
family but what kind of family?

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They would\'ve needed good families, not to see
their father beat the mother all the time,

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or to see their sisters being sent out on the
streets. Because that (inaudible) was life.

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[non-English narration]

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Should I try to find my parents now? You
certainly, you shouldn\'t expect much

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if you do. You might find
horrific circumstances.

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You mustn\'t be horrified. I might try to
find them if I was you but without emotions.

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Árpad has told that his family
no longer live in the village

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where he was born. But he wants to meet the
Mayor and find out if anyone remembers them.

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I know there is no last Bogdán

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living in this village. Yes, there is.

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He\'s here, I know his
ex-wife, his current partner,

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even his kids. How old is this man?

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Around 35 I think. No news
of his father, Laslo.

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But he has brother with the same name.
Have you not met him in a while?

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Never. What do you know of your mother? I
don\'t know about anything about anyone.

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Not even whether she\'s alive? No.

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[non-English narration]

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It\'s all coming back to me
now, I\'m sure I can find Laslo

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and set up a meeting.

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He\'ll be happy to see you.

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I\'m not sure it\'s a good idea.

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In local archives, some
disturbing information.

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The mother has been
obstructing the authorities

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by fleeing with three of her
children to an unidentified location

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on May 28th 1979. One child
by the name of Árpad bogdán,

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born on 13th June 1976 was left behind,

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locked in the store room. The
mother has not visited him since.

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The child was eventually
fed by then neighbors.

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That\'s specific,

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very specific. So

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my mother ran off with three kids
and left him, this one, me behind.

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[sil.]

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I don\'t know.

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This is tough. I think well,

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I, I certainly don\'t
remember being locked up.

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[sil.]

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I don\'t know, it\'s too much to take in.

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[sil.]

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This was obviously a family
in process of falling apart

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with a lots of sacrifice,

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lots of thoughtlessness, a
lot of irresponsibility.

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[sil.]

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I want to go home.

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[music]

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Let\'s get one thing clear. I don\'t
have any doubts about this.

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I refuse to see my parents. I don\'t
care if our old house is here

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or if uh… anything, anyone else is here.

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I will not subject myself to this. I\'m
interested in the face the documents.

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But to meet family or even to risk
running into them, no thanks!

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This was all over 30 years ago

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and it certainly would not benefit either
them or me to tear it all open again.

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[music]

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Back home in Budapest, Árpad is
trying to cope on what he\'s found

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and he\'s expecting a call from Laslo, his new
found brother. He\'s picked up word of his visit.

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[music]

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Hello, do you manage to find her?

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Where is she now? I mean,

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uh… our mother. She\'s dead?

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Mm-hmm.

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[music]

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It seems my father is the only parent left.
I can still ask about what happened…

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and I\'ve decided now that
I do want to ask him.

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[music]

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In Budapest\'s prosperous Rose hill. Árpad
has come to see his former guardian.

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Sociologist, Catalyn Forai.
She met Árpad when he was 13

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and she\'s played a key role in his life
ever since. I worried it\'ll shake you up.

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I\'m not, I\'m not sure. It\'s not
like I\'m meeting strangers

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who will still be strangers but
we might get closed one day.

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These people are my family,
my brother, my father.

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You want to know if you should love them? Well, that
too. You\'ll see, loving relatives is not compulsory.

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I guess not. Love isn\'t compulsory.

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Oh, garlic. Why would you want
garlic for this? It\'s a must.

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To be honest, I\'m all worried
about my father getting

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into some apologetic rant. So what?
I\'d worry more about what comes next.

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Yeah, what\'s next? Well, whether you will see
him again, whether he will want to come visit,

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moving with you, or ask you for money.

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I guess, if he had to just
expectations that would be.

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What? Don\'t want that. Back in the village,

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Árpad meets his brother
for the first time. Hi.

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Let me introduce you to each other.
The great encounter.

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I thought he\'d look like dad\'s brother.
This is my son. That\'s your uncle.

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I\'m Gabble. Hi, Árpad. Why
can\'t we see where you live?

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Because it\'s not mine.

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And what is yours around here? Nothing.

