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July 14, 1997: It has been

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nearly seven years now since I started this
film in the village of Nitinaht Lake, home of

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the Ditidaht First Nation. Could have been any community
in this country it could have been

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your community in this
particular one I learned one day

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a friend of mine, Carl
Edgar, had been charged

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and found guilty of sexually
abusing his granddaughter.

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When I met with the family
well car was in detention I

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realized that nobody in the village was
talking to them nor day to anybody.

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As so silent community
and to this silence like

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broken glass shattering the emptiness
I listened to a victim\'s poem.

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Matter where what I\'m doing here always there
scan Always on my mind I thought of you as

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my guide my heart and
soul my encouragement and

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once though but you told my
mind you hurt me he left me

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alone in the dark crying lonely and

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abused and cared for you you cared
for me but you went ahead and

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took advantage of me I was
a young child you an adult

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supposed to be in your right mind I
looked up to you most of the time but

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you didn\'t stop to think of how much it
hurt and how much pain there was for

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me and only me no I couldn\'t handle it

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anymore I opened up and let out most of

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the pain but that piece of pain is still
there for me from you and it will

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never leave everytime I see
every time I see him I

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get scared and I look back
and I think of what he

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did and think how could you
have done something like

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that I can be able to say yeah I forgive you
but deep down I know never forgiven him.

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Life for someone like

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oh Native people have a place to call home

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which means they\'re aboriginal
territory which in curls

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cases is a DTD or homeland here and
net-net Lake I mean I think it\'s

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hard for Native person to leave his homeland
and stay away the way Carl has left here

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I think the only unfortunate
thing about this

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is I guess he\'s granddaughter
Bonnie\'s return and probably leave

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and I guess the victim in

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that case these are one-node suffers
till I guess a lifetime unless the

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hurt that she has received
and within her from

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her immediate family your grandfather
and this part of the thing I

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think that community is going to be
sort of mixed feelings about when he

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comes back and that she

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might leave and she might be
made felt their cheese a guilty

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one that she has done
something wrong the community

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and he asked him as to

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make sure that She understands that she
has done nothing wrong and she has

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no reason Khalifa or community

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desktop directory to cause the Hadoop.

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After talking with cheap
Jack Thompson and his wife.

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It was agreed to have a small group of

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residents meet with some
members of the Cadbury family

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and also to film the meeting in showing this
filming to other members of the community.

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I thought that the wall of
silence could be breached.

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But at the same time I wasn\'t
really sure as to where this would

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lead onshore and also worried thinking of

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Bonnie flower dukha club
dock And we mustn\'t

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mustn\'t forget Muslin forget her because I

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think that she has a lifetime
sentence on her she can never forget

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what happened this is where we have to look
at it when Carl returns to the community

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how we have to deal with the situation how
people really feel or I think life was gone

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and I wish you guys would share some of

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your thoughts with him for For
the whole community as a whole

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it was kinda hard for us to deal with
it because we didn\'t know car for

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many years and then on
the other hand we had to

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feel for the child to

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tremendous experience shoe and through
I speak now there\'s a health worker.

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Because I have to think about her Northern
unpack ditiezhan her her young life at

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such a young age I know

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a lot say that she\'ll get
over it but many women have

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we heard about the talk about
that they still feel the pain.

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Before they had to go through and if
we\'re honest and work we\'re saying in

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this community of Barb getting
together and hearing together

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then we probably will overcome I

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guess we can say that car oil well forget
about all these things it\'s going to

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be there for the rest of his life and it
is tough to work at it I guess getting

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belong together the way we were
before Islam so we know that

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that child will be within
the circle of forgiveness.

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May be in the same unit on

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the sea I haven\'t talked to

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my dad told me to tell people not to be.

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Don\'t hold back your words what you have to
say what do you think And he said he can

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He\'s been in therapy and teach them how to
talk and about to deal with people that

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don\'t like what he\'s
wanting what he\'s done and

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they\'ll never said there are people
some people will never forgive

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me and some people will Louis I don\'t

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we\'re telling them how to deal with it

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is it\'s going to be hard for

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people I didn\'t even know where to start

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And start with my mom I told her.

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Well I have to do is ask

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hard when the time came
my chickened out and I

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couldn\'t do it good and ask people

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As to the community coming closer
together or thinker communities

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small enough that they are going
to come together eventually

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that is my greatest goal I think does get

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people together as he went
along time ago talking to

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each other laugh annoyed with each
other and put into past behind

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us I think there\'s lots of

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room for forgiveness in the D
T.people You\'ve shown it in the past.

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I am confident they\'re really
short one Carl\'s return

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what Adobe.

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When he comes back

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As I have I have lot of grandchildren.

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In court today he was told to be
allowed to our children around him.

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Set time time when the
time comes time will tell

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As for Bonnie I keep telling her.

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Not to blame her herself she or she\'s
just a child she doesn\'t know.

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Almost entire idea

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estimate the time she came to me and
said A field the p both blaming me for

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everything she said and I just
tell her over and over and it

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wasn\'t your fault because never hurtful.

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When Carl is going to cons link I took
him to an anathema and Victoria and

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all the told him was I
mean what they told him

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once There\'s children still
come in coming into your house.

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Again keep my grandchildren uh we.

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I\'ll never be able to do that and
he message is squared and children.

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Your damn I go one or two of them say you
along Don\'t leave him over there dizzy.

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To say well I\'m

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the oldest boy and their family.

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Since he\'s been gone I just keep
doing what he taught me work

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and trade dry teach

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people try try be night two people
don\'t argue with them don\'t go.

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Don\'t call him down

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This is top of my head up high time

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because that\'s what I was taught

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and indeed can wait for him to come home.

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Z can\'t live anywhere else I don\'t

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think and do more

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for him sees these not
very healthy Anymore.

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From his younger days of drinking
and everything Rune these body.

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He was there for us and now
we\'ll be here for him.

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Simple it will work out at

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this meeting it was suggested
that the camera could be used

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within the community as part of
the healing process and that

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they would decide later wetter a film
should be made and shown outside of

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the community With this in mind I

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went to meet with Bonnie\'s
mater Linda now living

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away from the community to
show her dispersed filming.

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I wanted to ask her to share with
us the feelings of a mater caught

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between her father as an offender
and her daughter as a victim.

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I. It\'s like when I was watching
that film was just like

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I dislike I got punched in the stomach
or something in all of this relief

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came out of me to see how

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much they really care And
it must be hard for them to

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I can understand my brothers
talking about my dad

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mostly because they never grew
up with Bonnie they never were

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around her all the time as
much as they were around

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my father and the things
that he taught them.

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I\'d like to share a bit of my anger.

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I just said that I was angry I was
angry because I2 looked up to

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my dad I admired him why respected

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him I recognized and acknowledged
what what he had to say to

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me and I was angry because he it seems
all the mistakes that I\'ve done to him

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this one mistake that he\'s done to me it

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is hard to forgive but in
order for me to survive I

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have to forgive him I would like

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to have my father come up to me

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and say Can you forgive me
for hurting your daughter.

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Can you forgive me for what I\'ve

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done because Bonnie is a part
of me it\'s like he\'s done it to

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me how can he do that to

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me after everything you\'ve showed
me it taught me how could you

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After all the love that you
showed me you were there for me

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and no you do this to

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me and I am so glad.

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Of where I am today in my life
because I could turn around in

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an revenge and get even And I know if I was

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still practicing alcohol I would\'ve done that
I would have never looked back I would have

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never wanted to have a father who does that
but I am so glad I am where I am today

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to come this far and still say
that I\'ve loved my father

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because I do Well

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he seeks

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E. Take me to start

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They tell me when I go to
therapy that I have to remember

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everything from when I was
a child but Cano y if I

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went through a number of possible to

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forget the easiest thing to

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do is to forget something that you don\'t
wanna remember we don\'t want to remember it

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dumpling is the easiest
thing is to forget about

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it a lot of you people Look at me

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you don\'t know what you don\'t
know what Colonel hello I\'ve been

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through on our third junior role

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I stayed out of school at year because

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of What happened to me as a kid at
the residential school you guys.

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Notice I didn\'t tell
nobody I forgot all about

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it until I started to go into therapy dark.

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They start digging into my mind Kellen may to
bring it out everything that happened to me

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you say you can\'t forget
and yet I forgot until

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just this past year I
started thinking about it

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again

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I wasn\'t molested

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as a kid and I forgot about

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it I didn\'t know

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a word of English when I went to

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school and that\'s where it started for
five bloody year there wouldn\'t cubed.

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Not just by one by three male supervisor
dead to residential school portal Bernie.

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And buy to Indian voice One of them
went through the prison system.

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Now he\'s a cripple what am I going
to do our Daron lay charges on him

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to put him through the turmoil
and and misery and hell.

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Again. Oh hell I went through
at that place you have

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to do do do

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do He would do.

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Boy. Do report done by

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overcharging character who does a backstop.

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At Car Club book whose charge IR but fantasy
Dekelea carry our country who are fly

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you know

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after greatly breakthrough
which he\'ll NOR gate

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I\'m willing to go through that
healing process you call.

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But first you gotta confess your
fault too or things that you\'d done.

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I\'ve done that for

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the whole body is eight
You can\'t go T01 sore.

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You gotta yield a whole body and
in order to yield a whole lotta

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you gotta dig a hole is
ease you can\'t go till

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one part of the if you
confess your fault one to

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another Jesus Christ is
faithful and just to forgive

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you especially me even now in this place.

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Four o\'clock five o\'clock every
morning I\'m up there on my knees.

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Asking them to forgive me I feel very
confident in my heart and my mind my soul.

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T has. Whether there are

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people accept me back home or not
and don\'t make no difference to

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me when I see my wife talk and I\'m like you
want to have our grandchildren. To her.

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I\'m not a judge and I\'m not
going to judge anybody.

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You\'re right Carl where do we start how
do we begin Maybe we\'re we\'re we\'re

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all afraid I\'m afraid
to start and to admit.

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Within myself what I did wrong to somebody

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else and I think we\'re all afraid
to admit that we\'re a bit proud.

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One thing and my case some I\'m

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an arrogant person I\'m afraid to
admit that I\'m wrong sometimes

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you\'re going to understand
why you\'re angry some people

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don\'t want you here because people

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are afraid I\'m afraid

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but I have the ability
to forgive I don\'t have

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the ability to forget I don\'t know if I
can believe you know this is a beginning.

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There\'s dialogue back and forth with
the cameras because a beginning.

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But as the real thing that\'s
going to happen when you come

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to this village and you sit
across from the table or

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crossing them room for me and it\'s the
way you and I start talking together

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face-to-face Talk about your
you are and I have problems.

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Whatever they are we can put them on

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a table and say these are the
problems I have with you Mr.

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Edgar and you say the same thing to me and
that\'s when we can start healing together.

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Me and your family have lot of things
to talk about and I am prepared to do

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that and yours is

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not the only one that\'s up Carl and there\'s
more people who are going to be charged.

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More people close to me my close relatives

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relatives and I said this
before and I\'ll say it

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again No matter who is being

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charged with this abuse stuff I\'m still
gonna talk the same way it\'s still wrong.

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No matter who doesn\'t even have my
brother\'s charged or one of my brothers.

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It\'s still wrong and they must pay
some price for their for what they

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did because in my mind you can give
back what you take from innocent.

