IT IS NOT OVER YET – ENGLISH DIALOGUE LIST

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This way, this way.

This way, this way.

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This way ...

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Yes, but ...

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This way, this way.

And that one.

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- Your fingers get tired after a while.

- I can imagine.

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- But I've done it so many times.

- Indeed.

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- I just keep knitting away.

- You're good at it. It's lovely.

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This one ...

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- How many stitches did you cast on?

- I don't know. At least ...

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- Quite a lot.

- Quite a lot. I can see that.

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She has.

Otherwise it'll be too much for her.

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- For whom?

- The woman who is doing it.

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- Who's doing it?

- I'm doing this.

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I can see that, so I was wondering

whom you were referring to.

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Well, I am the one doing this.

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This way, this way ...

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- Who taught you how to knit?

- My mother.

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- Your mother did a lot of knitting?

- She helps ... just as much as me.

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- My mother's fit as a fiddle.

- She is?

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Yes. Very impressive.

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- How old do you think your mother is?

- Well, she's my age.

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- Your mother? Okay.

- She's fit as a fiddle.

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This way, yes. But ...

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This way ... this way.

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Have a pleasant journey, Rita.

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She looks so delicate and beautiful.

You're so beautiful, Rita.

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I've got an announcement.

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Our sweet Rita is not among us anymore.

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Rita passed away peacefully

yesterday afternoon.

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In a moment, Rita will join us

in her coffin, so we can sing for her.

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She's always loved

"A Lark's Nest I've Discovered".

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So let's sing that for Rita.

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Let's drink to Rita

and wish her a pleasant journey.

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- Cheers,Jensen.

<- Monsieur.>

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That's control, that is!

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- Hello there. Charlie.

- May.

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Vibeke and Torkild

will arrive at 10 a.m.

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She's been diagnosed with Alzheimer's

and has trouble expressing herself.

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Even though they're both pharmacists

and have run separate pharmacies -

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- he's placed her on a pedestal

and is very proud of her.

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So it's hard for him to see

that there are things she can't do.

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He gets annoyed with her.

The picture of perfection cracks.

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He's a nice man, but he has no insight

into his own disease whatsoever.

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He doesn't want to go to a nursing home.

He thinks he's here -

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- so that she can learn how

to walk again. That's our approach.

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I think we should sidestep

the whole disease issue.

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Seeing as he lacks that insight,

we'll just go along with that.

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Also when it comes to the issue

of moving in.

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Let's be gentle about the fact

that he's actually living here.

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We'll just say welcome and that's that.

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Of course we shouldn't lie -

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- but let's not focus on the fact

that he's moving in.

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Hello and welcome.

My name is May.

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Come in.

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- It's really good to see you.

- Nice ... place.

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Would you like to sit over here?

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- That looks good.

- Doesn't it?

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I'm just going to say a few words.

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Can you all see me?

I'm standing behind this big lamp.

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I'm here with Torkild and Vibeke

who'll be with us for a bit.

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You've both run pharmacies.

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My pharmacy was a small one

compared to Vibeke's.

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Hers was one of the four biggest

in the whole of Denmark.

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You've lived in a house in Bagsværd

... or still do.

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We're lucky to have you.

Let's raise our glasses.

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Cheers. It's the two people over here.

Vibeke and Torkild.

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Cheers, everybody!

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- Then, then, then ...

- Yes.

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But, but ... there's ...

Num, num, num ...

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- Aren't the flowers pretty?

- Yes.

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Our dad has got an issue

with our mom's table manners.

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- He gets very angry with her.

- Yes. I read that in the papers.

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He's clear-headed enough to know

that he's lost his wife.

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These past six months

she's gotten much worse.

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I've known for a few months, but I

couldn't bear to move them into a home.

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Where they'd be filled with poison.

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We run statistics on medicine,

and we're on less than one drug a day.

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- Great.

- That's quite low. The average is ten.

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So we're not going

to start medicating them heavily.

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We never use sedatives,

antidepressants or antipsychotics.

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- Only paracetamol.

- Yes, that's all we give them.

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And then lots of cake.

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- What?

- Cake!

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But I'm going home tonight.

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Mom can't go home tonight. She can't

learn how to walk in an hour's time.

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I suppose you're right.

But I wonder how ...

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I'll take care of everything at home

so that it's ready for you.

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She'll have good rehabilitation here.

Look after Vibeke.

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Have you seen that?

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That's unbelievable.

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- Yes, we brought those along.

- Our beloved grandchildren.

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- Hi, Vibeke.

- Can't you ... so, so, so, so ...

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- Yes, that's right.

- Walk forward, please, Vibeke.

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I'm ready to ...

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- It's difficult for you, right?

- Yes. It feels very strange.

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I'm used to deciding what we should eat.

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You're already telling me

that you're in charge.

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- No.

- Yes. That's what you're saying.

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- I'm sorry you feel that way.

- But it's true.

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- Would you like to talk about it?

- No.

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- You don't want to do that.

- No.

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Where's my son?

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Where's Michael?

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- I think they left, Torkild.

- They left?

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You promised them you'd stay here

and help look after Vibeke.

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Well. I'm wondering how ...

It must have been prepared.

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Because the pictures on the walls ...

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My daughter must have been involved.

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Yes, she was involved.

And so was Michael.

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- There you are.

- Thank you.

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Just tell us if you need anything

or if you want to talk.

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That's easy for you to say.

What if I told you I'm worried -

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- about the state of our house

while I'm sitting here.

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What do you have to say about that?

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I've been told that your children

will look after the house.

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They'll stop by. They know

how much it means to you.

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But Vibeke means a lot more to you

than your house does.

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The idea is to ease your burden

in everyday life.

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Yes.

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So you can have some time for yourself.

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Well, I don't need that.

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- But I must be with her, of course.

- You're a good man.

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Do you want Torkild to come

and lie here next to you?

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- What about things at home?

- Your children will take care of that.

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- And where are we right now?

- At Dagmarsminde. North Zealand.

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What is this place?

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You're here so that your wife

can learn to walk again.

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- And what's this place called?

- Dagmarsminde.

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Dagmarsminde.

Well, okay then.

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I'm here all night, and I'm Heidi.

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Do you want to go and lie down?

You'll stay here?

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- I'll come back a bit later.

- Yes, yes.

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- Hi. I'm the interpreter.

- Hi.

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At 17, I worked in a nursing home.

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I felt uncomfortable from the moment

I stepped through the door.

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I felt that the surroundings

were very unpleasant.

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Everything was grey,

and there was a pungent smell of urine.

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Above all, the atmosphere was negative

because the staff were not happy.

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The residents were left alone,

constantly yelling "Hello!" -

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- or feeling very aggressive and angry.

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I thought: "I want to change this."

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So I decided to become a nurse.

