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(gentle music)

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(keys clacking)

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- I sat in the front and I was a little bit tired,

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and he said, "You can move to the back."

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And we drove for, like, 1 1/2 hours.

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I fell asleep for a bit.

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I woke up, I saw that we are nowhere.

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And then he took out a knife, and he said,

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"Take off your clothes."

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(tense music)

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The moment that it's happening,

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your soul just, it's not there.

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It's just a body.

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- And Miss World 1998 is

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Miss Israel!

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(audience applauding) (triumphant music)

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- [Reporter] As crowds of Israeli fans

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welcomed the new Miss World,

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no one knew of her ordeal just two months earlier.

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(speaking in foreign language)

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- You know, I think that this is so much

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what she has wanted, to come home.

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And the tears are of joy.

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(dramatic music) (camera clicking)

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- I was raped in Milan, Italy when I was 18 years old

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just seven weeks before the Miss World contest.

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I'm launching a website.

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I hope that survivors of rape worldwide

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would use the website as a place to share their accounts

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of pain and healing.

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We cannot stay silent.

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(gentle music)

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There is someone here today who gave me the courage

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to speak out when I was raped.

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It was my mother.

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She didn't tell me to keep quiet.

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She knew that the fault was his, not mine.

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Thank you so much, Mom.

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I wish all victims of rape would have

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the same kind of support that you gave me.

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(tense music)

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The website has been up for a week,

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and there are 691 emails.

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(jet engine roaring)

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(keys clacking)

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(people chattering)

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- I'm honored to now present to you Linor Abargil,

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a heroine in her native country

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whose strength, compassion, and conviction

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will galvanize communities across the world

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to speak out against rape.

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(audience applauding)

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- Good afternoon to everyone here. (chuckles)

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I never wanted to be in pageants,

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but it was a way to travel.

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I entered the Miss Israel competition at the last moment.

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The prize was a trip to Thailand and a new car.

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(audience applauding) - Linor Abargil!

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(upbeat music)

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- I came from a small town.

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A trip and a new car was a big deal.

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Well, after I won Miss Israel, I was sent to Milan, Italy,

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but after two weeks, I felt out of place,

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and I missed my family.

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The modeling agency put me in touch

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with an Israeli agent in Milan named Shlomo Nur.

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I met with him and asked him to get me a flight home

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as soon as possible.

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He finally got me a night flight from Rome,

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and he was willing to drive me there.

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He took a secluded road,

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telling me that avoiding the freeway would save me the toll.

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Those were the longest hours of my life.

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Sorry.

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Rape is so isolating

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because even if you tell people what happened,

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they are afraid to mention it,

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so you're surrounded by silence.

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(tense music)

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- You made me remember something from my childhood

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that I don't think I can say,

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but I'm gonna think about it differently.

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- Wow, I hope.

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This is what I'm trying to do.

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- Thank you.

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- Thank you. - You take care.

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(gentle music)

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- [Linor] I didn't expect today to be so emotional,

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but it was incredible how people reacted afterwards.

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We all have the same pain no matter where you're from.

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- I wasn't in Cleveland, but I know when she spoke,

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she began to cry and she couldn't,

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but when my daughter insists on something,

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if you can't against her, you hug her and go with her.

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This is the way.

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And if not, you lose your child.

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(jet engine roaring) (tense music)

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(keyboard clacking)

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- I didn't feel that you wanted to speak about it with me.

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I didn't feel you were ready.

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It's so sensitive.

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I can't come to you and tell you,

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"I want to speak with you about the rape."

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- [Linor] Why?

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- Because it's, I feel that it has to come from you.

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- You were scared.

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- Maybe, but I gave you the feeling

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that if you want, whenever, to speak about it, I'm here.

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But most of the day,

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you have been crying at your room alone.

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It's difficult.

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- Yeah. - When I was alone,

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I called 1212.

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- [Linor] The Rape Center.

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- Rape Center, yes.

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I said, "I am a mother, my daughter was raped,

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"and I can't,

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"I can't speak with anyone about it."

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And they encourage me, they speak with me--

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- But you don't think

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that you should have talked to Daddy about it?

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- The first time I saw him crying,

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but crying, you know, like a child,

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it was when you were raped.

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Even when his father died,

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I don't remember he cried like this.

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It's crazy.

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(tense music) (jet engine roaring)

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(keys clacking)

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- [Linor] I'm here in New York for a week.

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So many women have written to me through the website.

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A lot of them never told anyone.

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I need to find a way to help them speak up,

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so they can start to heal.

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I think you're the first girl that really wrote the site.