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Beautiful. Girls or boys are a lot
of you may be wondering why I\'m here

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today Because I haven\'t been a part of
your meetings before on this one subject

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and I believe that I avoided these
meetings because I was angry too or

00:31:20.600 --> 00:31:26.808
who\'s hurting and I

00:31:26.809 --> 00:31:28.908
didn\'t know how to handle
it I didn\'t know how to

00:31:28.909 --> 00:31:32.340
approach people that I thought that cared.

00:31:34.090 --> 00:31:39.709
I never wanted to I found myself.

00:31:39.710 --> 00:31:44.928
Trying to run away from the
problem And don\'t forget that it

00:31:44.929 --> 00:31:46.529
happened

00:31:55.840 --> 00:31:57.499
we all have

00:31:57.500 --> 00:32:05.500
a choice in life of what do we want to do I

00:32:07.340 --> 00:32:15.059
made a choice to sober up and face
my problems head on and I\'ve been

00:32:16.270 --> 00:32:21.168
wanting to quit a lot of times because
I hated the pain and the misery and

00:32:21.169 --> 00:32:27.019
the things that came back to me I

00:32:27.020 --> 00:32:34.579
started drinking when I was 12
years old it took me three years

00:32:34.580 --> 00:32:42.580
to overcome that grabbing that bottle.

00:32:43.069 --> 00:32:47.460
Because I didn\'t want to face
the pain that I went through.

00:32:48.190 --> 00:32:53.238
Try and pull that person out
of the low self-esteem that

00:32:53.239 --> 00:32:57.979
they are not just Bonnie but a lot
of other victims that I that I

00:32:57.980 --> 00:33:05.980
know and myself for one The feelings that

00:33:07.940 --> 00:33:08.660
I\'ve kept

00:33:08.661 --> 00:33:10.469
inside

00:33:17.770 --> 00:33:19.098
right

00:33:19.099 --> 00:33:22.579
I wouldn\'t want them to be kept
there all the time I would like

00:33:22.580 --> 00:33:26.089
to sit down with you in your
home and be able to come

00:33:26.090 --> 00:33:30.078
down here and feel that I\'m part
of you because I am part of

00:33:30.079 --> 00:33:38.079
you I really believe

00:33:38.660 --> 00:33:42.499
we need to put everything
down all the guards

00:33:42.500 --> 00:33:47.733
down And get on with discussing what\'s
really bothering everybody in his village.

00:33:47.734 --> 00:33:50.970
Because we have serious problems

00:33:50.980 --> 00:33:56.598
really serious problem not only sexual
abuse a lot of people have never

00:33:56.599 --> 00:33:59.148
communicated to each other not

00:33:59.149 --> 00:34:04.624
because they didn\'t want to lose because
somebody else in the family said you

00:34:04.625 --> 00:34:09.349
can\'t you can\'t communicate
with that person

00:34:09.350 --> 00:34:14.553
because he is such and such a person
and we don\'t do that we leave them out

00:34:14.554 --> 00:34:16.939
we don\'t talk to them because
they are that\'s who they

00:34:16.940 --> 00:34:20.328
are because you and I both
know there\'s a lot of us in

00:34:20.329 --> 00:34:24.329
his village who are closely
related and we don\'t talk

00:34:26.640 --> 00:34:34.640
Why Karo mentions healing.

00:34:36.055 --> 00:34:40.969
Right when he says that you
can\'t feel once older.

00:34:41.160 --> 00:34:46.658
One thing I disagree with
Carl on this he says You

00:34:46.659 --> 00:34:51.549
can try forget it leave it back there if it

00:34:51.550 --> 00:34:59.550
happened 20-30 years ago and I tried
to forget it but this is also

00:35:01.180 --> 00:35:09.180
my home to come home And all
the memories come back to me

00:35:11.254 --> 00:35:15.553
I can\'t be happy here unless
the problems around here are

00:35:15.554 --> 00:35:17.240
results

00:35:24.500 --> 00:35:26.583
dimensions

00:35:26.584 --> 00:35:27.648
Charlie mentioned

00:35:27.649 --> 00:35:35.649
it\'s hard to admit to a mistake that
you\'ve don\'t stain with the victims.

00:35:35.780 --> 00:35:41.820
It\'s hard to come up here and look at
you and tell you if I was a victim.

00:35:45.250 --> 00:35:50.929
So how do we deal with it Like

00:35:50.930 --> 00:35:55.879
the words that I\'m hearing here
that we should be one but I\'ve

00:35:55.880 --> 00:36:00.828
heard that for five years
and I keep hearing let\'s

00:36:00.829 --> 00:36:06.839
be one and we walk out that door
and we turn our backs again

00:36:19.780 --> 00:36:24.529
and the only way I believe this place
will ever heal is if everything\'s on

00:36:24.530 --> 00:36:32.530
the table quit hiding behind the
doors But those wounds heal.

00:36:39.610 --> 00:36:45.229
I\'m afraid to even have my
daughter here to let her run

00:36:45.230 --> 00:36:53.189
around b3 g2 is already a victim.

00:36:54.490 --> 00:37:00.720
That\'s what made me really come
out and say hey this is stop.

00:37:04.210 --> 00:37:08.519
My little girl is only five years old.

00:37:09.790 --> 00:37:14.129
She still asks me about her abuser

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:28.629
We all as a community can deal
with our problems maybe we

00:37:28.630 --> 00:37:36.630
can all love one another Thank you

00:38:08.440 --> 00:38:14.179
I see my family talking about
dead and their community

00:38:14.180 --> 00:38:19.038
talking about their but
what about Bonnie I just

00:38:19.039 --> 00:38:27.039
wanna say that it\'s about time that if
she\'s willing let\'s see hear her side of

00:38:28.999 --> 00:38:33.379
the story and what she went through how she

00:38:33.380 --> 00:38:38.449
feels about him coming home to
a place where she wants to be

00:38:38.450 --> 00:38:43.429
two Let\'s

00:38:43.430 --> 00:38:49.849
hear her cry

00:38:49.850 --> 00:38:54.109
to let\'s hear what she has to

00:38:54.110 --> 00:38:59.928
sit and not saying

00:38:59.929 --> 00:39:06.570
enough about dead but it\'s only
fair that we listened to her too.

00:39:07.960 --> 00:39:14.329
She\'s human. She likes

00:39:14.330 --> 00:39:19.530
to feel welcome to the same way that
you talked about welcoming my dad home

00:39:23.880 --> 00:39:28.148
Do you think sometimes
about how it could be in

00:39:28.149 --> 00:39:32.768
the future and never thought
about the feature I would

00:39:32.769 --> 00:39:34.479
just turn about killing

00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:42.480
myself thinking how could he do this to
me how can you make my life so miserable.

00:39:49.500 --> 00:39:53.859
I was thought about killing myself
and leaving a note saying it was

00:39:53.860 --> 00:40:01.399
his fault and you see you know if he was
truthful enough to tell everybody what he did

00:40:13.290 --> 00:40:17.900
But I thought I had a
lot to look forward to

00:40:39.240 --> 00:40:47.240
would you like to go back to
to know I already tried gone

00:40:50.125 --> 00:40:58.125
there and the community found out they

00:41:00.199 --> 00:41:01.729
said they should try and change

00:41:01.730 --> 00:41:09.730
things but they never did anything
and went back there because I

00:41:09.980 --> 00:41:14.379
missed my culture missed being around on

00:41:14.380 --> 00:41:19.459
my friends that I grew up with but
when I went back there and there

00:41:19.460 --> 00:41:24.360
was nothing for me there was
no culture there was no friend

00:41:28.330 --> 00:41:36.330
helped that A lot of other people a
lot of other girls and boys that

00:41:39.229 --> 00:41:40.699
have been abused would open

00:41:40.700 --> 00:41:48.700
up because it does hurt just to
carry it around all the time it\'s

00:41:49.379 --> 00:41:51.228
just going to all pile up

00:41:51.229 --> 00:41:57.528
and when I first

00:41:57.529 --> 00:42:03.739
told my mom I really my
grandmother Christine.

00:42:03.740 --> 00:42:10.379
She asked me what what
should we do she said

00:42:14.760 --> 00:42:19.448
That made me feel even
more scared made me feel

00:42:19.449 --> 00:42:24.290
like she was a kid like me to
she didn\'t know what to do

00:42:30.330 --> 00:42:34.388
when we feel like oh why did I

00:42:34.389 --> 00:42:38.078
tell her she\'s not going to help me
she doesn\'t know anything either just

00:42:38.079 --> 00:42:44.319
like me I wasn\'t afraid that if I tell
somebody that they weren\'t going to believe

00:42:44.320 --> 00:42:45.620
me

00:42:53.430 --> 00:42:54.938
I mean like

00:42:54.939 --> 00:43:00.723
why wouldn\'t anybody believe
Someone who tells him that.

00:43:00.724 --> 00:43:04.169
Why would they tell a lie like that

00:43:16.960 --> 00:43:19.459
you\'re never shared any of this with

00:43:19.460 --> 00:43:26.299
your friends know that they\'re not
the kind of people who who can

00:43:26.300 --> 00:43:29.119
sit down and talk I guess
they just want to be out

00:43:29.120 --> 00:43:35.849
all the time then no this has happened
to me but they never talk about it

00:43:46.630 --> 00:43:53.958
Doesn\'t matter how old you are kinda clothes
you wear what size shoes you take how you

00:43:53.959 --> 00:44:00.753
look and it\'s that year there you\'re human.

00:44:00.754 --> 00:44:05.700
You\'re alive. So you have feelings

00:44:30.520 --> 00:44:38.520
I\'m glad somebody noticed that they wanted
to hear from me to just the offender

00:44:44.770 --> 00:44:49.219
nobody mentioned anything I
wasn\'t going to say anything I

00:44:49.220 --> 00:44:52.669
wasn\'t gonna say what about
me was just going to let

00:44:52.670 --> 00:44:57.783
them realize it in a
future that they didn\'t

00:44:57.784 --> 00:45:00.089
help me

00:45:05.980 --> 00:45:13.980
Yeah yeah

00:45:33.610 --> 00:45:36.240
yeah

00:45:43.330 --> 00:45:45.630
yeah

00:45:57.400 --> 00:46:01.499
Yeah he.

00:46:07.660 --> 00:46:14.790
Well I\'m back home after
ten months of absence.

00:46:16.210 --> 00:46:21.499
I have some rejections
from some people but they

00:46:21.500 --> 00:46:26.268
don\'t I noticed it but I don\'t know
if they know what they\'re doing.

00:46:26.269 --> 00:46:30.049
I noticed that When I know.

00:46:30.050 --> 00:46:38.050
I could see it on their faces when they
talk to me your eyes can\'t meet my eyes.

00:46:40.120 --> 00:46:46.294
Whether I could got all my
failures is out and open.

00:46:46.295 --> 00:46:53.508
I\'ve got nothing to hide it and
I can tell people exactly how

00:46:53.509 --> 00:47:01.509
I am now I know it\'s gonna
take a long time to heal.

00:47:03.070 --> 00:47:07.549
And there\'s lot of things
that\'s come out even yesterday.

00:47:07.550 --> 00:47:11.468
Things came out by a pump One or two of

00:47:11.469 --> 00:47:17.109
my members of my family to me and
said something to me that really hurt

00:47:17.110 --> 00:47:21.308
me but I didn\'t know any
other way other way to

00:47:21.309 --> 00:47:27.248
do to bring up my kids
the way I brought him up

00:47:27.249 --> 00:47:33.038
because I was brought up that way you

00:47:33.039 --> 00:47:39.443
still have this angry
with you I guess I have.