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Suddenly, almost overnight -

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- my dad started displaying

strange symptoms.

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It turned out to be dementia.

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Over the next four-five years,

he deteriorated -

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- and had to move into a nursing home.

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As fate would have it -

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- it was the same nursing home

where I worked when I was 17.

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When I saw it, everything was the same.

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It smelled and looked the same.

He was sitting alone in his room.

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They left him alone with his food

even though he didn't know how to eat.

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They forgot his name

and didn't get his sense of humor.

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After five months,

even though he was very strong -

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- he died from serious neglect.

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I decided to take matters

into my own hands.

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It took me seven years

to save up enough -

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- to buy this old joinery.

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I thought I'd make it

into a nursing home.

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It's not a home for the rich.

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We don't have more resources

than other nursing homes.

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The people who live here

are on a state pension.

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But it's the only Danish nursing home

that's run in this particular way.

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We believe in compassion as a treatment.

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It's about giving them hope in life.

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There ... Can you manage?

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- Good.

- Lovely. Come along.

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Right, Mr. Jensen. It's cake time.

Come with me.

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- Yes, sir.

<- Jawohl!>

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Put your leg down here

and come with us.

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- I'll come. Will you hold me?

- Yes, we'll hold.

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No, wait! I can't.

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You can do it on your own.

Stand up. Great, Jørgen.

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- I can't anymore.

- Well, you did it very well.

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And Heidi.

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- It's the 28th today, right?

- Yes.

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- Mrs. Jensen. Hello.

- Hello, Mr. Jensen.

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It's lovely to meet you.

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<- Inge ... Ich kann nicht mehr.>

<- Du musst noch.>

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Oh, you don't think so?

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- How are you feeling?

- I'm great when I'm with you, darling.

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We've had a good life with good health

and enough money to get by.

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Our children are lovely.

We've lived and worked in nice places.

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- We can't really complain, you know.

- No. It's a boring relationship.

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They're discussing their relationship.

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Wasn't there a bit of infidelity?

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- I think we've had a fun time.

- Sorry?

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- We've had a fun time together.

- Yes. We still have.

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He's been the right stud for me.

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Because we've had

two wonderful daughters.

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- Are you a stud, Mr. Jensen?

- Give me your thigh.

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I can't ...

I can't do anything for you anymore.

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No. But Jørgen ...

You're a bit older than me.

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- What are we going to do about you?

- I don't know.

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Cheers, Mr. Jensen.

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Good morning, Inge.

It's me, Dorte.

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- It's me, Dorte.

- Well, you're welcome.

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- What time is it?

- It's only coming up to 8:30.

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I know you like to be woken up

and then take it easy.

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It's easier to get up, then.

Stretching your body.

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Good morning, Torkild.

I'll make you a fresh pot of tea.

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Good morning, everybody.

Yes, you as well.

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It didn't taste good?

Oh. You usually like it.

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Thank you.

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- Torkild, did you sleep well?

- I always sleep well.

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That's good to hear.

You look nice and fresh, I must say.

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- You all look nice and fresh as well.

- That's how we feel.

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- Good morning, Erik.

- Good morning.

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Bless you, Mrs. Schrøder!

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What a horrible sound.

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Poor you, Inger.

You've had a real sneezing fit.

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What music do you like, Torkild?

What do you listen to?

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- I enjoy peace and quiet.

- I understand.

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You can sit here opposite Torkild.

Right? And have some breakfast.

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There we are.

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And then we ...

Dat, dat, dat ...

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What's up with you now? Sit nicely.

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Put them back in the vase.

Don't hold them in your hand.

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Vibeke? Is it because

the flowers should be thrown out?

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We'll get fresh ones tomorrow.

I'll take them so that you can eat.

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Yes, you have to be quick.

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I'm not as young and fit anymore.

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- Good morning, Lis.

- I usually sit on the paper.

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- Here it is.

- Thank you.

227

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00:23:06:23

Have you redirected

your newspaper as well?

228

00:23:07:01

00:23:13:01

No, I haven't.

They're probably piling up back home.

229

00:23:13:04

00:23:15:12

It's the house's.

230

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00:23:18:09

This will make my trousers tight

around the waist.

231

00:23:18:12

00:23:23:13

- No. Not a small portion of porridge.

- Is this a small portion?

232

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00:23:28:08

Well, it might make your buttons pop.

233

00:23:28:11

00:23:31:13

Yes, one bite could be enough ...!

234

00:23:31:16

00:23:36:03

Oh, you are a sweetheart.

235

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00:24:54:07

Piece of shit.

236

00:24:58:08

00:25:02:13

- Bloody crap!

- Torkild?

237

00:25:02:16

00:25:07:09

Can I find your coat for you?

That one won't keep you warm.

238

00:25:07:12

00:25:13:00

Let's see ... this one.

We can swap.

239

00:25:13:03

00:25:18:02

If you take off that coat,

I'll put the good one on you.

240

00:25:21:14

00:25:25:06

- Are you coming, Torkild?

- Where is my wife?

241

00:25:25:09

00:25:30:10

- Right here.

- I can't recognize her all covered up.

242

00:25:30:13

00:25:34:04

- Do you want to push?

- Yes.

243

00:25:38:05

00:25:43:01

When we get to that bit,

I'll change over to the other lane.

244

00:25:44:13

00:25:49:08

We don't want you

to end up in the water.

245

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00:26:02:24

246

00:26:03:02

00:26:07:06

247

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00:26:14:11

248

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00:26:19:12

249

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00:26:24:15

250

00:26:53:00

00:26:55:23

- Is this nice?

- Yes.

251

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00:27:01:11

- You can't keep standing there.

- Oh yes, for as long as you want.

252

00:27:01:14

00:27:05:24

But we don't want to scratch a hole

in you. Let's see if it did the trick.

253

00:27:06:02

00:27:10:21

- I think I can go to bed now.

- Otherwise we'll come to you.

254

00:27:10:24

00:27:14:19

Or you can come to us.

Sleep well, Torkild.

255

00:27:15:12

00:27:18:05

- Jørgen Jensen.

- I'm in here.

256

00:27:18:08

00:27:21:00

- Do you want to come with me?

- Sure.

257

00:27:21:03

00:27:23:11

- Come along.

- Sit over there.

258

00:27:23:14

00:27:28:14

No, I'm not going to sit.

I'm here to help you.

259

00:27:28:17

00:27:31:16

To help me?

260

00:27:31:19

00:27:36:02

changing into your pyjamas

and going to bed next to your wife.

261

00:27:36:05

00:27:37:21

I can't go on.

262

00:27:37:24

00:27:40:23

- Hold here.

- I don't want to.

263

00:27:41:01

00:27:46:01

- Hold here and stand up.

- Look, I don't want to.

264

00:27:46:04

00:27:50:17

- But then we're stuck here.