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- I went to get a bowl of cereal for dinner.

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And as I was eating my cereal,

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this hand came around from behind me.

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My name is Jennifer, and I was raped when I was 23.

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My first moment was shame and shock and fear.

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- My family doesn't know.

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- [Linor] Why?

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- My mom, I'm afraid

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that she'll look at me and be disappointed

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because so many times when I was younger, she'd say,

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"Oh, just be careful because you're gonna get raped."

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It will end up happening, you know.

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Your daughter is out drinking, is drugged, and then raped,

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and, you know, I feel

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like that's every mother's worst nightmare.

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- Isn't it more painful not to talk about it,

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act like it never happened?

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- I don't know.

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I'm scared to bring it up.

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- There is nothing to be scared of

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because the worst thing has already happened.

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Let's put it this way.

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(both laughing))

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- [Julie] it's hard.

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- I believe you.

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It's the harder thing to do, I know, to speak,

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but then, it's like the best pill.

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It heals you.

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It's much worse when you don't.

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I think I can be a really good pusher.

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I'm not gonna tell you, "Oh, I'm so sorry for you.

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"It's so sad," okay, I can tell you that,

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but it's not gonna help you recover.

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I mean, you have your friends for that,

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you have your family, hopefully, for that,

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to hug you all day and tell you how poor and weak you are.

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It's not the point.

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You need to heal yourself,

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and we need to push each other to do it.

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No mercy.

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- [Reporter] in Israel, the trial has begun

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in the case of a man accused of raping a model

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just six weeks before she won the Miss World beauty pageant.

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Shlomo Nur could face up to 56 years in prison

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if convicted of abduction, rape, and sodomy.

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(speaking in foreign language)

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- [Translator] What have I got to be sorry for?

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I only regret believing in the state of Israel,

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but her crown has blinded you all.

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- So, you think Linor Abargil made this up

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Just to further her career?

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- Exactly, ma'am.

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And Miss World she win because this story.

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And everybody know about it.

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- So, you will never admit to this crime?

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- No, ma'am.

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And I can't believe it, and I will go to fight.

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(Linor sighs)

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- [Interviewer] Will you tell us what happened?

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- The girl from the Rape Crisis Center

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called and told me that Nur is up for parole

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and that he got to leave the jail, I guess, for some days,

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which is, I think, horrible.

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He shouldn't have even one vacation.

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(tense music)

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- [Interviewer] And how does that feel?

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- I don't feel like doing this right now.

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- [Interviewer] Okay, is there anything else you'd.

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(speaking foreign language)

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- [Linor] No, don't shoot me, please.

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(keys clacking)

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(sullen music)

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- I had bruises, like, on my knee, and they said,

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"If you had had injuries elsewhere, like on your face,

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{it might have been more compelling,

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"but there's just no case, we can't press charges."

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So, I just felt so defeated.

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- The police felt that I wasn't

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holding up my end of the bargain

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because I'm blind and I couldn't describe the rapist.

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- When I went to the DA,

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it was the first time I met with her, and I went in,

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she sat down, and she said

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that she thought that he was cute, and

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she tried to convince me

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that I had just had a weak moment and that it was my fault.

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- He got one year in jail.

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- [Linor] oh, my God.

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- And I never understood that

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because he had done it to me for nine years.

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It's so unfair that he's out there probably still doing it.

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(tense music)

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- [Linor] Nur's prison sentence is much too short,

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but it's a lot more than most other victims get.

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What does it take to see justice?

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- When Nur Shlomo decided to visit his family in Israel,

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he had no way of knowing Linor Abargil

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had filed charges against him,

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not only in Italy, but here as well.

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When he arrived here at Ben Gurion airport,

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police were waiting for him.

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He was arrested and charged

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with kidnapping and raping the teenage beauty queen.

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- [Linor] I think people are surprised

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to see me in law school,

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but it's something I always wanted to do.

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I just finished high school.

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I want to be a lawyer for criminal cases,

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and I hope my dream will come true.

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- Thanks a lot, Linor, thank you very, very much.

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Thank you.

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(audience applauding)

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- When she was born, she was so fat.

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(Linor laughs)

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And when people asked me, "How old is she?"

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I said, "She's already one year,"

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and she was only four months because she was fat and nice,

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and here it was so red, you know?

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Very beautiful child.

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And she was very good at school.

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But I was always behind, you know, because I'm a teacher,

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I can't be not a teacher.

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It's in my blood. (laughs)

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- {Linor] Behind, in the center and in the sides,

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you were everywhere. (speaking foreign language)

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(jet engine roaring)

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(keys clacking)

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- [Reporter] Interpol says South Africa

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is the world's rape capital.