00:47:39.444 --> 00:47:42.938
Yeah I have a lot of anger.

00:47:42.939 --> 00:47:49.640
Not only for or

00:47:50.400 --> 00:47:55.389
what happened to me I have anger

00:47:55.390 --> 00:48:00.469
for my weakness I\'m angry at
myself because of being a leak.

00:48:04.440 --> 00:48:12.440
And I can\'t. Before like you years back I
had when I get that desire to have sex.

00:48:15.264 --> 00:48:17.739
I couldn\'t control it I you had to have

00:48:17.740 --> 00:48:25.340
it but I\'ve been Purina
bought it for over a year.

00:48:25.770 --> 00:48:30.740
Not so much now like it used to be

00:48:36.160 --> 00:48:39.820
The code

00:48:42.790 --> 00:48:49.040
to be

00:48:49.810 --> 00:48:54.313
able to

00:48:54.314 --> 00:49:02.314
pay the cost

00:49:17.050 --> 00:49:19.499
Sometimes

00:49:27.700 --> 00:49:30.450
as

00:49:43.780 --> 00:49:51.780
I became an alcoholic for many years because
of the hurt and the cuts inside of me

00:49:52.909 --> 00:49:57.858
I grew up without I had a lot
of resentment to because I had

00:49:57.859 --> 00:50:03.769
no father no mother I hated Mother\'s Day.

00:50:03.770 --> 00:50:07.849
I hated fathers David guys I
had nobody to give a card

00:50:07.850 --> 00:50:13.504
to lowest kinda hurts

00:50:13.505 --> 00:50:19.054
piled up within my life nobody
understood Y0 is an alcoholic.

00:50:19.055 --> 00:50:23.719
Nobody could figure out why
I drank so much they never

00:50:23.720 --> 00:50:28.864
looked inside ME they never
saw the missing parts.

00:50:28.865 --> 00:50:36.865
Thank you I\'ll like cuts and wounds there
which were in there for many years my genome.

00:50:38.629 --> 00:50:43.549
Even the charge is AB can be a
fury A couple years back or

00:50:43.550 --> 00:50:48.633
so troubled me what\'s troubled me

00:50:48.634 --> 00:50:53.628
I drank that much harder when I gave

00:50:53.629 --> 00:50:58.998
my life to God and say Lord I
don\'t know what to do either

00:50:58.999 --> 00:51:02.148
no it\'s going to become of me I leave it to

00:51:02.149 --> 00:51:08.058
you you look accurate all
I ask is nobody gets hurt

00:51:08.059 --> 00:51:13.219
spits nobody get really
hurt in that courtroom

00:51:13.220 --> 00:51:21.220
my family and another reality they couldn\'t
talk to me now more Libya Tunisia.

00:51:21.410 --> 00:51:29.410
I wouldn\'t listen How I heard too
many of them but you know God gave.

00:51:31.085 --> 00:51:35.928
And gave me a good spiritual
spec and put a godly fear in

00:51:35.929 --> 00:51:41.628
me through days and thank
you chief and the outcome

00:51:41.629 --> 00:51:47.268
was very good because I didn\'t
interfere I just let God do it for

00:51:47.269 --> 00:51:50.628
me and so do you\'re gonna do it I am not I

00:51:50.629 --> 00:51:55.218
can\'t Do you know what is
Salama thank you juice.

00:51:55.219 --> 00:52:00.334
You know I came on a ledge courtroom
today with pretty good feeling.

00:52:00.335 --> 00:52:03.348
Even though there was hurts among

00:52:03.349 --> 00:52:10.069
my family but I prayed to God
God you will deal with them.

00:52:10.070 --> 00:52:13.788
Yes thank you I made a commitment to God.

00:52:13.789 --> 00:52:18.439
Here last week I wasn\'t
sure I wanted to be very

00:52:18.440 --> 00:52:21.588
sure now you\'re going to hear

00:52:21.589 --> 00:52:26.223
me whether different voice you\'re not
gonna see him you are the hangover NMR.

00:52:26.224 --> 00:52:34.224
Thank you And a good place to

00:52:36.589 --> 00:52:43.919
do that is to tell you that

00:52:47.160 --> 00:52:50.834
your game is about

00:52:50.835 --> 00:52:53.279
lower and affine

00:52:53.280 --> 00:53:01.280
band or you\'re

00:53:08.680 --> 00:53:13.109
wealthy and mixed flow

00:53:29.800 --> 00:53:34.428
During that same summer and other
kind of gathering was held from time

00:53:34.429 --> 00:53:38.284
to time no no Thompson
the wife of Chief Jack

00:53:38.285 --> 00:53:41.340
had started a woman talking circle

00:53:42.700 --> 00:53:50.059
because when they do come back
there is anger and denial.

00:53:50.060 --> 00:53:58.060
It\'s just it\'s just the truth we
don\'t want to be abused anymore

00:53:58.400 --> 00:54:05.269
Or our children we have a right
to be heard and listened

00:54:05.270 --> 00:54:13.270
to we have rights as women not to be
physically abused anymore or mentally abused.

00:54:13.414 --> 00:54:21.414
Saying that you\'re good for nothing
except for making babies you know.

00:54:23.260 --> 00:54:28.939
We\'ve all been through traumatic times in

00:54:28.940 --> 00:54:36.934
our lives where we lost loved ones because
of alcoholism or whether it be suicide.

00:54:36.935 --> 00:54:40.710
That we\'ve experienced this as women

00:54:50.400 --> 00:54:53.828
You\'ve experienced with I don\'t know

00:54:53.829 --> 00:55:01.343
there\'s I think I\'ve gone through
I\'ve been abused I\'ve been neglected

00:55:01.344 --> 00:55:09.344
physically abused by my parents friends

00:55:19.710 --> 00:55:27.710
and this is something that I don\'t want to see
happen To the next generation of children.

00:55:38.400 --> 00:55:44.543
This is why I say we need a parenting
skills because it\'s all I\'ve ever seen.

00:55:44.544 --> 00:55:48.218
Was my mother\'s hand come on
me whenever I did something

00:55:48.219 --> 00:55:55.254
wrong and I started doing the
same thing to my daughters

00:55:55.255 --> 00:55:59.558
are treated her the same way
and it\'s the way I was brought

00:55:59.559 --> 00:56:06.338
up and it scared

00:56:06.339 --> 00:56:14.339
me I guess because I saw myself again.

00:56:18.900 --> 00:56:24.110
Free to the people drink and our own.

00:56:33.960 --> 00:56:40.969
Question was asked What can we do
to make our children safe here

00:56:44.520 --> 00:56:51.529
while I\'ve been doing is more or less lock
in my kid up in the host Knowing there are

00:56:51.530 --> 00:56:58.860
offenders around here and
it isn\'t fair to her.

00:57:01.690 --> 00:57:05.070
Is like to see more.

00:57:07.180 --> 00:57:11.039
Getting on the way to healing.

00:57:13.030 --> 00:57:21.030
Not just sexual abuse as I\'ve
talked about physical abuse.

00:57:21.440 --> 00:57:27.930
I was very physically abused during
during my young years of marriage

00:57:31.450 --> 00:57:38.449
And it\'s just my last few years that that
I have gained the respect of my husband

00:57:38.450 --> 00:57:46.450
again may just hated him so much why does

00:57:46.520 --> 00:57:54.520
he do that do I deserve the
pain that he put me through.

00:58:01.320 --> 00:58:05.058
Computers as though one of the
worst things that can happen to

00:58:05.059 --> 00:58:08.820
him that we have to endure as women

00:58:09.340 --> 00:58:17.340
when we get into that what we call
Battered wife syndrome we get stuck.

00:58:18.804 --> 00:58:26.804
We just seem to get stuck when thing I\'m
interested in Boise we have two elders

00:58:27.490 --> 00:58:33.848
here asked him if this such
kind of situation wasn\'t

00:58:33.849 --> 00:58:40.764
how they dealt with it 40 years
ago or however many long ago.

00:58:40.765 --> 00:58:47.209
No I

00:58:47.210 --> 00:58:52.089
never saw

00:58:52.090 --> 00:59:00.090
that I heard of sexual abuse
going on Not really terrified me

00:59:11.550 --> 00:59:19.550
my daughter got in the same situation
and she was 13 stopped going to

00:59:20.590 --> 00:59:22.160
school

00:59:29.520 --> 00:59:30.698
my

00:59:30.699 --> 00:59:32.619
Daughter\'s color non-tariff forties

00:59:32.620 --> 00:59:35.269
and she still hateful

00:59:45.910 --> 00:59:50.689
As a consequence of being sexually
abused some years ago I does

00:59:50.690 --> 00:59:55.530
daughter conceive a child the
child has now become an adult.

00:59:58.210 --> 01:00:06.210
To share her child contacted us
and we won\'t stick it to know

01:00:07.699 --> 01:00:12.168
us told them I

01:00:12.169 --> 01:00:18.138
don\'t mind your comment just your mother.

01:00:18.139 --> 01:00:20.519
Doesn\'t want to see

01:00:28.680 --> 01:00:32.958
Mr. karate. Where he

01:00:32.959 --> 01:00:40.959
was my late husband

01:00:42.169 --> 01:00:45.989
was so angry him and nothing to do with

01:00:55.870 --> 01:01:02.448
sort of been carried neuro
since my daughter was

01:01:02.449 --> 01:01:04.049
13

01:01:11.400 --> 01:01:13.284
We don\'t have

01:01:13.285 --> 01:01:21.285
to show ourselves powerful women we
need to be equal with their body.

01:01:21.864 --> 01:01:27.849
Not down our men or brothers or nephews

01:01:27.850 --> 01:01:34.528
cousins that isn\'t the way
we\'d just warn them be equal.

01:01:34.529 --> 01:01:40.119
Everybody stealth years in that kind words

01:01:40.120 --> 01:01:43.929
we use to get from them a
lot of people don\'t there

01:01:43.930 --> 01:01:51.930
they respected each other Even
though they knew what happened

01:01:54.534 --> 01:01:57.139
they doubt or that

01:02:04.230 --> 01:02:12.230
we don\'t like to see you
all go into the hate thin.

01:02:12.730 --> 01:02:20.730
It\'s it\'s not even good for a year inside
you gotta think about your own body

01:02:22.960 --> 01:02:30.960
in stirred dealing with yielding hadn\'t don\'t
fill up with hate I\'m turns in zeros and

01:02:32.874 --> 01:02:40.874
then let\'s do it with love and
respect for each other as women

01:02:43.990 --> 01:02:49.650
and in turn feed it to your children

01:02:54.100 --> 01:02:56.719
and just have so much going on in

01:02:56.720 --> 01:03:04.720
my life and I

01:03:06.050 --> 01:03:12.810
know I\'m aware of everything that\'s going
on and trying to do something about it

01:03:23.260 --> 01:03:26.189
I went through lots of abuse.

01:03:26.190 --> 01:03:29.430
All kinds of abuse growing up

01:03:40.030 --> 01:03:45.720
sexual abuse verbal abuse.

01:03:47.890 --> 01:03:51.060
Being put down

01:04:07.720 --> 01:04:15.199
And got married in 1986
to a man he used to beat

01:04:15.200 --> 01:04:23.200
me I left in

01:04:24.440 --> 01:04:30.454
March of 89 told myself I want to live.

01:04:30.455 --> 01:04:32.269
I don\'t need to go through

01:04:32.270 --> 01:04:39.058
this Because my daughter

01:04:39.059 --> 01:04:46.178
seem not only once or twice
g seen me get beat up.