- Oh well.

265

00:27:50:20

00:27:57:12

- It'll be a long night in a hard chair.

<- Das spielt keine Rolle.>

266

00:27:57:15

00:28:01:23

- Never mind.

<- Das spielt keine Rolle.>

267

00:28:06:02

00:28:10:09

- Try to get into this chair, Jørgen.

- Yes.

268

00:28:10:12

00:28:13:20

- Let's count to ... how much?

- Not much.

269

00:28:13:23

00:28:17:06

Not much. One, two ...

270

00:28:17:09

00:28:21:05

- No, no. Can you stand there a bit?

- I'll stand here a bit.

271

00:28:21:08

00:28:24:17

- Oh, I can't go on.

- No. Try to stand up.

272

00:28:24:20

00:28:28:00

No, let me ... Like that.

273

00:28:29:05

00:28:33:01

- I can't ...

- Good night, Torkild. We'll lock up.

274

00:28:33:04

00:28:37:18

- I can't lock up.

- I'll do it.

275

00:28:37:21

00:28:43:02

- Inge's waiting for you.

- She'll just have to wait with that.

276

00:28:43:05

00:28:47:22

Exactly. Come sit here, and I'll push

you in there. You don't need to walk.

277

00:28:48:00

00:28:52:04

- No, I can't go on.

- No, I know. Come on.

278

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00:28:56:04

<- When I went off to war ...>

<- When I went off to war ...>

279

00:28:56:07

00:28:59:21

- I can't do anything.

- I think you can do a lot.

280

00:28:59:24

00:29:05:09

- No. I feel awful.

- I know. I want to help you.

281

00:29:05:12

00:29:08:10

- How the hell do you know?

- You tell me.

282

00:29:08:13

00:29:11:13

- I've told you?

- You told me just now.

283

00:29:11:16

00:29:14:02

Oh no.

284

00:29:17:05

00:29:22:07

You're so tired. Come along.

Let's go to Inge.

285

00:29:22:10

00:29:25:00

- Come.

- Inge must be awake.

286

00:29:25:03

00:29:28:15

Yes, she's waiting for you.

287

00:29:32:13

00:29:35:17

- I can't.

- No, but let's try.

288

00:29:35:20

00:29:40:06

- Stretch out your legs.

- Try to think.

289

00:29:40:09

00:29:44:24

- What do you want me to hear?

- Don't do anything.

290

00:29:45:02

00:29:47:14

- I can't.

- No.

291

00:29:51:21

00:29:55:04

- Take my hand.

- Oh no.

292

00:29:56:03

00:30:00:18

- When I ... Aw!

- Where does it hurt? Your backside?

293

00:30:00:21

00:30:02:16

- Yes.

- Oh dear.

294

00:30:03:19

00:30:06:01

- There you go.

- I can't.

295

00:30:06:04

00:30:09:22

- Jørgen, can you lift your legs?

- Why?

296

00:30:10:00

00:30:13:13

- So that I can push you.

- Why do you want to push me?

297

00:30:13:16

00:30:18:08

- So you can put on your pyjamas.

- I don't want to.

298

00:30:18:11

00:30:24:16

Then I'll do it for you.

Please lift your legs. Thank you.

299

00:30:26:05

00:30:29:24

- I'll just open this door.

- Yes, please.

300

00:30:30:02

00:30:32:08

It's just us.

301

00:30:35:06

00:30:39:00

- Oh, I can't. I can't.

- I'll help you.

302

00:30:39:03

00:30:40:12

I can't do anything.

303

00:30:59:15

00:31:04:19

Today, we're saying goodbye to Erik.

304

00:31:05:18

00:31:09:08

Erik lived in this very room.

305

00:31:11:02

00:31:15:15

Erik passed away the night before last.

306

00:31:15:18

00:31:19:21

His family is here today

and they were by his side.

307

00:31:19:24

00:31:26:21

We're going to drink to him and sing

a song to pay him our last respects.

308

00:31:26:24

00:31:30:20

In memory of Erik. Cheers.

309

00:32:01:05

00:32:05:05

- This way.

- Then it won't take up too much space.

310

00:32:11:06

00:32:16:07

- Oh, you found her a mini poinsettia.

- Yes, I thought of Grete instantly.

311

00:32:24:09

00:32:28:07

Welcome.

Come in out of the cold, Grete.

312

00:32:31:19

00:32:35:10

Hi. It's so good to see you.

Welcome.

313

00:32:35:13

00:32:36:19

Hi. I'm Lotte.

314

00:32:41:00

00:32:44:03

Would you like some water?

315

00:32:46:08

00:32:49:07

Would you like some water? Yes?

316

00:32:54:18

00:33:00:01

I didn't realize how stressful

these past three years have been.

317

00:33:00:04

00:33:04:20

I didn't go to see her,

because it was too much.

318

00:33:04:23

00:33:08:04

It was an awful place

to leave one's mother.

319

00:33:08:07

00:33:11:21

- I don't think it's worse than average.

- Probably not.

320

00:33:11:24

00:33:16:23

When I leave her here,

it'll be such a relief.

321

00:33:17:01

00:33:22:08

Everything will be fine.

We'll take good care of you both.

322

00:33:26:01

00:33:31:22

Grete is 76. She was a social worker

and then trained to be a sexologist -

323

00:33:32:00

00:33:37:21

- specializing in incest.

She travelled a lot with her husband.

324

00:33:37:24

00:33:42:00

When they were in their sixties, he

worked at a hospital in Saudi Arabia -

325

00:33:42:03

00:33:44:04

- and they lived there for four years.

326

00:33:44:07

00:33:47:13

They move home,

but then something happens.

327

00:33:47:16

00:33:53:05

One day she goes upstairs to find

her husband dead in bed, fully clothed.

328

00:33:53:08

00:33:58:15

He looks as if he sat down and fell

backwards due to cardiac arrest.

329

00:33:58:18

00:34:01:23

Shortly thereafter,

she suffers a stroke -

330

00:34:02:01

00:34:07:22

- that triggers

some kind of vascular dementia.

331

00:34:08:00

00:34:11:24

That was four years ago.

She goes in and out of hospital.

332

00:34:12:02

00:34:15:04

Then she was put in a home.

333

00:34:16:05

00:34:21:00

The situation with her medication,

as far as I can make out, is -

334

00:34:21:03

00:34:23:24

- that she is on ...

335

00:34:25:00

00:34:27:09

... 10 mg Prednisolone.

336

00:34:27:12

00:34:32:07

She's on morphine patches

and OxyContin as required.

337

00:34:32:10

00:34:34:08

That's morphine, too.

338

00:34:34:11

00:34:38:03

At one point, she also got codeine.

Also morphine.