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In fact, a woman born in South Africa

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is more likely to be raped than educated.

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A recent police study estimates

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that only one in 36 rape cases are reported.

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(gentle music)

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(keyboard clacking) - Hi!

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- [Woman] Do you want to meet Linor?

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- What's your name?

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- Sharon.

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I was raped by the person that I know,

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and he was related to my aunt.

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- [Linor] How old are you?

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- I'm 12.

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- Oh, my God.

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- They want to spread HIV and AIDS.

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When they rape a little young girl, they think, "You know,

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"that girl is still a virgin,

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"I'm gonna spread that disease to her,

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"and I'm gonna get cured."

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- I'm so proud of you.

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You don't know how much.

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And I know I am leaving here knowing

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that you're gonna help also other kids.

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- Thank you for listening to our stories.

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- Thank you for sharing. - Yeah, not many people

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would take the time to come

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- Seriously. - and listen to some kids

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who've been raped. - No one wants

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to listen to us.

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It's like people feel like, "Ah, she just wants attention.

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"can you just give her?

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- "Even though she cries, she wants attention."

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- Yeah.

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- And you know what you say

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when they tell you you want attention?

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You tell them, "Yes."

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(girls laughing)

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True?

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- Yeah. - "This is what I want.

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"And if you don't give it to me, I'll cry louder."

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(girls laughing)

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Come.

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(singing in foreign language)

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(tense music)

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They say that every three minutes

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a girl is being raped here,

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so there is a lot of work to do in South Africa.

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- I had just parked my car outside my house.

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I had just arrived home. - Inside your house?

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- Yeah, I didn't have a garage,

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so I had to park on the street.

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So, they just opened my door.

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They had a knife.

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They put the knife at my throat and said to me,

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"Move over or else we'll kill you."

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They took me out to, like, a bushy,

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remote area just outside the city.

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- [Linor] With your car?

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- Yeah, with my car.

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There was no one to shout for help.

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I just thought, "Don't make them upset,"

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and I just put my hands on the ceiling of the car,

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so I didn't have to touch them.

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And I tried, while they both raped me,

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to think of other things.

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I mean, what do you say?

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I remember just saying to them, "Please don't kill me."

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- [Linor] Yeah.

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- And he just said, "Sorry."

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They dragged me out of the car

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and stabbed me in my abdomen about 35, 36 times.

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- [Linor] Oh, my god.

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- While that was happening,

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I think it must have just been a reflex reaction,

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my leg kind of gave a twitch,

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and he realized I was still alive.

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So, he took his knife, and he cut my throat.

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I remember even hearing one of them say to the other,

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"Is she dead?"

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And the other one said, "No one can live through that."

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And then they got in my car and drove off.

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What happened, they'd cut my neck,

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amazingly missing the jugular vein here

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by less than millimeters, but they'd cut this muscle.

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And when I stood up, without this muscle,

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I couldn't control my head,

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and my head flopped right back onto my back.

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(Linor gasps) Yes, I know.

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I just kind of put my hand to the back of my head,

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and I literally held my head on and everything else in.

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I don't know how long it took me,

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I don't know how many times I fell,

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I don't remember most of that journey,

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but yeah, made it to the road.

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Although I believe I was one of the first in South Africa

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to speak so openly,

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it wasn't something that I did consciously.

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I just did it.

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And so, I became this icon without intending to be.

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So, what I say gets quoted, and same with you.

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So, it is up to us because we're the only ones

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who can explain what it feels like.

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We're the only ones to let people

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who've never experienced it know that it's with you

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for the rest of your life, that it's not just sex.

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How would they know otherwise?

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- For me, like, most of the girls that I meet,

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I have to give more than I get, but with you,

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I feel like I got some.

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Well, thank you 'cause it's lovely for me,

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and to know that there's special people out there like you

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who believe in making the difference too and don't give up.

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(gentle music)

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(keys clacking)

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- I remember very well when that crown was put on your head.

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You were so beautiful.

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You are still beautiful.

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My question to you is,

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did you forgive that guy who raped you?

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- I felt sorry for the guy.

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(audience murmurs)

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I felt sorry, not sorry in a way that I think,

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not in that way.

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I felt sorry for people that have to live this way,

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in hurting other people, they feel better with their life.

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- I'm also a survivor, a rape survivor.

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I mean, I have a daughter of eight months old.

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The question is, you know, how do I protect my daughter?

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I couldn't protect myself.

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And I really have to salute you

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from a sister to another sister, you know.