01:04:46.179 --> 01:04:54.179
She\'s seen we get kicked was
thrown across the room.

01:05:06.510 --> 01:05:13.250
Believe wouldn\'t Doug\'s she\'s did dared
crying screaming telling her daddy to stop it

01:05:28.540 --> 01:05:33.870
Remember daddy took his
own life left september

01:05:46.450 --> 01:05:49.770
today at lunchtime.

01:05:50.710 --> 01:05:54.930
She says Give me where her daddy youth

01:06:21.420 --> 01:06:25.550
So I\'m doing a lot of reaching out

01:06:43.230 --> 01:06:51.230
and said I\'m tired of carrying all
this Memories of pain I went through

01:07:06.700 --> 01:07:13.349
I was getting tired of it I was
ready to take my own life.

01:07:17.560 --> 01:07:21.180
Nobody would do the unknown.

01:07:21.520 --> 01:07:29.520
Whenever they phoned me And I
thought if I\'m going to go

01:07:32.625 --> 01:07:40.625
ahead and take my daughter with me because
I\'m the one that gave her life I can take

01:07:42.319 --> 01:07:47.868
it and then I thought of my own

01:07:47.869 --> 01:07:55.869
limit how much you would earn
thereby you has to do with that

01:08:16.170 --> 01:08:18.998
So I\'m reaching out for a lot of

01:08:18.999 --> 01:08:26.999
help and the people

01:08:28.599 --> 01:08:30.830
who\'ve been talking back to you

01:08:54.610 --> 01:08:55.758
I

01:08:55.759 --> 01:09:03.759
Know da da

01:09:15.430 --> 01:09:22.058
Characters Thank you for
this gave me gifts to eat.

01:09:22.059 --> 01:09:30.059
Everyone that\'s here to
help them to be strong

01:09:38.590 --> 01:09:46.578
So any kind of cute Bonnie and
she continues to be strong in

01:09:46.579 --> 01:09:50.509
her young life into

01:09:50.510 --> 01:09:54.919
family bless each and

01:09:54.920 --> 01:10:01.260
everyone of them and pleased less
on the ones that are here tonight.

01:10:02.020 --> 01:10:10.020
And thank you again see each
go to our individual homes.

01:10:10.854 --> 01:10:17.609
Trying to piece in TC sleep amen

01:10:35.980 --> 01:10:43.980
Not our we are hurt too

01:10:48.880 --> 01:10:52.879
but I\'m glad for that is that

01:10:52.880 --> 01:10:56.419
my ancestors could come to me in the middle
of the night through a dream and show me

01:10:56.420 --> 01:11:00.258
things and that\'s what\'s real that\'s

01:11:00.259 --> 01:11:02.010
the teachings

01:11:11.380 --> 01:11:13.819
We

01:11:15.580 --> 01:11:18.109
We

01:11:26.170 --> 01:11:28.659
We

01:11:35.760 --> 01:11:38.769
We proceeded down

01:11:38.770 --> 01:11:41.243
that film there my sister.

01:11:41.244 --> 01:11:49.244
Both of my sisters And that\'s.

01:11:50.030 --> 01:11:53.989
After that that\'s when
this song came out is

01:11:53.990 --> 01:11:58.229
we need to be strong but
how can we be strong.

01:11:58.660 --> 01:12:06.660
Be strong and the circle the traditions
and our family and I\'d like to see

01:12:08.885 --> 01:12:13.878
past these hurts to look beyond

01:12:13.879 --> 01:12:16.218
that and listen to

01:12:16.219 --> 01:12:21.300
the words of my grandmothers and
grandmothers because it works and it\'s real

01:12:41.260 --> 01:12:45.119
I can honestly say they walk with me

01:12:45.460 --> 01:12:50.719
they talk with me and all those
people come to me by dreams

01:12:50.720 --> 01:12:54.559
no they come to me by vision and
that\'s what we need we need

01:12:54.560 --> 01:13:00.874
vision we need to look past these
hurts and passed these tiers.

01:13:00.875 --> 01:13:08.875
You\'re lucky to have that around Come home
and I tried to sing my song and dance

01:13:08.989 --> 01:13:12.109
my dance and all they did was laugh at me

01:13:12.110 --> 01:13:16.999
she\'s doing it wrong scope put it
listened to her listen to her.

01:13:17.000 --> 01:13:21.779
So that stopped me from
reaching out to my ancestors.

01:13:21.970 --> 01:13:25.983
I now believe the white man\'s world.

01:13:25.984 --> 01:13:31.068
My survival is out there with people
that don\'t laugh at me that don\'t put me

01:13:31.069 --> 01:13:37.293
down they keep encouraging me
come back try again tomorrow.

01:13:37.294 --> 01:13:42.393
You\'re doing a good job give me a pat
on the back here you\'re doing good.

01:13:42.394 --> 01:13:50.394
My daughter my sister Not not
hit me and say You\'re dirty.

01:13:50.855 --> 01:13:54.004
That\'s what I say because
to this day there\'s still

01:13:54.005 --> 01:13:57.168
carry on no matter what
because that\'s what I\'m

01:13:57.169 --> 01:13:59.688
saying Good for you I
admire you for that for

01:13:59.689 --> 01:14:04.309
the strength you have at least one of
us in this in our age is going to do

01:14:04.310 --> 01:14:07.713
that six must be for

01:14:07.714 --> 01:14:11.884
Linda had decided to come back to live in
the community where she felt she belonged.

01:14:11.885 --> 01:14:16.743
Having laid abuse charges against Tree man
for events that happened some years ago.

01:14:16.744 --> 01:14:20.568
She was now feeling the resentment
express corn fully by some members of

01:14:20.569 --> 01:14:24.888
the community Rely leave
you guys in peace here to

01:14:24.889 --> 01:14:28.039
hopefully one day you will I\'m
not from here anyway it\'s been

01:14:28.040 --> 01:14:31.279
told to my face I don\'t belong here I\'m not

01:14:31.280 --> 01:14:38.719
from here I\'ll leave in peace
and quiet with my family and

01:14:38.720 --> 01:14:46.720
my children hurting though because I wanted

01:14:48.710 --> 01:14:54.229
to be home I wanted to be
home so bad I wanted to be

01:14:54.230 --> 01:14:56.868
home to them but I\'m not
going to because people

01:14:56.869 --> 01:15:00.664
stand out in front of my
house saying you fuck nor.

01:15:00.665 --> 01:15:06.033
You desire what you got You fuck and slot.

01:15:06.034 --> 01:15:08.898
I can\'t put up with that
then it continues onto

01:15:08.899 --> 01:15:16.459
my daughter\'s uneven norm and now they\'re
calling him a little bastard that hurt.

01:15:16.460 --> 01:15:21.240
Out dare netherworld they
don\'t do that to me oh dear.

01:15:21.430 --> 01:15:25.669
They don\'t even say not
not such a thing you

01:15:25.670 --> 01:15:31.889
bitch Hey if I\'m a bitch
your 12x that\'s all I say.

01:15:36.340 --> 01:15:44.340
Me and my children aren\'t those at all
but it\'s been told to me Last week.

01:15:49.210 --> 01:15:55.234
Not nobody came to me and said Linda
are you okay are you going to make it.

01:15:55.235 --> 01:15:59.208
Nobody even after they
heard about what was going

01:15:59.209 --> 01:16:06.514
on my sit there with Norman and my
arms cry because I want to predict.

01:16:06.515 --> 01:16:08.599
You don\'t have to go through

01:16:08.600 --> 01:16:16.600
this sun Kimberly you don\'t have to go through
this baby you don\'t have to turn to drugs

01:16:17.089 --> 01:16:21.289
to hide your pain to that\'s

01:16:21.290 --> 01:16:25.758
what we need to wake up and realize
here And that\'s what I tried to do

01:16:25.759 --> 01:16:29.479
when I come home I tried to be
part of you guys I tried to be

01:16:29.480 --> 01:16:34.309
part only time you guys
come to meiosis when I

01:16:34.310 --> 01:16:39.048
invited you uh go to her house every

01:16:39.049 --> 01:16:43.878
day to visit her and her
children and I always tell mom

01:16:43.879 --> 01:16:46.609
everything how I feel I was just

01:16:46.610 --> 01:16:49.878
telling her yesterday I\'m not gonna
do anything anymore from my brothers

01:16:49.879 --> 01:16:51.619
and sisters they don\'t do anything for

01:16:51.620 --> 01:16:56.268
me like let\'s sing it for you then
you\'re not seeing it for me are

01:16:56.269 --> 01:17:00.889
seeing and for yourself to ask

01:17:00.890 --> 01:17:05.509
I mean we as

01:17:05.510 --> 01:17:12.378
a Family has to put on a table also
about what how I feel about Dad.

01:17:12.379 --> 01:17:15.618
He said earlier he
apologized to my daughter.

01:17:15.619 --> 01:17:19.759
Why am I last to know to help

01:17:19.760 --> 01:17:24.383
me feel better in my life why didn\'t
you tell me you apologize to body

01:17:24.384 --> 01:17:26.989
I apologize you were there I had was not

01:17:26.990 --> 01:17:34.990
too darn right cure and then for me to go and
I know that you hate me for what I done.

01:17:35.854 --> 01:17:40.699
Yes that\'s your problem
I hate what you did you

01:17:40.700 --> 01:17:45.799
hate me you told me that in the
courtroom is still not a year ago

01:17:45.800 --> 01:17:49.279
in that I hate you dead
for what you don\'t That\'s

01:17:49.280 --> 01:17:53.119
what you did I ever want to
have him do was do anymore

01:17:53.120 --> 01:17:55.939
you\'re no good but you\'ll meet

01:17:55.940 --> 01:17:58.969
me when you kick me out of your
house are never kicked you out of

01:17:58.970 --> 01:18:05.823
my house I never I never kicked
jar to hear you left on your own.

01:18:05.824 --> 01:18:10.380
I liberated God as my witness.

01:18:10.390 --> 01:18:15.228
When I told you I hate
what you did I don\'t hate.

01:18:15.229 --> 01:18:20.208
My father used that you hate me and
that blood Brown woman was not there

01:18:20.209 --> 01:18:26.910
listening and so it was mom and so as well
I don\'t what do you is dead whether mom

01:18:39.540 --> 01:18:45.339
There\'s nothing more damage into the
emotional abuse and the mental abuse.

01:18:45.340 --> 01:18:49.793
I\'m an eye the mental abuse that was
given to me by the residential.

01:18:49.794 --> 01:18:54.939
Would tell me that I\'m stupid I\'m
good for nothing and then I\'d come

01:18:54.940 --> 01:18:57.428
home and like what my sister was in Yael

01:18:57.429 --> 01:19:01.029
does laughing at me because
I don\'t talk my language.

01:19:01.030 --> 01:19:05.078
Why because somebody else planted
something else in my mind in

01:19:05.079 --> 01:19:11.209
my mental capacity the mental
part of me and that\'s all I know

01:19:20.230 --> 01:19:25.170
So yeah this poison that\'s
in us is not our fault.

01:19:26.050 --> 01:19:30.738
We didn\'t ask for it when we were
born and we don\'t want it when we

01:19:30.739 --> 01:19:38.283
die and we need to come
together and grow from there.

01:19:38.284 --> 01:19:43.248
Realizing that it\'s not our fault were dying
but pick up what we got what little we

01:19:43.249 --> 01:19:49.229
have left from what\'s been destroyed between
me and you as a sister and brother.