339

00:34:38:06

00:34:44:18

So at one point, she got three or four

morphine drugs at the same time.

340

00:34:44:21

00:34:48:14

I wonder what happens

when we take all this away.

341

00:34:48:17

00:34:49:22

Yes!

342

00:34:50:00

00:34:54:12

She may have vascular dementia.

343

00:34:54:15

00:34:58:23

- I thought she had Alzheimer's.

- That's what I thought.

344

00:34:59:01

00:35:03:24

It's not irrelevant,

because she's on Alzheimer's medication.

345

00:35:04:02

00:35:06:16

Donepezil.

346

00:35:06:19

00:35:10:19

10 mg, a high dose for Alzheimer's.

347

00:35:10:22

00:35:13:16

That's insane.

348

00:35:13:19

00:35:16:23

When was it prescribed?

349

00:35:18:11

00:35:22:08

No! She's been on it since 2015.

350

00:35:22:11

00:35:26:11

It's not even effective anymore.

She only has the side effects now.

351

00:35:46:14

00:35:48:24

There you go.

352

00:35:51:03

00:35:55:01

You have a view of the entire room.

353

00:35:55:04

00:35:56:18

Yes.

354

00:35:58:07

00:36:00:17

Are you comfortable? Good.

355

00:36:02:16

00:36:07:03

Just relax.

We'll take care of everything.

356

00:36:10:10

00:36:13:14

That's right, Grete.

357

00:36:13:17

00:36:16:07

You rest now.

358

00:37:14:10

00:37:16:21

There you go, Inger.

359

00:37:16:24

00:37:21:23

Is your body tired?

Just a bit tired?

360

00:37:24:07

00:37:28:21

You brush your teeth thoroughly.

You always have.

361

00:37:37:01

00:37:43:03

- Do you want to take your glasses off?

- Yes, I'm taking them home with me.

362

00:37:43:23

00:37:47:01

- Do they go off when you go to bed?

- Yes.

363

00:37:47:04

00:37:52:05

- Just put them on the nightstand.

- I'll put them on the nightstand.

364

00:37:53:16

00:37:58:01

She was glad.

I went to the hospital.

365

00:37:58:04

00:38:01:02

She was glad.

366

00:38:01:05

00:38:06:01

- She was glad to have a visitor.

- She was glad to see and talk to me.

367

00:38:06:04

00:38:12:02

It means a lot.

Because you don't see her.

368

00:38:12:05

00:38:16:02

And she is ... with her all the time.

369

00:38:16:05

00:38:21:00

So they get insecure.

I understand that.

370

00:38:21:03

00:38:25:17

Well, Birthe, you've been

a very close-knit family.

371

00:38:25:20

00:38:29:21

- You've been very close.

- We have.

372

00:38:29:24

00:38:35:15

And I've told my mother

that if there was anything at all -

373

00:38:35:18

00:38:41:02

- I didn't want to.

She couldn't handle it.

374

00:38:41:05

00:38:47:14

It's hard because they're used

to always being together. It is hard.

375

00:38:47:17

00:38:52:17

- Birthe, you have a lot on your mind.

- Yes.

376

00:38:52:20

00:38:56:16

I think about those at home.

And I think about other things, too.

377

00:38:56:19

00:38:59:19

You can't help it.

378

00:38:59:22

00:39:06:07

That's what's so annoying.

You don't really socialize.

379

00:39:06:10

00:39:10:13

It's as if you don't socialize anymore.

380

00:39:11:10

00:39:13:09

But you do.

381

00:39:13:12

00:39:15:12

- You do.

- Yes. I'm here.

382

00:39:15:15

00:39:18:24

- I'll be here.

 - Good, dear.

383

00:39:19:02

00:39:22:08

- Sleep well.

- You too, dear.

384

00:39:22:11

00:39:25:18

- You're wonderful.

- Good night.

385

00:39:25:21

00:39:28:21

- I love you.

- I love you too, Birthe.

386

00:39:28:24

00:39:31:02

So long.

387

00:39:57:00

00:40:01:05

- Are you going out in the dark?

- Yes, but I'll be back.

388

00:40:01:08

00:40:05:19

- Just a quick trip.

- To see if the chickens are asleep.

389

00:40:05:22

00:40:11:08

Can you tell me where the chickens are?

390

00:40:11:11

00:40:16:11

Follow the lighted path as usual

to the coop.

391

00:40:16:14

00:40:21:01

I know very well,

but I couldn't help wondering.

392

00:40:21:04

00:40:23:12

Yes, what way is it?

393

00:40:35:10

00:40:39:06

They're all bunched up, sleeping.

394

00:40:59:07

00:41:02:22

Well, had the chickens gone to sleep?

395

00:41:03:00

00:41:06:14

Here's something to drink.

396

00:41:06:17

00:41:11:18

397

00:41:11:21

00:41:15:10

398

00:41:15:13

00:41:18:06

<- the stocks started going>

399

00:41:20:06

00:41:25:08

My, how they go on. It would be nice

if it were more entertaining.

400

00:41:25:11

00:41:27:24

Yes, this is boring.

401

00:41:29:12

00:41:33:22

- Damn it!

- Is your shoe acting up?

402

00:41:34:00

00:41:39:09

The laces are too tight.

I'll loosen them.

403

00:41:39:12

00:41:42:02

- Try now.

- I'll try.

404

00:41:43:09

00:41:47:19

I've got a shoehorn,

but for now I'm your shoehorn.

405

00:41:47:22

00:41:52:03

- That's fine. Thanks.

- You're welcome.

406

00:41:52:06

00:41:55:04

- I'm going to nip out.

- Sure.

407

00:41:55:07

00:41:59:13

- Don't lock the door.

- We won't.

408

00:41:59:16

00:42:03:24

- You'd better put on your coat.

- Yes, I'd better.

409

00:42:07:00

00:42:10:19

I won't go out into the street

but into the garden.

410

00:42:10:22

00:42:14:02

Go ahead. See you in a bit.

411

00:42:37:14

00:42:40:18

There's the moon and a big star.

412

00:42:50:13

00:42:52:20

It's twinkling.

413

00:42:55:08

00:42:58:03

Twinkle, twinkle, twinkle, twinkle.

414

00:43:05:17

00:43:10:01

Those two and that one and that one.

415

00:43:14:18

00:43:19:11

No, what I was once able to

I can't anymore.

416

00:44:14:07

00:44:16:19

Look up. I've got you.

417

00:44:23:00

00:44:26:24

- Isn't it an amazing hug?

- You don't get one like that every day.

418

00:44:27:02

00:44:32:05

- You don't get such a hug every day.

- I think Grete wants to get up.

419

00:44:34:06

00:44:38:10

There you go.

Take my hand.

420

00:44:40:12

00:44:45:07

Grete, can I take this off

so you can feel the breeze?