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Except your kids. Yes, my kids.
Laslo was already seven

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when he was taken into care. He\'s been back in touch with
the family for years. In the local community center,

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he fills in Árpad all the details.

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I was wondering why Laslo senior,
our father was in prison?

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Well, that doesn\'t take a genius
to figure that out. Tell me.

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Most of the time it was a fighting.
Was he trouble maker,

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bad tempered, picks fight
all the time? Yeah.

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Do you know him personally? Sure, I do.
Is he still like that? No, not any more.

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He\'s 60 years old now.
Look, my dad is my dad.

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I don\'t want to speak I\'ll of him.
And my mother is my mother

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so I can\'t think of anything nice
to say and I don\'t wanna be nasty.

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I\'ll wait for you here, okay?
Laslo has vowed

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never to visit his mother\'s grave. So
his son, Gabble takes Árpad to see it.

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Were you here when she was buried?

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I was still little but I really
love my Granny and she loved me.

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[sil.]

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Árpad and Laslo\'s father
lives in the next village.

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He has a new young wife and 40 dogs.

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He doesn\'t such much of any of his nine children. But
he doesn\'t seem to mind getting a surprise visit.

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Which one are you? I\'m Árpad.

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[sil.]

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How time flies. Yes, it does.

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All right, it\'s been a while.

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Is 29 years a while?
That\'s how long it\'s been.

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Don\'t have a flash. Yes, indeed.

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Shame, I had no idea where you were.

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Okay, I know that\'s no excuse.
Not that you tend to visit,

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but it was down to me too. I
could\'ve found you I had tried.

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We could\'ve met sooner.

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I don\'t fell apart when
I was put in prison.

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Your mother went to town,
shacked up with someone.

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I found about this and I handed
in the divorce papers for myself.

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Okay, I wasn\'t faulted,

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can\'t told be one. I made mistakes and
your mother had made mistakes too.

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[non-English narration]

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Had I stayed at home not been in prison,

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you would\'ve stayed as well.

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How long were you in that prison in
Sopron Kohida? Long time, six years

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and that one alone. It\'s six years?

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What, what did you do to get six years?

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I had a mean punch.

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Maybe, you shouldn\'t have shown
off in these pufs (inaudible).

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I always save that to be accompanied

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by a prison guard than a priest. On your
way to the cemetery, isn\'t that right?

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That was at stake.

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So you came back from prison and found
that the family had fallen apart?

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Well, what\'s happened is happened.

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[sil.]

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At least you came to find me.

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I might not have much time left anyway.
As for the past,

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let\'s pull a veil over it. We
should look to the future from now.

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We should stay in touch.

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I\'m glad I found out about you.

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[sil.]

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Back in Budapest,

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Árpad is getting on route preparations for
his next film and considering everything

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he\'s learned about his past. All kinds
of stereo types around the roper.

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Árpad may just have got
rid of some of his own.

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I expected a lot worse when I
went to meet these people,

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my… my brother and my father. I
was worried about finding umm…

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much more deviant, marginalized creatures.

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They ended up surprisingly
and in a way that lives

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are more rooted than mine is.

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[non-English narration]

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They have uh… families, they have
loved ones and they have a lot more

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umm… stability than I can
even imagine for myself.

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Concepts like, like brother,

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father, family they, they did not
start meaning something overnight.

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Like my brother said, it was like
talking to complete stranger.

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[non-English narration]

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I\'ve ended up with few new people
in my life and umm… I have no idea

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what role they will play from now on.

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Post communist Hungary
and its Roma minority

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still need time to come to terms to
each other and so do Árpad and his dad.

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But at least now they have the
opportunity if they want to take it.

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I looked my father, into his eyes

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and I suddenly felt myself forgiving him

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and let him go along with all the
bad things I used to blame him for

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and after that I could see him for
what he is and I could listen to him.

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Whether I see my father again?

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[music]

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Well,

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Maybe I will but definitely not on my own.

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I will have to take someone with
me, someone from my own life,

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someone who can give me
a sense of security.

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I think I would need that to hold on to.
I would need to be reminded that,

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okay, that is where I\'m
from and he\'s my father.

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But I do have a very different
life now and very different world.

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[music]