01:19:50.380 --> 01:19:55.189
Because it\'s not our fault that it\'s
not the fault between you and doubt

01:19:55.190 --> 01:20:01.709
or dad and Bonnie but it is something the
poison that was put in there Years ago.

01:20:02.710 --> 01:20:06.724
All I can say now is I
have all been I pray that

01:20:06.725 --> 01:20:10.548
God will see fit for car
allergic or to change

01:20:10.549 --> 01:20:18.549
and be a better man for my grandchildren
and I got 17 grandchildren

01:20:26.140 --> 01:20:29.628
and I want you to breathe or
to be witnessed or what I

01:20:29.629 --> 01:20:37.629
say I pronounce and

01:20:39.229 --> 01:20:46.130
I declare to do God is my witness.

01:20:48.360 --> 01:20:52.490
I\'m going to be a better
mound from my children.

01:20:57.720 --> 01:21:00.800
My grandchildren.

01:21:06.210 --> 01:21:14.210
When I teach God\'s away books away

01:21:29.830 --> 01:21:32.909
My grandmother.

01:21:44.740 --> 01:21:48.840
She yeah

01:22:41.320 --> 01:22:45.468
I\'m not going to stop talking
about sexual abuse as long as I\'m

01:22:45.469 --> 01:22:53.179
around y Because I care about
are little girls especially.

01:22:53.180 --> 01:22:56.238
And even our young girls
that have become woman in

01:22:56.239 --> 01:23:03.589
their life in some woman
that are my age who

01:23:03.590 --> 01:23:09.319
carried this pain and

01:23:09.320 --> 01:23:13.338
probably even today don\'t feel safe
in talking about what happened to

01:23:13.339 --> 01:23:17.869
them I still carry

01:23:17.870 --> 01:23:21.799
around a lot of anger because there\'s still
men out there that we don\'t talk about

01:23:21.800 --> 01:23:26.058
that abused us as girls
given us drunk given

01:23:26.059 --> 01:23:30.588
us booze making us drunk
making us run around naked And

01:23:30.589 --> 01:23:32.178
yet laughing at us about

01:23:32.179 --> 01:23:40.179
it and then we have to go home and
face of punishment from our parents.

01:23:43.450 --> 01:23:47.358
They\'re still out there they\'re
their names hasn\'t been brought

01:23:47.359 --> 01:23:55.359
out raid from the age

01:23:56.599 --> 01:24:01.173
of three as far as I can remember
back I was sexually abused.

01:24:01.174 --> 01:24:04.879
Until I was 11 I know a lot of what

01:24:04.880 --> 01:24:10.349
Linda said earlier when she was
talking I know she was talking to me

01:24:12.660 --> 01:24:19.208
Linda and I have gone
through a lot of things

01:24:19.209 --> 01:24:27.209
together when she talks about how the men.

01:24:28.854 --> 01:24:31.928
Used us when we were

01:24:31.929 --> 01:24:39.929
kids because there were times that they
got as drunk and then they use this

01:24:40.000 --> 01:24:45.069
for their own desires and then we had to

01:24:45.070 --> 01:24:49.628
go home and we took punishment
from our parents and all this time

01:24:49.629 --> 01:24:57.629
growing up we always started with
our fault I was 15 years old

01:25:00.210 --> 01:25:03.698
and one of my uncles caught
me with the men it was

01:25:03.699 --> 01:25:08.739
married and right away he went and told

01:25:08.740 --> 01:25:16.148
my dad what did my dad do he beat shit

01:25:16.149 --> 01:25:23.783
on me it wasn\'t the other
guy\'s fault it was my fault.

01:25:23.784 --> 01:25:31.784
So evolves carried this guilt and everything
because everything was on me and it

01:25:33.880 --> 01:25:36.609
was bruised from my back
down to the back of

01:25:36.610 --> 01:25:43.598
my knees And then no way
was I going to take it

01:25:43.599 --> 01:25:51.599
anymore and I left home when I was 17
and my life on the streets of Vancouver

01:25:53.080 --> 01:25:58.599
wasn\'t something that I\'m proud of
today from the age of 17 until I was

01:25:58.600 --> 01:26:06.338
23 I

01:26:06.339 --> 01:26:09.728
was okay

01:26:09.729 --> 01:26:13.789
I was a hooker I worked on
the streets of Vancouver.

01:26:16.260 --> 01:26:22.818
My family knows about it my mom
knows about it My kids know about

01:26:22.819 --> 01:26:27.318
it I always tell them is

01:26:27.319 --> 01:26:34.350
that I don\'t want him to live the kind of
life that I had to live because O is a shame.

01:26:37.060 --> 01:26:40.398
I\'ve tried dealing with a lot of the abuse.

01:26:40.399 --> 01:26:48.399
Through the justice system but nothing
worked and I know what jail does to a person

01:26:51.910 --> 01:26:57.048
named living with a man we spent
a lot of years of his life in

01:26:57.049 --> 01:27:02.314
jail and they know how bidder

01:27:02.315 --> 01:27:06.709
a person can get I think
what what his broaden him

01:27:06.710 --> 01:27:11.689
around to a lot of that
is because he physically

01:27:11.690 --> 01:27:16.398
abused me and I charged
him in yet I stood by

01:27:16.399 --> 01:27:21.558
his side and told him that
he get away from that and he

01:27:21.559 --> 01:27:25.938
did it again and I stood
beside him through what he

01:27:25.939 --> 01:27:30.379
went through so I think that with a lot of

01:27:30.380 --> 01:27:38.380
understanding and with a lot of
love a person can be changed and

01:27:40.060 --> 01:27:48.060
I have two daughters who have been
sexually abused Once 12 and once

01:27:49.250 --> 01:27:56.349
13 I have a little niece who was

01:27:56.350 --> 01:27:59.769
taken away from this reserve
because sexual abuse is still

01:27:59.770 --> 01:28:04.463
happening a year and what are we doing
as adults about it what are we doing.

01:28:04.464 --> 01:28:09.909
We\'re putting down the mother
putting down the household.

01:28:09.910 --> 01:28:14.154
My name is Joseph and let say that

01:28:14.155 --> 01:28:18.428
whatever I\'m about to say I\'m not
to say to justify myself for

01:28:18.429 --> 01:28:25.539
my actions Mian my oldest brother Tom
mean him were both sexually abused by

01:28:25.540 --> 01:28:33.540
my aunt and I can admit that That
is made me second and my brother.

01:28:33.619 --> 01:28:36.169
Edward affected me more than did

01:28:36.170 --> 01:28:43.968
my weather these things

01:28:43.969 --> 01:28:50.389
my dad made me do learned
pilot myself oral sex.

01:28:50.390 --> 01:28:55.069
I know sometimes it\'s similar to
P dinner I didn\'t know what was

01:28:55.070 --> 01:28:59.629
what was going on and I
didn\'t know I didn\'t

01:28:59.630 --> 01:29:06.630
know where it was I didn\'t know that it
was wrong I never said nothing to nobody

01:29:11.110 --> 01:29:14.359
Years growing up I\'d always been

01:29:14.360 --> 01:29:21.768
quiet and the years growing up to
I put up with physical abuse from

01:29:21.769 --> 01:29:29.769
my dad I know

01:29:30.889 --> 01:29:38.889
that after my mom died and
my dad got together with r3.

01:29:39.379 --> 01:29:47.379
That things went on me and Tom
did too to her daughters and I

01:29:47.990 --> 01:29:55.990
didn\'t know any different And
I think all through my life.

01:29:56.990 --> 01:29:59.373
High self-esteem we saw low.

01:29:59.374 --> 01:30:02.719
Plus seven my father column
is stupid and it\'s soaked

01:30:02.720 --> 01:30:07.879
in pretty that people are
not due to their kid.

01:30:07.880 --> 01:30:15.119
Now I\'ve done a lot of kind
of done louder hurting.

01:30:22.990 --> 01:30:28.489
But I\'ve been in jail for
about 17 years just for

01:30:28.490 --> 01:30:33.229
the crazy things they did for beer money
coupled robbery charges and followed

01:30:33.230 --> 01:30:34.530
you

01:30:42.240 --> 01:30:44.258
At this point

01:30:44.259 --> 01:30:48.398
Allen talks about the sexual
aggression of the 10-year-old child.

01:30:48.399 --> 01:30:53.348
Her parents bought been in town and she was

01:30:53.349 --> 01:30:58.539
playing field by itself
and I invited for supper.

01:30:58.540 --> 01:31:00.188
In their payloads thereafter while

01:31:00.189 --> 01:31:05.913
outside I didn\'t know what she was
going to be stained and even even

01:31:05.914 --> 01:31:10.269
even while she was walkman she
should cat I should stay with

01:31:10.270 --> 01:31:15.869
you because I listen to you you

01:31:15.870 --> 01:31:17.799
know she should look she should listen to

01:31:17.800 --> 01:31:25.800
her mom And during the even worse
it in deltas playing card.

01:31:25.974 --> 01:31:30.848
She had a dress on and Liotard and she

01:31:30.849 --> 01:31:37.009
took it she took her Lear turns off
and choose explosion itself to me.

01:31:38.610 --> 01:31:44.480
Leaving for that choose choose
certain she wanted to sleep with me.

01:31:48.480 --> 01:31:56.480
Nothing happened then but I guess I was
fantasizing should come back on on weekend Alan

01:31:57.490 --> 01:32:05.490
describes the second incident Jew\'s harp and
up over the barren and hopped on the beard.

01:32:05.929 --> 01:32:12.359
A jump behind her she was on her
tummy and had my sweatpants on

01:32:16.420 --> 01:32:24.420
en a horizont I didn\'t

01:32:24.439 --> 01:32:27.949
penetrate or anything but that\'s all that

01:32:27.950 --> 01:32:32.208
happened and that\'s all it took for
her to be scared of me you know.

01:32:32.209 --> 01:32:36.769
But then after that I didn\'t
even want to be seen.

01:32:36.770 --> 01:32:40.109
Because I felt like a pizza shop

01:32:58.920 --> 01:33:05.480
The cops were here looking for you today
where where are you why are you hiding.

01:33:09.570 --> 01:33:12.084
Because it was feeling guilty.

01:33:12.085 --> 01:33:15.068
Well why can\'t you face the problem
if you\'ve been through that

01:33:15.069 --> 01:33:16.790
before

01:33:23.580 --> 01:33:25.179
and let\'s go

01:33:25.180 --> 01:33:30.318
to the soul To enrich sulfur and
tomorrow just because I\'m tired of

01:33:30.319 --> 01:33:36.213
just living outside you said
yourself you\'ll like it in jail.

01:33:36.214 --> 01:33:44.214
I know well you\'re not
man enough to face it

01:33:55.510 --> 01:33:59.329
and I told you the other morning
How long are you going to make us

01:33:59.330 --> 01:34:05.879
suffer the cops was knocking on my
door asking me if I know where you are

01:34:14.310 --> 01:34:19.629
And my poor little nieces sit note
dare off this reserve and you\'re

01:34:19.630 --> 01:34:24.098
walking around here let\'s pray to God that

01:34:24.099 --> 01:34:26.708
she\'s not going to continue
being in homes out there for

01:34:26.709 --> 01:34:29.349
the rest of her life and
then have her come back

01:34:29.350 --> 01:34:34.838
when she\'s 35 lake me and try face

01:34:34.839 --> 01:34:42.839
the community. I don\'t

01:34:43.060 --> 01:34:50.123
want to be verbal abusive to you
but I have to get it out cat.