421

00:44:45:10

00:44:51:00

- It's not very cold.

- No, it's not winter or anything.

422

00:44:51:03

00:44:55:19

- Look up, Grete.

- Grete, where would you like to go?

423

00:44:55:22

00:45:00:04

Which tree would you like to go to?

You decide.

424

00:45:02:08

00:45:06:22

What? Pick a tree

and we'll go there.

425

00:45:13:15

00:45:18:12

- This one?

- Yes, she's turning around.

426

00:45:20:14

00:45:22:18

I can't come ...

427

00:45:22:21

00:45:26:01

- I can't ...

- What are you saying?

428

00:45:26:04

00:45:30:17

- I can't come close.

- You can't come close to it?

429

00:45:32:01

00:45:35:12

Reach around here. Can't you?

430

00:45:40:13

00:45:44:20

- Isn't it nice?

- Yes.

431

00:45:49:10

00:45:53:23

Try to reach around it.

I've got you.

432

00:45:55:18

00:45:59:09

I'll take your glasses

so you can get in close.

433

00:45:59:12

00:46:02:09

Get in close to the tree now.

434

00:46:16:05

00:46:19:13

Good, good, good.

435

00:46:32:14

00:46:38:00

See how the trees stand at just

the right distance from each other.

436

00:46:39:23

00:46:43:11

So that they can

take care of each other.

437

00:46:44:14

00:46:47:14

Like us sitting close together here.

438

00:46:47:17

00:46:50:20

We help each other

just by sitting like this.

439

00:47:35:19

00:47:39:16

440

00:47:39:19

00:47:44:19

441

00:47:44:22

00:47:49:13

442

00:47:50:11

00:47:53:06

1992

ROYAL SILVER ANNIVERSARY

443

00:48:26:06

00:48:30:03

My, what a lot of yellow flowers.

444

00:48:30:23

00:48:34:15

There are so very many, many, many.

445

00:48:41:10

00:48:44:08

You have a good gait.

446

00:48:44:11

00:48:47:21

You have such a good, relaxed gait.

447

00:48:47:24

00:48:52:14

You instinctively know that

here comes a kind, good-hearted man.

448

00:48:52:17

00:48:57:21

- You walk like this.

- I'm going to join my wife.

449

00:48:57:24

00:49:03:05

You're lucky.

And you have good taste.

450

00:49:38:11

00:49:42:23

Did you take pity on me

because I was so lonely?

451

00:49:44:08

00:49:48:23

- Oh yes.

- I know you have a sense of humour.

452

00:49:52:12

00:49:54:15

We're sheltered from the wind here.

453

00:49:54:18

00:50:00:22

See how windy it is.

Just look at the flag.

454

00:50:02:06

00:50:05:21

I found this nice sheltered nook.

455

00:50:05:24

00:50:09:06

I like to sit and read here.

456

00:50:09:09

00:50:13:01

I'm going to go back to my wife.

She's waiting for me.

457

00:50:13:04

00:50:18:06

I understand. You're very nice

to your wife. You're a good man.

458

00:50:18:09

00:50:23:15

- It's nice of you to say that.

- I've seen how kind you are to her.

459

00:50:23:18

00:50:26:21

It's beautiful to see.

460

00:50:26:24

00:50:30:23

Luckily there are others

who can keep you company.

461

00:50:31:01

00:50:37:07

I'm not at all lonely. I read a lot.

Don't worry. I'm not lonely.

462

00:50:37:10

00:50:39:23

Oh no.

463

00:50:47:23

00:50:52:02

Hello, dear.

Isn't it nice to see me?

464

00:50:52:05

00:50:55:23

I'm sure she thinks so.

465

00:50:56:01

00:50:59:09

We'll sit you down over here, Vibeke.

Come with me.

466

00:50:59:12

00:51:02:10

What a lovely outfit she's wearing.

467

00:51:03:05

00:51:08:18

What a lovely outfit. You aren't stingy

with clothes for your dear wife.

468

00:51:08:21

00:51:10:24

No.

469

00:51:12:10

00:51:15:15

I must say, I'm quite happy

with my own husband.

470

00:51:15:18

00:51:17:21

Sit next to Torkild.

471

00:51:17:24

00:51:23:17

Queen Margrethe turns 80 today.

Such a grand birthday.

472

00:51:25:17

00:51:28:19

- Would you like strawberries on it?

- Yes, please.

473

00:51:28:22

00:51:31:11

- What's this?

- Cake.

474

00:51:34:13

00:51:39:21

Here you are, dear.

I'll feed you.

475

00:51:39:24

00:51:41:11

There you go.

476

00:51:44:17

00:51:49:03

Let's raise our glasses in honour -

477

00:51:49:06

00:51:53:21

- of our dear queen's 80th birthday.

478

00:51:53:24

00:51:57:02

Cheers. Congratulations.

479

00:51:57:05

00:52:03:12

- I can't ...

- Just take the damn glass!

480

00:52:04:19

00:52:08:09

- Here you go, Vibeke.

- Cheers.

481

00:52:08:12

00:52:11:08

Cheers, everyone. Isn't this nice?

482

00:52:11:11

00:52:16:01

Won't you congratulate our queen?

483

00:52:18:20

00:52:21:03

No, no, damn it!

484

00:52:21:06

00:52:25:02

- What the hell is going on?

- It's just music.

485

00:52:25:05

00:52:28:05

- I won't stand for it!

- Come with me.

486

00:52:28:08

00:52:32:16

- I'm going to smash it!

- No, it's such a good loudspeaker.

487

00:52:32:19

00:52:36:04

Let's go outside.

488

00:52:36:07

00:52:39:10

Get out of the way, Trolle.

489

00:52:39:13

00:52:43:14

Let's get some air.

It was rather loud, wasn't it?

490

00:52:43:17

00:52:47:17

It was intolerable.

You can't do that to people.

491

00:52:47:20

00:52:52:11

I understand.

I got quite a shock, too.

492

00:52:52:14

00:52:56:16

We'll have to bear that in mind

next time we play music.

493

00:52:56:19

00:53:02:23

- It's not nice for sensitive ears.

- But who on earth did it?

494

00:53:03:01

00:53:08:20

Well, we just wanted to celebrate

the queen's birthday ...

495

00:53:24:01

00:53:28:15

- Let's start out with Torkild.

- His general state.

496

00:53:30:09

00:53:36:08

He's really taken ownership.

He thinks it's his house.

497

00:53:36:11

00:53:38:17

We're all visitors at his house.

498

00:53:38:20

00:53:43:03

And do we have a handle on it?

Are the windows shut?

499

00:53:43:06

00:53:47:09

He's a father figure.

A soft father.

500

00:53:47:12

00:53:53:02

With these explosions of frustration

now and then.

501

00:53:53:05

00:53:58:02

He needs one thing at a time.