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And I would like to give you a hug.

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- Yeah!

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(audience applauding)

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(singing in foreign language)

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South African women were really amazing.

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They were telling these horrible stories,

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but then, at the same time, they were so happy

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and so, like, full of life and so spiritual.

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I looked at them, I was like, "What do they want from me?

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"I can take so much from them."

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(keys clacking)

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(dog barks)

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I always believed that everything is from God,

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but I didn't understand.

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So, I started studying, studying the Kabbalah

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and studying the Bible.

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I accepted an invitation to speak

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at a university in the States.

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- [Reporter] According to the most recent statistics,

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one in five college women

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will be the victim of rape or attempted rape,

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and only 12% of those women report it.

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- [Men] No means yes, yes means anal!

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No means yes, yes means anal!

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- Yale University.

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The pledges of the Delta Kappa Epsilon fraternity

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were shouting this stuff in an area of campus

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where freshmen women live.

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Imagine being an 18-year-old young woman in a new place

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hearing a gang of young men moving around in the dark

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chanting about rape in an area that's supposed to be

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a safe home away from home.

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(jet engine roars)

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- Princeton does better

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than some other schools about reporting,

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but universities look the other way.

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It's not in their interest to disclose cases

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of rape and assault,

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even if it means it's not safe on campus.

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I want to shout out to anyone who wants to listen

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that rape can happen to anyone.

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I was 18.

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- [Motty] Princeton University.

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- Even if you were drinking,

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even if you went to his room or somewhere in private,

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if you don't want to do it, it's sexual assault.

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The university has asked me

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not to meet with students on campus,

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but I'm going to be in the Nassau Inn,

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and if anyone would like to speak to me

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on or off the record,

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I would be very happy to meet with you.

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- [Blonde Woman] I knew this guy.

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He was on a varsity sports team,

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and he came over and locked the door,

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just turned off the lights,

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and I just kind of, like, froze after a while,

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and let him do whatever.

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- [Linor] Did you file a report?

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- [Blonde Woman] No, I didn't.

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They said that if I wanted to, I could press charges,

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but that it would probably be more painful for me

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than it would be for him.

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- [Linor] Do you think it's the right way to go?

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- I think that I would be seen as,

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like, going against the wishes of the school

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and of the culture of Princeton.

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- Like they really care about their students

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after they leave and don't pay them money anymore.

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- [Blonde Woman] Well, I think, I mean, yeah,

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I guess I have a different take on that

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because I have a lot of family members who went to Princeton

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and it's very much considered, like, a family thing.

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I was really scared to do that,

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but I think it's really important

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to share that this kind of thing happens on campus.

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(solemn music)

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- I think there is a crisis

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on college campuses all around the States.

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I heard from a student in Santa Barbara

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who got raped by a soccer player.

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She did press charges against him,

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but no one supported her.

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I guess everyone in Santa Barbara were turned against her.

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What's going on at these colleges?

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- [Reporter] Eric Frimpong was focused

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on his education and his sport according to his friends,

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but authorities say Frimpong's focus last February

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was on a woman they say he raped on the beach in Isla Vista.

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- [Reporter] Frimpong, pictured here

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wearing jersey number 12, is a member

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of the Men's National Champion Soccer team.

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- My name is Tricia, and I was raped when I was 19.

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- [Linor] and this is a guy you knew before?

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- I met him an hour before, just on the street,

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just walking between parties.

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He said, "Oh, come back to my house,

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"and we'll play some drinking games."

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And that didn't sound unusual.

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So, yeah, I said, "Sure."

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- Okay. - So, after the game,

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we walked to the beach,

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and the next thing I remember very clearly

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is being thrown to the ground, and he was on top of me,

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and he started choking me.

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I was just helpless.

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100% couldn't move.

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- I had never heard that tone in her voice

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when she called me to pick her up.

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She had sand all over her, her bruises were coming out.

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I've never been that scared before, ever, in my life.

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- And so, I picked him out of the lineup,

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and they told me who he was.

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And they said, "Just so you know, he is a soccer player,

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"so this might not be quiet."

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The student who raped me turned out to be a big soccer star

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at the university that I go to.

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So, nobody wanted to believe my side of the story.

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They just loved him.

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- [Linor] How much time it took you to put him in prison?

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- Year and a half.

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- [Linor] How much did he get?

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- Six years.

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- [Munni] It was all over campus.

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Everyone was talking about it every minute of the day.

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- Well, it was like the front news story

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of the school newspaper, a lot.

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- And the Santa Barbara newspaper.

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- Yeah.