01:34:50.124 --> 01:34:53.378
Your god damn bastard to do that to

01:34:53.379 --> 01:35:01.379
my nine-year-old Nice To
hurt her the way you have

01:35:11.920 --> 01:35:19.920
and no doubt you\'ve probably been
called worse but now I got it

01:35:22.879 --> 01:35:30.198
out because I don\'t want to just

01:35:30.199 --> 01:35:33.498
walk by you and think think
of you as a piece of

01:35:33.499 --> 01:35:38.583
dirt or a piece of shit like you
said yourself Because you\'re not.

01:35:38.584 --> 01:35:41.910
You\'re a human being with a sickness.

01:35:43.900 --> 01:35:48.089
Like other people in this community.

01:35:53.260 --> 01:36:00.539
Doesn\'t that even hurt to even know
that your loved ones had been hurt.

01:36:04.420 --> 01:36:08.958
Not willing to work with
you to help you better

01:36:08.959 --> 01:36:15.018
your life because I don\'t want
you to feel alone I care.

01:36:15.019 --> 01:36:17.358
You\'re my year my family.

01:36:17.359 --> 01:36:20.370
You\'re my mom\'s nephew

01:36:33.040 --> 01:36:36.359
So reach out cat

01:36:40.420 --> 01:36:46.698
but we can\'t work together that way
unless we work with the problem.

01:36:46.699 --> 01:36:51.630
So lets do it That\'s what I\'m
saying about all this let\'s do it

01:37:26.970 --> 01:37:34.970
Maybe it doesn\'t seem like I I don\'t care for
any of you but I do still feel that that\'s

01:37:37.570 --> 01:37:40.869
moms Christine myself as

01:37:40.870 --> 01:37:47.904
older people I think we\'ve done

01:37:47.905 --> 01:37:50.198
pretty well with what happened to

01:37:50.199 --> 01:37:55.549
bonding And trying to encourage
you but you\'re still angry.

01:37:55.550 --> 01:38:02.509
We have to live here you know there\'s
such a thing as forgiveness.

01:38:02.510 --> 01:38:10.510
One that forgiveness forgiveness comes around
then it starts eally But we haven\'t heard

01:38:12.020 --> 01:38:18.769
your grandfather\'s safety you um summary we
haven\'t heard that yet that\'s what wears away

01:38:18.770 --> 01:38:26.449
didn\'t far and I think
that\'ll bring you her on.

01:38:26.450 --> 01:38:30.994
Because I\'ve seen it in
my boys the difference

01:38:30.995 --> 01:38:36.514
you saw the way they were Carried
themselves here there were angry

01:38:36.515 --> 01:38:41.119
because there were hurt in
inside the two ashamed Burnett

01:38:41.120 --> 01:38:49.120
out and what happened

01:38:50.030 --> 01:38:53.699
to them and Children\'s
and residential school.

01:38:56.260 --> 01:38:58.788
Just horrible to listen

01:38:58.789 --> 01:39:06.789
to what I remember going up the
stairs and walking into a building

01:39:07.039 --> 01:39:10.698
and he immediately as soon
as we walked in before

01:39:10.699 --> 01:39:14.028
I could even turn around and say
goodbye to my mom or wonder

01:39:14.029 --> 01:39:16.548
what the hell\'s going on I was grabbed by

01:39:16.549 --> 01:39:23.249
the arm Charlie Thompson was nine years
old when he was left at the school.

01:39:25.420 --> 01:39:31.863
Some nights I have that nightmare where I
can feels like I\'m really scream in art.

01:39:31.864 --> 01:39:38.673
Nobody hears it can\'t get out in
the 19-21 the federal government

01:39:38.674 --> 01:39:41.209
legislated away from Indian parents

01:39:41.210 --> 01:39:45.934
the responsibility for the care
and education of their children.

01:39:45.935 --> 01:39:51.318
Today the tragic effects of the
policy are still being felt by

01:39:51.319 --> 01:39:59.319
native peoples The guy made us do things
to him to please himself sexually.

01:40:03.040 --> 01:40:07.294
Or I can\'t remember all
I was 1011 years old.

01:40:07.295 --> 01:40:13.140
I was laying in bed and I was he told
me to he told me to jerking off.

01:40:14.410 --> 01:40:19.443
He\'d asked me to take off
my clothes and then Lee.

01:40:19.444 --> 01:40:27.444
On my left side and he\'d take off his
clothes and Carl and behind me and he\'d put

01:40:29.449 --> 01:40:32.869
his penis between my legs and simulate

01:40:32.870 --> 01:40:37.968
a sex act and then when he was
finished with what he had to

01:40:37.969 --> 01:40:42.979
do He said tell me to get up off

01:40:42.980 --> 01:40:48.888
the bed and washed myself and get down on
my knees and pray to God for forgiveness.

01:40:48.889 --> 01:40:53.133
One of the worst offenders
was Henry Arthur plant

01:40:53.134 --> 01:40:59.164
Cameron he\'s pled guilty to a dozen
charges relating to sexual assault.

01:40:59.165 --> 01:41:04.863
His victims are still coming forward
for 20 years he was a dorm supervisor.

01:41:04.864 --> 01:41:11.869
At the residential school in port el
bernie we got more and more people to go

01:41:11.870 --> 01:41:15.169
after and I hope you bastards
are out there I\'m going

01:41:15.170 --> 01:41:19.099
after you guys if I can do it I\'m gonna do
it on my own but I know I\'m not on my own.

01:41:19.100 --> 01:41:22.939
You bastards. Are going to have
this day in court to Natives

01:41:22.940 --> 01:41:26.899
were saying what happened in court
here today was a historic event.

01:41:26.900 --> 01:41:29.074
Certainly it was the kind of drama.

01:41:29.075 --> 01:41:37.038
That\'s rarely if ever seen in a Canadian
court he was both eloquent and forceful.

01:41:37.039 --> 01:41:39.978
Speaking on behalf of His
people aren\'t Thompson took

01:41:39.979 --> 01:41:44.749
the witness stand and held the
court transfixed for 45 minutes.

01:41:44.750 --> 01:41:49.068
During that time he faced the man
who had sexually abused him and

01:41:49.069 --> 01:41:54.918
so many others Arthur Henry Pylint
among the things Thompson said as

01:41:54.919 --> 01:42:00.708
he stared and pointed his finger at Flint I
can never watch my mouth out long enough to

01:42:00.709 --> 01:42:06.933
get rid of your stink eye could not scrub
myself enough to rid myself of your garbage.

01:42:06.934 --> 01:42:12.049
I do not respect to you what you stand
for or anything about you because

01:42:12.050 --> 01:42:17.164
to me you are not worth the tears
the vomit I could throw up on you.

01:42:17.165 --> 01:42:20.389
He yelled at Pylint to apologize to him and

01:42:20.390 --> 01:42:24.094
his people plant never
spoke a word in response.

01:42:24.095 --> 01:42:25.804
Only hung his head.

01:42:25.805 --> 01:42:27.739
He showed it to you.

01:42:27.740 --> 01:42:32.748
He showed it to everyone that that\'s
concerned with his case he has

01:42:32.749 --> 01:42:37.698
no remorse whatsoever in handing down

01:42:37.699 --> 01:42:41.809
his sentence Justice Douglas Hogarth
And not only condemned plant but

01:42:41.810 --> 01:42:43.998
the residential school system he worked

01:42:43.999 --> 01:42:48.349
within these people were
prisoners he said and I knew it.

01:42:48.350 --> 01:42:52.443
Nobody would listen if they
complained Hogarth likened it to

01:42:52.444 --> 01:42:57.754
institutionalized pedophilia and
plant was a sexual terrorist.

01:42:57.755 --> 01:43:02.520
In the end. He sentenced
him to 11 years in prison.

01:43:03.430 --> 01:43:07.729
It rained and poured out
Bernie today natives took

01:43:07.730 --> 01:43:11.029
it as a sign that Mother
Nature was helping wash away

01:43:11.030 --> 01:43:19.030
the tears caused by plints crimes Harry
mon you check six news Cornell Bernie.

01:43:19.510 --> 01:43:25.923
I just haven\'t seen that
The part where the abuser.

01:43:25.924 --> 01:43:30.030
Come forward and apologize.

01:43:31.300 --> 01:43:34.739
That\'s what I want to see

01:43:39.460 --> 01:43:43.458
it would be either zone Sun Chief jag who\'d

01:43:43.459 --> 01:43:47.628
taken by his mother\'s words would
come forward and speak to Linda.

01:43:47.629 --> 01:43:51.544
It\'s difficult. These
things about asking for

01:43:51.545 --> 01:43:57.634
forgiveness for you Linda
is now gonna take.

01:43:57.635 --> 01:44:00.918
Well I could snap of the fingers
you\'re going to say okay I

01:44:00.919 --> 01:44:04.589
forgive you already know
that and I realize that

01:44:04.900 --> 01:44:08.069
Because I hurt you

01:44:08.140 --> 01:44:14.658
but I wanted to do it the proper way I
want to talk to my family my brothers.

01:44:14.659 --> 01:44:17.880
Do it hold a dinner.

01:44:19.240 --> 01:44:22.398
It\'s important to me to

01:44:22.399 --> 01:44:30.399
me what when I put my kids
through how will they heard to.

01:44:31.970 --> 01:44:35.539
Oh I hurt your mother.

01:44:35.540 --> 01:44:43.129
Your sister your daughter because botany.

01:44:43.130 --> 01:44:51.130
Talk to me quite a bit before About
things that she went through and

01:44:51.589 --> 01:44:55.819
sort of made made it important for me to do

01:44:55.820 --> 01:45:00.628
it but I after you because
I heard my mother\'s hand.

01:45:00.629 --> 01:45:05.688
It\'s important for these victims
to hear these things from

01:45:05.689 --> 01:45:10.428
guys like me I think it\'ll send
a message to everybody else it

01:45:10.429 --> 01:45:13.129
okay these guys are doing
something about what

01:45:13.130 --> 01:45:16.998
happened in their community
so it\'s important when I

01:45:16.999 --> 01:45:24.570
do public-key hold a dinner for you and your
mother and your brother and your sisters.

01:45:25.120 --> 01:45:30.508
That I do it right Thank you

01:45:30.509 --> 01:45:38.509
and I thank you

01:45:39.739 --> 01:45:47.739
all for your courage Jack towers
the only way you go into be.

01:45:48.304 --> 01:45:50.494
Ever better futures.

01:45:50.495 --> 01:45:58.495
With you\'re doing my daughters
go into quite a bit right now

01:46:01.324 --> 01:46:06.258
there\'s a couple of children children
that was swearing at her profile nights

01:46:06.259 --> 01:46:14.259
ago and it hurt me He sounded worse
than log s because of what she\'d done.

01:46:14.795 --> 01:46:22.795
He\'s trying to write her life is
trying to get a better future.

01:46:29.030 --> 01:46:37.030
There\'s a lot going on Carl
never stops suffering.

01:46:38.020 --> 01:46:42.209
All my children went through a soft brick.

01:46:44.770 --> 01:46:48.929
It\'s been too much suffering going on

01:47:03.010 --> 01:47:09.678
And we\'ll fool.