It has to be simpler than you'd think.

502

00:53:58:05

00:54:02:21

He does give you the impression

that he's more together than he is.

503

00:54:02:24

00:54:05:08

He has that air about him -

504

00:54:05:11

00:54:10:20

- and he's good at small talk

and keeping up appearances.

505

00:54:10:23

00:54:16:20

But just putting on his coat

is almost more than he can handle.

506

00:54:16:23

00:54:20:12

There can't be glasses

or anything in his pockets.

507

00:54:20:15

00:54:23:20

Otherwise it goes haywire.

508

00:54:23:23

00:54:28:06

If we keep it simple,

he doesn't have his angry outbursts.

509

00:54:28:09

00:54:33:14

He gets angry when he gets confused,

and that doesn't take much.

510

00:54:33:17

00:54:36:16

Or when there's unrest.

511

00:54:36:19

00:54:41:02

Be it other residents

who get restless or sudden sounds.

512

00:54:41:05

00:54:45:01

Remember how the music startled him?

513

00:54:45:04

00:54:49:01

It's an explosion inside his head.

514

00:54:49:04

00:54:54:13

It's very painful for him.

What was that?! What was that?!

515

00:54:54:16

00:54:59:04

I think his pulse races

and he has difficulty breathing.

516

00:55:27:16

00:55:32:19

Your glasses are bent out of shape.

See? They're bent out of shape.

517

00:55:40:24

00:55:44:21

Do you remember what happened to them?

518

00:55:46:24

00:55:50:18

"The incident occurred when Grete was

accompanied to the table."

519

00:55:50:21

00:55:57:19

"The gentleman in room 7

comes in from the garden -

520

00:55:57:22

00:56:01:21

- and is taking off his coat

in the hall."

521

00:56:02:23

00:56:07:11

"I leave to fetch the lady in room 4,

when I hear a scream."

522

00:56:07:14

00:56:12:15

"The gentleman in room 7

is looming over Grete -

523

00:56:12:18

00:56:16:07

- shouting:

'Don't mess up my house!'"

524

00:56:16:10

00:56:18:20

"Grete hides her face, screaming."

525

00:56:18:23

00:56:23:12

"The lady in room 1 says:

'He hit her.'"

526

00:56:23:15

00:56:29:07

"I get the gentleman away from Grete

and tell him to go into the garden."

527

00:56:29:10

00:56:32:18

"I stay with Grete and console her."

528

00:56:32:21

00:56:36:24

"After some time, she seems calm again."

529

00:56:37:02

00:56:40:24

"The gentleman in room 7

seems unperturbed -

530

00:56:41:02

00:56:44:21

- when he comes back in

from the garden."

531

00:56:50:13

00:56:56:00

- I can't imagine he slapped her.

- Me neither.

532

00:56:56:03

00:57:01:12

He is quick-tempered

and sometimes lashes out at the cat -

533

00:57:01:15

00:57:06:03

- and although it's forceful,

he always stops himself.

534

00:57:06:06

00:57:11:23

But if you lash out, it's easy to hit

her glasses and leave that mark.

535

00:57:12:01

00:57:17:09

Naturally, she's shocked.

How dare he?

536

00:57:21:16

00:57:26:24

It's so far out.

I don't understand how it could happen.

537

00:57:27:02

00:57:30:02

- No.

- I don't get it.

538

00:57:30:05

00:57:34:22

But it's because she leaves

the living room.

539

00:57:39:00

00:57:45:20

It's such a shame.

Such an unfortunate incident.

540

00:57:45:23

00:57:51:07

It's not something that happens out

of the blue. You usually see it coming.

541

00:57:51:10

00:57:54:13

And that's when we must give him

some time and suggest -

542

00:57:54:16

00:57:58:19

- that we go look at the daffodils,

the field or the windmill.

543

00:57:58:22

00:58:02:18

All the things

that make him feel in control.

544

00:58:03:14

00:58:04:22

Yes.

545

00:58:06:06

00:58:10:01

We have to help each other.

546

00:58:10:04

00:58:15:14

The staff must understand

that they can't leave the living room.

547

00:58:15:17

00:58:21:23

It's a lack of experience

in our working structure.

548

00:58:22:22

00:58:29:14

- It's something we need to look into.

- Exactly. Yes.

549

00:58:46:20

00:58:52:22

Grete, Joakim is over there.

Our doctor, look.

550

00:58:53:00

00:58:55:15

- This is Joakim.

- Hi, Grete.

551

00:58:56:13

00:58:59:13

I'm here to look at your nose.

552

00:59:02:21

00:59:05:11

That's right.

553

00:59:05:14

00:59:10:11

- Gorgeous.

- Yes, he's gorgeous. I know.

554

00:59:10:14

00:59:14:22

Good, good.

Good man, man.

555

00:59:16:09

00:59:20:07

- You like to look at young men.

- Let's see if we can get you up.

556

00:59:20:10

00:59:23:14

Grete, will you lie down?

557

00:59:26:22

00:59:30:00

Grete, scoot in a bit.

558

00:59:31:16

00:59:34:19

- There you go.

- Let's have a look.

559

00:59:34:22

00:59:39:03

I need to look at your nose.

560

00:59:42:22

00:59:45:00

It looks fine.

561

00:59:46:09

00:59:51:01

- Bye, bye, Grete.

- He's all done now.

562

00:59:51:04

00:59:53:07

Oh dear.

563

00:59:54:07

00:59:59:13

Do you need to take a rest?

Everything will be okay.

564

00:59:59:16

01:00:04:02

- Would you like to stay in bed?

- I'd like that.

565

01:00:04:05

01:00:06:20

I'll get you a blanket, Grete.

566

01:00:54:04

01:00:56:19

- I don't want to ...

- Festive sound.

567

01:00:56:22

01:01:00:00

- I just don't want to startle Torkild.

- Exactly.

568

01:01:00:03

01:01:03:14

Let's move slowly,

so he isn't taken aback.

569

01:01:07:14

01:01:13:17

63 years ago,

a devoted couple got married.

570

01:01:13:20

01:01:17:09

- The two of you.

- Was it me and me?

571

01:01:17:12

01:01:21:24

- Congratulations on your anniversary.

- Thank you.

572

01:01:22:02

01:01:27:02

- Here you are.

- My goodness. Vibeke.

573

01:01:29:04

01:01:31:04

Feel it.

574

01:01:32:02

01:01:38:04

"Dear Dad and Mom."

Oh, it's from Michael and Birgitte.

575

01:01:38:07

01:01:42:17

"Congratulations on your

63rd wedding anniversary."

576

01:01:44:23

01:01:48:24

They're quite grown up.

577

01:01:49:02

01:01:54:00

"Your love has been

an inspiration to us -

578

01:01:54:03

01:01:59:08

- as has the way you always

encourage and support each other."