01:47:09.679 --> 01:47:16.428
A a a a a yet

01:47:16.429 --> 01:47:18.468
a boom

01:47:18.469 --> 01:47:26.469
boom boom

01:47:34.480 --> 01:47:42.480
But to

01:47:46.660 --> 01:47:49.518
a a

01:47:49.519 --> 01:47:56.279
a a a a

01:48:16.720 --> 01:48:24.720
Oh oh wait

01:48:25.654 --> 01:48:27.329
a

01:48:37.570 --> 01:48:45.570
Few years ago

01:48:48.304 --> 01:48:52.053
we still hurt the other lady.

01:48:52.054 --> 01:48:56.389
Thank you request an
apology accepted on doing

01:48:56.390 --> 01:49:04.390
this We just want

01:49:05.470 --> 01:49:13.470
to explain so that everyone who\'s going
to say something here won\'t be surprised.

01:49:14.380 --> 01:49:21.278
There\'s been a process going on a lot said
and in a couple of other locations for

01:49:21.279 --> 01:49:23.768
some time that involves

01:49:23.769 --> 01:49:27.008
the National Film Board and it\'s not

01:49:27.009 --> 01:49:30.849
a surprise to the people who
are involved here tonight.

01:49:30.850 --> 01:49:34.854
That they\'re going to be
filming what\'s going on.

01:49:34.855 --> 01:49:37.959
So if any of you are going to talk.

01:49:37.960 --> 01:49:45.510
Be aware that you\'re going
to be recorded Okay.

01:49:46.730 --> 01:49:54.730
The reason that we\'ve been called
here all of us as to witness

01:49:58.025 --> 01:50:03.528
an apology that\'s going
to take place between

01:50:03.529 --> 01:50:08.958
this young man and the young lady that\'s
sitting in our center here he\'s the center

01:50:08.959 --> 01:50:16.959
of this ceremony the people who you
see sitting here in this front role

01:50:17.285 --> 01:50:25.285
or all of the witnesses that Linda
identified People who mean much to her.

01:50:26.704 --> 01:50:32.969
People who she wanted to witness this
and that\'s why they\'re sitting here

01:50:39.710 --> 01:50:47.710
your information for

01:50:47.795 --> 01:50:49.590
your

01:50:58.650 --> 01:51:01.200
protection

01:51:06.430 --> 01:51:09.719
Descriptive statistics.

01:51:13.780 --> 01:51:21.780
Her education.

01:51:23.650 --> 01:51:31.650
Her education education education

01:51:32.050 --> 01:51:36.450
education efficiently picture detection

01:51:38.800 --> 01:51:43.563
where suddenly we had a meeting with Linda.

01:51:43.564 --> 01:51:50.538
She gave me something I
shouldn\'t own years ago.

01:51:50.539 --> 01:51:53.209
She threw something on my lap and said

01:51:53.210 --> 01:51:55.248
I don\'t want to take this
shit anymore I don\'t want

01:51:55.249 --> 01:52:02.084
to keep it it\'s yours and I accepted.

01:52:02.085 --> 01:52:04.248
I accepted the responsibility to what I

01:52:04.249 --> 01:52:11.629
done even know it

01:52:11.630 --> 01:52:18.979
was years ago I still hurt the young
lady and she requested topology.

01:52:18.980 --> 01:52:26.980
When I accepted to do this by

01:52:27.470 --> 01:52:32.978
sexually abused Linda It\'s

01:52:32.979 --> 01:52:38.899
very difficult times I placed
upon her during these years.

01:52:39.120 --> 01:52:47.120
Her family her her son her daughter\'s
towered affected the whole family.

01:52:48.030 --> 01:52:53.049
No gear to apologize for
what I\'ve done in front of

01:52:53.050 --> 01:52:57.533
you people I need to tell
you Linda and I\'m sorry

01:52:57.534 --> 01:53:02.078
for the pain that I inflict on you during

01:53:02.079 --> 01:53:07.779
these years we understand fully
that when you throw it back at me

01:53:07.780 --> 01:53:11.349
it\'s my problem I have to carry that

01:53:11.350 --> 01:53:19.350
around I can\'t tell my people to heal
because I\'ve got a problem myself.

01:53:20.395 --> 01:53:28.395
So I wanna start human with
my community. So Linda.

01:53:29.154 --> 01:53:37.154
I\'m sorry for the plane that own flipped
learning and the harm that brought.

01:53:38.859 --> 01:53:44.750
For your immediate family here I\'m sorry.

01:53:53.610 --> 01:54:01.009
Too In order to give

01:54:01.010 --> 01:54:04.189
strength to Linda and replying
to Jack the people in the hall

01:54:04.190 --> 01:54:08.609
form a circle holding hands to you Jack.

01:54:09.430 --> 01:54:12.799
I accept your apology.

01:54:12.800 --> 01:54:20.800
Yes there has been nothing but paid my life
there has been a lot of suffering I did.

01:54:24.550 --> 01:54:28.379
Since I was 11 years old

01:54:39.750 --> 01:54:42.908
I did not have no respect for

01:54:42.909 --> 01:54:50.909
myself this is not

01:54:52.329 --> 01:54:56.619
to make myself or Jack.

01:54:56.620 --> 01:55:02.664
Look bigger than you or better.

01:55:02.665 --> 01:55:06.099
He said it himself We have to clean up

01:55:06.100 --> 01:55:11.783
our own house and it makes me feel
good to hear you say that drag.

01:55:11.784 --> 01:55:15.189
Because it does begin
with you as a leader at

01:55:15.190 --> 01:55:20.829
home I am wearing white

01:55:20.830 --> 01:55:27.498
today Because to me it
represents pure and clean.

01:55:27.499 --> 01:55:31.039
I wear my shawl today
because I\'m striving for

01:55:31.040 --> 01:55:38.028
my culture that\'s why I\'m
dressed the way I am 2D.

01:55:38.029 --> 01:55:46.029
Because I\'m clean I was never dirty like the
way I thought I was I was never discussed

01:55:46.610 --> 01:55:49.710
it like how I looked at myself

01:55:55.450 --> 01:56:03.450
and I\'ve always been a full blooded
native woman that\'s who I am

01:56:03.530 --> 01:56:10.878
today Well my parents come

01:56:10.879 --> 01:56:16.819
from I belonged on

01:56:16.820 --> 01:56:21.813
areas like anybody else I am missing.

01:56:21.814 --> 01:56:26.729
Somebody very dear to me tonight.

01:56:29.020 --> 01:56:37.020
That\'s my daughter Bonnie she was
the one who opened my eyes in 199

01:56:48.850 --> 01:56:55.878
She was the one who had so much
pain that she had to let it out.

01:56:55.879 --> 01:57:03.000
Wherever body is maybe she be comforted.

01:57:09.610 --> 01:57:16.350
Me my love. Because I love my daughter.

01:57:22.690 --> 01:57:30.690
I love my son JR And my daughter Kim No

01:57:33.650 --> 01:57:36.990
I\'m able to show them

01:57:38.530 --> 01:57:46.530
even more so after this
you know I love you mom.

01:57:47.470 --> 01:57:55.470
My mom was always there when I went through
court in those 4.5 years that we did

01:58:08.690 --> 01:58:12.419
and I love you to debt

01:58:19.450 --> 01:58:27.450
I want to say to you Jack that I

01:58:30.259 --> 01:58:37.279
have accepted your apology from

01:58:37.280 --> 01:58:45.280
here because I feel and I know
that it\'s coming real from you

01:59:02.170 --> 01:59:10.170
I\'m very proud of Jack Thompson
today confess his fault.

01:59:12.730 --> 01:59:20.730
Give humanity lo w that sit here to judge and
say that Jack is nothing he\'s not nothing.

01:59:24.280 --> 01:59:32.268
He\'s a very strong man to able
to stand up and say I done

01:59:32.269 --> 01:59:40.269
this wrong thing very glad Today
that I\'m just like my brother Jack.

01:59:40.594 --> 01:59:46.173
Who\'s my nephew that man
in the Indian tradition.

01:59:46.174 --> 01:59:51.059
My nephew and the Indian way

01:59:55.120 --> 02:00:02.958
I spoke I speak to him quite often about
our fall off my fault and his book.

02:00:02.959 --> 02:00:10.959
Tell them we have to put it all out on a table
directory what we\'re done I want to tell

02:00:15.460 --> 02:00:23.460
your friends Our mirror
brothers were going to free

02:00:23.699 --> 02:00:31.699
up I just want

02:00:33.680 --> 02:00:36.498
to take this time to let you know
that I honored fruitfully to

02:00:36.499 --> 02:00:40.950
view there\'s thick to you
for wet here three phase.

02:00:43.840 --> 02:00:48.209
I\'m an alcoholic my name is Connie.

02:00:53.860 --> 02:00:57.829
I\'m going into my fifth
year and I\'m very proud of

02:00:57.830 --> 02:01:04.819
myself I\'ve also been on
my healing journey and

02:01:04.820 --> 02:01:12.820
I know how it was struggling it
as the both of you have given me

02:01:13.669 --> 02:01:21.669
the Mohr\'s strength tonight and I want
to thank you click go click Go Jack.

02:01:23.810 --> 02:01:29.644
Thank you for calling me to be
here and Linda. Your strength.

02:01:29.645 --> 02:01:34.279
Both of you and believe a
political strength that

02:01:34.280 --> 02:01:39.288
you people have a healing healing that is

02:01:39.289 --> 02:01:43.744
happening within their
family This is one of

02:01:43.745 --> 02:01:48.964
the things that we are
lacking today we are not

02:01:48.965 --> 02:01:51.600
keeping their houses in order

02:01:52.390 --> 02:01:57.888
to start taking on that responsibility
to put our house in order including

02:01:57.889 --> 02:02:03.439
my own house that\'s our responsibility and

02:02:03.440 --> 02:02:09.318
these are the kind of teaching stuff we
have to bring back We lost those teachings.

02:02:09.319 --> 02:02:13.548
We lost those students and
it\'s about damn we\'re bringing

02:02:13.549 --> 02:02:19.099
back we\'re going to bring him back
I\'m having a meeting tomorrow.

02:02:19.100 --> 02:02:22.278
Am I having a meeting
tomorrow with my family

02:02:22.279 --> 02:02:25.699
with things like this
happened with my own within

02:02:25.700 --> 02:02:31.773
my own family and my father

02:02:31.774 --> 02:02:39.774
two daughters or or sexually
abused by their own uncle.

02:02:40.444 --> 02:02:45.450
Their uncle or a grandfather

02:02:49.720 --> 02:02:55.083
And one of their respected
elders from my reserve.

02:02:55.084 --> 02:03:01.278
My village and it\'s it\'s
hard to retard to deal

02:03:01.279 --> 02:03:08.149
with and I say I really loved my daughter\'s
never thought those things happened.

02:03:08.150 --> 02:03:11.733
Never thought two things happening
which leaves them with their uncles.

02:03:11.734 --> 02:03:14.418
Thinking they\'re going
to be okay never read

02:03:14.419 --> 02:03:18.900
icing that Don customers what
they were doing to my daughters

02:03:31.120 --> 02:03:37.770
And he.

02:03:39.510 --> 02:03:47.510
Yeah yeah

02:03:54.670 --> 02:03:58.649
yeah yeah

02:03:59.930 --> 02:04:07.840
yeah yeah

02:04:24.580 --> 02:04:26.909
Right

02:05:24.490 --> 02:05:26.524
They are not

02:05:26.525 --> 02:05:34.525
a true lit up him right your sister who\'s

02:05:36.920 --> 02:05:41.719
not here As Jack wants to share

02:05:41.720 --> 02:05:47.734
that song with you Linda and your children.

02:05:47.735 --> 02:05:51.859
He wants you to use it and he\'s
instructed us when you want

02:05:51.860 --> 02:05:55.968
help just sing freedom he wants you to

02:05:55.969 --> 02:06:00.018
know that his children are the ones who

02:06:00.019 --> 02:06:05.058
own the song but they\'re sharing
it with you as of tonight.

02:06:05.059 --> 02:06:09.049
I\'d like to have my granddaughter here

02:06:09.050 --> 02:06:17.050
her name is Eisemann hey.

02:06:18.665 --> 02:06:24.090
She\'s my asthma She\'s my granddaughter.

02:06:24.550 --> 02:06:30.364
And for her to be here
with you know to witness.

02:06:30.365 --> 02:06:37.054
What happened today this
is your prevention.

02:06:37.055 --> 02:06:40.039
I would not want to have
my granddaughter go

02:06:40.040 --> 02:06:45.349
through what the two of you have gone
through through all these years.

02:06:45.350 --> 02:06:46.864
She\'s took precious to

02:06:46.865 --> 02:06:52.008
me I say it

02:06:52.009 --> 02:06:58.020
right here and no I don\'t want
anyone touching my granddaughter.

02:06:58.720 --> 02:07:06.720
Because if they touch my granddaughter
They have to contend with me but one

02:07:08.690 --> 02:07:11.808
of the things that I\'d like
to say and I\'d like to do and

02:07:11.809 --> 02:07:18.109
I I really honestly think that it\'s
appropriate to do very appropriate.

02:07:18.110 --> 02:07:26.110
I\'d like to call Jack I\'d had
to come to come and stand

02:07:26.720 --> 02:07:34.039
here too

02:07:34.040 --> 02:07:37.084
hard Jack Sharon

02:07:37.085 --> 02:07:40.259
we wanted to come and stand in replace.

02:07:48.250 --> 02:07:53.279
Of Christie\'s And Linda smoker you\'re on

02:07:53.280 --> 02:07:59.703
this side you know what I
say to you is families.

02:07:59.704 --> 02:08:07.704
You\'re working towards becoming healthy
It\'s okay to have feelings and emotions.

02:08:08.209 --> 02:08:10.459
It\'s okay to cry.

02:08:10.460 --> 02:08:17.134
It\'s okay to scream if you have to one
of the things that I felt today was.

02:08:17.135 --> 02:08:22.489
There\'s some people that are pretty
touchy right now but you know what it\'s

02:08:22.490 --> 02:08:28.594
okay it\'s okay to feel the pains that
you\'re feeling right now in the body.

02:08:28.595 --> 02:08:31.908
There\'s nothing wrong with
it because you know what

02:08:31.909 --> 02:08:35.088
that is it\'s the surging this
surging is going to come up and

02:08:35.089 --> 02:08:39.828
you\'re going to start to
acknowledge the pain when you

02:08:39.829 --> 02:08:45.438
start to acknowledge the pain it goes away

02:08:45.439 --> 02:08:50.478
Because then you become more aware
of what you\'re going to be faced

02:08:50.479 --> 02:08:58.129
with so I honor the two of
you and to your families.

02:08:58.130 --> 02:09:02.550
Your mothers. They gave your life.

02:09:02.800 --> 02:09:07.758
Jack you owned it you\'ve now
showed that people that

02:09:07.759 --> 02:09:12.079
you\'ve owned it now you
can work do the work that

02:09:12.080 --> 02:09:16.488
needs to be done to build that
healthy community and do you have

02:09:16.489 --> 02:09:20.929
a strong force behind you a
year to do that to do that work

02:09:20.930 --> 02:09:28.930
that needs to be done to clean the
house to clean the house Till

02:09:33.640 --> 02:09:36.949
I want my family to come up here because my

02:09:36.950 --> 02:09:39.288
family\'s been sitting in the
back and I want them up

02:09:39.289 --> 02:09:47.289
here oops I want

02:09:47.780 --> 02:09:52.130
my family to be up here because
we\'re proud people too.

02:09:52.570 --> 02:10:00.570
We care for each other we
love each other Linda.

02:10:02.299 --> 02:10:05.464
I\'ve taken all your words.

02:10:05.465 --> 02:10:07.518
Your mother\'s words.

02:10:07.519 --> 02:10:10.609
Your dad\'s words and all the
other words from your family And

02:10:10.610 --> 02:10:16.908
my art and in front of all these people
I have to believe that those words are

02:10:16.909 --> 02:10:22.879
true that we can journey together as dd. as

02:10:22.880 --> 02:10:27.649
one and that\'s my hope out of

02:10:27.650 --> 02:10:31.369
this whole process not just to sit down

02:10:31.370 --> 02:10:35.553
and make a film about how good
we are and pretend we\'re good.

02:10:35.554 --> 02:10:37.653
Let\'s not ever forget that verse.

02:10:37.654 --> 02:10:40.549
We\'ve gone we\'ve hardly
began to deal with some of

02:10:40.550 --> 02:10:43.368
those things that are
really bothering us we

02:10:43.369 --> 02:10:45.903
should never ever lie to
the other communities in

02:10:45.904 --> 02:10:49.504
Canada or in this province that
were ahead of them were not.

02:10:49.505 --> 02:10:57.505
We\'ve only started I get really afraid when
I think about my future as an old man if we

02:10:59.689 --> 02:11:03.468
don\'t do anything now we\'re going to be

02:11:03.469 --> 02:11:07.129
old men burden was all his stuff and
there are younger people are going to be

02:11:07.130 --> 02:11:10.788
chastising and saying you guys had
some you had an opportunity to do

02:11:10.789 --> 02:11:12.709
something when I look at
your video and you guys

02:11:12.710 --> 02:11:15.228
are sitting there you
guys are all bullshit.

02:11:15.229 --> 02:11:18.949
You were lying to us that you\'re
you wanted to make a better future

02:11:18.950 --> 02:11:23.309
for us and now we\'re we\'re
burdened with all your crap.

02:11:24.970 --> 02:11:28.099
As we heard as a family

02:11:28.100 --> 02:11:34.728
to we have to go through the same
things within our own family because

02:11:34.729 --> 02:11:37.788
My nieces my cousins had
been sexually abused

02:11:37.789 --> 02:11:41.148
to we have to deal with that
within our own families it

02:11:41.149 --> 02:11:47.839
happens I have you to thank
for that Linda I want to

02:11:47.840 --> 02:11:55.739
thank you in like my Uncle Charlie Linda.

02:11:57.790 --> 02:12:05.790
This is a beginning a beginning a journey
for our families to come together

02:12:09.640 --> 02:12:17.640
that song that song means
a lot to us And children

02:12:24.350 --> 02:12:27.948
have everything my father\'s
ever giving any of

02:12:27.949 --> 02:12:35.178
us that song is one of the best
gifts that he\'s ever given

02:12:35.179 --> 02:12:42.018
to us that song

02:12:42.019 --> 02:12:46.069
makes me cry it makes me.

02:12:46.070 --> 02:12:48.423
Happy with joy.

02:12:48.424 --> 02:12:55.890
Knowing that he got it from
our elders who passed on

02:13:11.490 --> 02:13:15.368
Dance to that song together

02:13:15.369 --> 02:13:23.369
with it

02:13:47.040 --> 02:13:54.769
I am somebody very dear to me too right

02:13:57.090 --> 02:14:03.969
that\'s my daughter Bonnie
she was the one who opened

02:14:03.970 --> 02:14:08.558
my eyes December of 1996

02:14:08.559 --> 02:14:11.379
Bonnie accompanied by around Viera or

02:14:11.380 --> 02:14:15.230
in Montreal to screen the
final editing of the film.

02:14:15.780 --> 02:14:21.189
These chronicles of net-net started
with the story of a 13-year-old girl it

02:14:21.190 --> 02:14:26.989
was natural to end them with the
same person now a young woman of 19

02:14:38.790 --> 02:14:46.280
As well as many others I am a survivor.

02:14:50.340 --> 02:14:58.340
Even though it was a hard thing to
go through a trial to go through for

02:14:58.735 --> 02:15:06.735
everyone in our family and our
community we all survived.

02:15:08.529 --> 02:15:16.529
There is hope there is a better
way and there is someone out

02:15:18.999 --> 02:15:26.999
there Your family

02:15:27.895 --> 02:15:31.713
could be friend or.

02:15:31.714 --> 02:15:33.834
Total stranger.

02:15:33.835 --> 02:15:37.099
Someone does care.

02:15:40.440 --> 02:15:48.440
I know for Bonnie and is
something that she needs.

02:15:53.850 --> 02:16:01.793
Just as Linda needed and that is

02:16:01.794 --> 02:16:03.859
an apology

02:16:09.480 --> 02:16:12.278
Although that

02:16:12.279 --> 02:16:18.159
apology will not give back to
her what was taken from her.

02:16:18.160 --> 02:16:26.160
I believe it might help
ease the pain the memories.

02:16:28.530 --> 02:16:36.530
I\'m glad that it did come out when
it did six years ago I am glad for

02:16:39.360 --> 02:16:47.360
Bonnie even know Bonnie is younger than I
am I look up to her because of everything

02:16:50.320 --> 02:16:56.738
she had to go through I don\'t want to
see my girls go through anything like

02:16:56.739 --> 02:17:02.799
this it\'s got to be stopped

02:17:02.800 --> 02:17:09.039
somewhere and it will take the young ladies

02:17:09.040 --> 02:17:16.508
to open up not be afraid
and know that it is

02:17:16.509 --> 02:17:24.509
not their fault I felt a lot
of shame a lot of guilt.

02:17:24.550 --> 02:17:32.550
I was in confident of myself but I learned

02:17:37.780 --> 02:17:45.780
Not to live without

02:17:48.109 --> 02:17:52.398
confidence because I wanted

02:17:52.399 --> 02:18:00.399
to reach for the stars

02:18:13.210 --> 02:18:19.829
I learned To accept

02:18:22.390 --> 02:18:30.390
the pain and to put it behind me.

02:18:52.270 --> 02:19:00.270
Somewhere along the way I did
forgive my grandpa Because

02:19:01.480 --> 02:19:05.874
of the role he played in my life

02:19:05.875 --> 02:19:13.760
and and he meant a lot he means a lot.

02:19:18.060 --> 02:19:26.060
I don\'t believe it was my fault I know it
wasn\'t my fault and I know it wasn\'t his fault.

02:19:28.329 --> 02:19:36.329
It was a sickness passed
along somewhere a sickness

02:19:40.230 --> 02:19:46.023
that caused So much

02:19:46.024 --> 02:19:48.210
unnecessary

02:19:55.000 --> 02:19:56.958
as difficult as

02:19:56.959 --> 02:20:01.084
it is to face it to open up about it.

02:20:01.085 --> 02:20:03.303
Talk about it you must

02:20:03.304 --> 02:20:11.304
because no one deserves that pain.

02:20:14.800 --> 02:20:22.309
No matter how bad it seems
you are somebody you

02:20:22.310 --> 02:20:30.310
are worthwhile You are a good person.

02:20:37.680 --> 02:20:42.189
No matter how small you stink.

02:20:42.190 --> 02:20:50.190
You are or how small you feel you gotta believe
that there is good for you in the world

02:21:09.440 --> 02:21:11.769
Yeah

02:21:36.500 --> 02:21:38.840
yeah

02:21:45.610 --> 02:21:53.610
yeah He

02:22:14.810 --> 02:22:22.810
really is

02:22:32.140 --> 02:22:38.400
How high