579

01:01:59:11

01:02:02:15

"We hope you have a wonderful day."

580

01:02:02:18

01:02:06:21

Well, that's up to all of you.

581

01:02:08:04

01:02:11:17

Do put your hearts into it.

582

01:02:11:20

01:02:17:16

They've been married 63 years,

this lovely couple over there.

583

01:02:17:19

01:02:22:23

They say we got married 63 years ago.

584

01:02:24:06

01:02:26:23

Where were you wed, Torkild?

585

01:02:29:00

01:02:33:08

- In Skørping Church. Isn't that right?

- Skørping?

586

01:02:33:11

01:02:39:15

- Had you practiced the wedding waltz?

- Yes, we could dance.

587

01:02:39:18

01:02:45:16

I don't remember ... Do you remember

if we danced the wedding waltz?

588

01:02:45:19

01:02:49:16

- Oh, look, she's spilling ...

- What?

589

01:02:54:12

01:02:57:04

Red, long-stemmed roses.

590

01:02:57:07

01:03:01:10

Did you smell the roses?

591

01:03:01:13

01:03:04:20

- No, but I'm sure they're nice.

- They smell lovely.

592

01:03:04:23

01:03:09:01

- Is it ... how ...

- Yes.

593

01:03:09:04

01:03:14:07

- Look, when do we get off?

- Whenever you want to. Now.

594

01:03:14:10

01:03:19:17

- Good. I'm off.

- Go out and get some air.

595

01:03:19:20

01:03:23:00

We've celebrated

your wedding anniversary.

596

01:03:23:03

01:03:27:12

- Is it our wedding anniversary?

- Yes, you and Vibeke. 63 years.

597

01:03:27:15

01:03:31:22

- Oh.

- Would you like to get some air?

598

01:03:32:20

01:03:36:21

- Oh, there's a dead dog.

- I hope not. That would make me sad.

599

01:03:36:24

01:03:39:14

No, it's not dead at all.

600

01:04:44:22

01:04:49:22

We've baked cinnamon rolls.

Because it's Inger's birthday.

601

01:04:50:00

01:04:53:20

We can't complain.

They spoil us here.

602

01:04:53:23

01:04:56:12

You'd think this was the D'Angleterre.

603

01:04:56:15

01:05:00:15

Well, isn't it?

I've thought that all along.

604

01:05:07:02

01:05:13:23

605

01:05:14:01

01:05:20:22

606

01:05:21:00

01:05:27:19

607

01:05:28:09

01:05:32:11

Congratulations!

It's your birthday.

608

01:05:35:06

01:05:38:09

- Thank you very much.

- You're welcome.

609

01:05:46:11

01:05:51:07

So a lady gets her hair washed.

610

01:05:51:10

01:05:55:07

Yes, a lady gets her hair washed.

And that's you.

611

01:06:01:19

01:06:07:02

- I'm going to rinse out the shampoo.

- That's fine.

612

01:06:07:05

01:06:13:19

Here we go, Inger. You'd better close

your eyes in case some water runs down.

613

01:06:22:13

01:06:26:20

Take my hand and stand up.

614

01:06:27:15

01:06:32:12

That's it. Now go over here

and grab the handle.

615

01:06:33:16

01:06:35:04

There.

616

01:06:35:07

01:06:38:10

You just need to ... There.

Now you can move closer.

617

01:06:40:19

01:06:43:12

I'll get you a towel.

618

01:06:47:00

01:06:50:14

Congratulations, beautiful woman.

619

01:06:50:17

01:06:52:15

Awesome woman.

620

01:06:54:24

01:07:00:17

- Let's talk about Inger.

- Physically, she's getting worse.

621

01:07:00:20

01:07:07:11

I bathed her this morning and

her basic skills are worse than ever.

622

01:07:07:14

01:07:12:06

- Has she got an appetite?

- Hardly ever.

623

01:07:12:09

01:07:15:19

It's hard to get any fluids into her.

624

01:07:15:22

01:07:19:11

She takes tiny sips.

625

01:07:19:14

01:07:23:11

If she holds the glass,

she puts it down.

626

01:07:23:14

01:07:29:07

She's lost all her drive.

She's never thirsty.

627

01:07:29:10

01:07:35:09

- She can't really do anything anymore.

- She doesn't want to press on.

628

01:07:36:09

01:07:37:20

She's full.

629

01:07:37:23

01:07:42:14

She's in a natural closure process.

630

01:07:42:17

01:07:48:19

We've talked to her family about

her state, and they are aware of it.

631

01:07:48:22

01:07:53:11

And just to fill you in,

they are serving cake today -

632

01:07:53:14

01:07:58:21

- and we've agreed to let them offer

her some cake but without berries.

633

01:07:58:24

01:08:05:10

If that's where she's at ...

It's her last birthday.

634

01:09:26:06

01:09:30:12

Is that you, kitty?

How nice to see you.

635

01:09:35:01

01:09:38:20

I've come to take in

the magnificent field -

636

01:09:38:23

01:09:44:14

- that lies between them and us.

637

01:09:46:14

01:09:50:02

Oh, what a lovely country.

638

01:09:50:05

01:09:54:01

My, how lovely.

639

01:09:55:17

01:09:59:19

Listen, kitty-kat,

you're not allowed up there.

640

01:09:59:22

01:10:02:16

That's very forbidden.

641

01:10:06:24

01:10:12:16

But you can't get back out now

because of those ...

642

01:10:17:17

01:10:22:07

That was a silly thing to do,

and I can't help you.

643

01:10:25:19

01:10:29:16

Do you want to go in or out?

644

01:10:29:19

01:10:33:03

Tell me what you want.

645

01:10:33:06

01:10:36:24

I liked what you did.

It was good.

646

01:10:37:18

01:10:40:04

- You have to lift it.

- What?

647

01:10:40:07

01:10:44:13

You have to lift it.

You can do it. I know.

648

01:10:44:16

01:10:47:19

- You're handy.

- I didn't break anything.

649

01:10:47:22

01:10:50:23

You really are quite handy.

650

01:10:51:01

01:10:52:14

Hello.

651

01:10:54:04

01:10:58:23

It's 5:30.

You shouldn't be out here.

652

01:10:59:01

01:11:05:11

- Shouldn't you be cooking dinner?

- According to my watch, it's 20 to 2.

653

01:11:05:14

01:11:09:16

I don't know which is right.

My watch says 20 to 2.

654

01:11:09:19

01:11:13:15

And I'm fine here.

Did you have afternoon coffee yet?

655

01:11:13:18

01:11:20:08

- My watch says 5:30 precisely.

- Did you have afternoon coffee?

656

01:11:20:11

01:11:23:01

- Did you have afternoon coffee?

- What?

657

01:11:23:04

01:11:29:00

Have you had afternoon coffee? We

always have that. It can't be 5:30 then.

658

01:11:29:03

01:11:34:15

- It's dinner time.

- Do you really think it's 5:30?

659

01:11:34:18

01:11:38:17

Yes, it's 5:30 without a doubt.

660

01:11:38:20

01:11:42:19

According to your watch.

Mine says 20 to 2.

661

01:11:42:22

01:11:45:15

2? You can't be serious!

662

01:11:45:18

01:11:50:15

Here, it says ... 5:30.

663

01:11:50:18

01:11:53:18

Well, go inside

and have a look at the clock.

664

01:11:53:21

01:11:57:00

No, I'm looking at this watch.

665

01:11:57:03

01:11:59:22

And you have blind faith in it?

666

01:12:00:00

01:12:03:12

I don't have blind faith

in what it says in the paper.

667

01:12:03:15

01:12:07:01

Mind your own business

and I'll mind mine.

668

01:12:07:04

01:12:11:16

- All right.

- Just leave him be.

669

01:12:11:19

01:12:18:09

He's certain that he's right.

I think he's a little bit senile.

670

01:12:18:12

01:12:23:23

But he's a nice man.

That's the main thing.

671

01:12:38:03

01:12:39:18

Yes ...

672

01:12:58:12

01:13:02:10

And slowly down and forward.

673

01:13:05:16

01:13:10:24

And one ... two ... three.

674

01:13:11:18

01:13:16:21

One ... two ... three ...

675

01:13:18:07

01:13:21:08

... four ... five.

676

01:13:24:06

01:13:29:01

- Would you like another sip?

- Thank you.

677

01:13:29:04

01:13:31:19

I'll help you.

678

01:14:01:08

01:14:04:08

- Are you okay?

- Yes.

679

01:14:16:14

01:14:21:05

- We don't want you to get cold.

- Oh, I feel so good.

680

01:14:21:08

01:14:23:01

- I really do.

- Good.

681

01:14:23:04

01:14:28:12

- Dorte's got the troops under control?

- Of course.

682

01:14:28:15

01:14:31:19

It seems so? Are they all asleep?

683

01:14:31:22

01:14:35:16

They're all asleep. They're snoring.

684

01:14:35:19

01:14:39:19

Mona, we're just talking about Inger.

685

01:14:39:22

01:14:44:23

We've had a long run-up to

the natural process that she's in now.

686

01:14:45:01

01:14:49:20

A process I'd call "full of days", when

you don't really want to go on living.

687

01:14:49:23

01:14:54:24

You feel you've been here long enough.

We feel she's in that process.

688

01:14:55:02

01:14:59:14

We've felt it for quite some time,

but we wanted to be sure.

689

01:14:59:17

01:15:05:14

We've fed her and done everything

to stimulate and train her.

690

01:15:05:17

01:15:09:00

Now we've gradually phased out

all these activities -

691

01:15:09:03

01:15:14:21

- and it seems she's in a state now

that she finds more pleasant.

692

01:15:14:24

01:15:19:06

She doesn't have to perform as much.

Also when it comes to food.

693

01:15:19:09

01:15:23:23

I want us to respect that

when she doesn't show an interest -

694

01:15:24:01

01:15:29:15

- there's no need for us to feed her.

She'll feel obliged to eat to please us.

695

01:15:29:18

01:15:35:11

She's the type of person

who's eager to please everyone.

696

01:15:35:14

01:15:38:14

It's going to be hard for me -

697

01:15:38:17

01:15:44:02

- to put the food in front of her

and not feed her.

698

01:15:44:05

01:15:46:13

She'll eat if she wants to.

699

01:15:46:16

01:15:52:00

She has a will of her own.

700

01:15:52:03

01:15:55:12

She still has that.

That's what I want us to respect.

701

01:15:57:07

01:16:01:06

Are you afraid that deep inside

she wants you to help her?

702

01:16:01:24

01:16:03:24

No ...

703

01:16:04:02

01:16:08:07

But I don't want

to help people to die.

704

01:16:08:10

01:16:09:17

No.

705

01:16:11:07

01:16:13:08

No.

706

01:16:14:05

01:16:20:24

I don't know how conscious she is -

707

01:16:21:02

01:16:25:01

- about eating or not eating.

708

01:16:25:04

01:16:28:20

We can only make an assessment.

We can't be sure -

709

01:16:28:23

01:16:32:24

- but it's an assessment

based on the past three to four months.

710

01:16:33:02

01:16:38:06

We have to trust

our professional assessment.

711

01:16:38:09

01:16:41:24

That we're helping her to die is -

712

01:16:42:02

01:16:46:08

- quite a dramatic way of putting it.

713

01:16:47:06

01:16:52:01

- I'm very fond of her, so it's hard.

- I understand perfectly.

714

01:16:52:04

01:16:58:19

But you're not giving up.

It's a way of caring for her to say -

715

01:16:58:22

01:17:04:05

- that she's allowed to choose

her own path even though it is hard.

716

01:17:04:08

01:17:06:13

And it is hard.

717

01:17:07:09

01:17:12:02

When our residents die,

they haven't eaten for a while -

718

01:17:12:05

01:17:15:14

- because they don't need to

because they're dying.

719

01:17:15:17

01:17:22:00

Personally and professionally,

we have to realize -

720

01:17:22:03

01:17:26:20

- that Inger is dying. She is dying.

She's at the last stage of life.

721

01:17:26:23

01:17:29:09

Yes.

722

01:17:31:23

01:17:33:16

Yes.

723

01:17:34:21

01:17:36:22

There.

724

01:17:37:19

01:17:41:13

Perhaps a little more. There.

725

01:17:41:16

01:17:43:19

There.

726

01:17:51:22

01:17:56:02

- You're awake. That's nice.

- Yes.

727

01:18:01:02

01:18:04:02

- Are you thirsty?

- No.

728

01:18:04:22

01:18:08:08

Would you like a little

sparkling water in your mouth?

729

01:18:08:11

01:18:11:08

- Yes.

- Okay. We'll give you some.

730

01:18:23:02

01:18:25:08

Right, Inger.

731

01:18:27:22

01:18:33:06

I've put some sparkling water on this.

Would you like to feel it in your mouth?

732

01:18:44:21

01:18:50:13

This way, this way...

733

01:18:50:16

01:18:55:13

This way, this way ...

734

01:18:58:05

01:19:03:02

This way, this way ...

735

01:19:11:01

01:19:13:17

And this one here ...

736

01:19:42:20

01:19:45:24

Yes. How are things?

737

01:19:46:02

01:19:52:02

She's had a very peaceful course.

738

01:19:53:07

01:19:58:04

She hasn't taken any fluids

for three days.

739

01:19:59:09