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You're so lucky that you have each other, really.

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- We're lucky.

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- [Munni] I love you.

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(Linor laughs)

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Bye.

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- My friends and my parents, if I wouldn't share with them,

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they wouldn't be able to help me

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or to just give me what I need,

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which is love and just sometimes just a hug or, you know?

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And saying that, "I'm there for you, don't worry."

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- [Group] Shabbat Shalom!

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- Shabbat Shalom.

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(dog barking)

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Me and my husband are not very religious,

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but when Linor is here, we make the efforts to respect her.

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One day, I come home, and I see all my cupboards empty.

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Linor took all my dishes to the mikveh to make them kosher.

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A few dishes she can't make kosher.

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She has to throw them to the garbage.

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I said, "Okay, we'll buy new ones."

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- The guy that was her boyfriend,

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he didn't know how to handle the situation.

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It was very important for me to make her feel,

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first of all, secure with a man,

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and although that, you know, I'm gay,

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I wanted to let you feel as a woman again.

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- For a really long time after the rape,

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sex had, was completely detached from love and romance.

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- I couldn't let myself go,

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I couldn't enjoy, I couldn't get pleasure,

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and I was always tense, and eventually, you know,

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it affected my relationship,

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my private relationship with men.

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- I don't like to be touched most ways.

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I have to direct every single move that my husband makes

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in order for me to feel comfortable with him.

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(tense music)

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- He was playing basketball in Israel.

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He was very good.

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I never watched basketball.

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I didn't know what I want.

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I was searching for that day, I mean,

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probably not in the right place.

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By the Jewish law, when you get married

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to somebody that's not Jewish,

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you didn't get married, you're not married.

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So, I didn't.

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(jet engine roars)

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(keys clacking)

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I'm traveling on my own this time.

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Thank you for supporting us and the Teddy Bear Clinic.

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What I loved about these girls, very young girls,

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I have to say, that they weren't ashamed

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to say what happened to them.

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We need to speak out.

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This is the only way.

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My website is over 30,000 visitors.

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I've been getting emails from every country

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you can think of.

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I'm so proud of everyone who posted their stories.

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I know it's not easy.

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I found another activist here in L.A. who is also a victim.

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Hi! - Hello, Lino, how are you?

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- How are you? - It's nice to meet you.

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My name is Jim, and I was sexually victimized when I was 15.

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- Last Friday, we opened the floodgates

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on the shame millions of men

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have been living with for years.

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I was so shocked to learn

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that one out of six men in this country

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have been sexually abused.

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- He was the director of the CYO camp.

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I looked up to him because I thought he was a man's man.

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He came into my room, and he said, "Don't worry."

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And I, you know, hid my head under the pillow

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and I tried to not be there.

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I became an FBI profiler and specialized in the field

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of child sexual victimization.

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Grooming is the methodology

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that they get access and control and authority over children

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and then get the kids not to disclose

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and also to keep coming back.

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One of the best methods is to get a child

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to do something they know is wrong.

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So, he let me drive without a license,

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he gave me beer when I was underage,

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and he gave me porno magazines to look at.

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And I knew all three of those things

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my parents did not allow me to do.

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So, it's like a control mechanism.

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In the thing that happened to you,

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did you know this person beforehand?

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- Yeah, I knew him only for three days.

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So, for me, it wasn't like, really, I knew him.

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I trusted him because I was very young and innocent.

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- Was he in a position of authority or--

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- A travel agent.

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- And he took advantage of that position.

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- Exactly, exactly.

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(tense music)

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A celebrity fashion designer had been accused

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of assaulting dozens of young aspiring models

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all over the country.

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- [Announcer] Anand Jon!

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- [Linor] He was being sentenced while I was in L.A.,

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so I went to the courthouse to give support to the victims.

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- What new evidence do you have?

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- There is a videotape of me having consensual sex

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with the alleged rape victim.

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And it's gone missing.

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- [David] Which alleged rape victim?

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- [Linor] This was the first time I had been to a courtroom

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since my trial more than 10 years ago.

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- And if I made a mistake,

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if I could have checked somebody's ID better,

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I'll accept that.

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Rape?

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Uh-uh, no.

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No, you might as well give me the death penalty.

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It's madness!

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(train whistle blaring)

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That is not what happened.

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She knows it, I know it.

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I passed the lie detector test.

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I know it's not admissible, but when something.

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- [Reporter] Miss World, Linor Abargil,

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took the witness stand for two consecutive days.

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She told the judges, "I'm going through a second rape.

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"I now understand why girls are afraid to report."

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(tense music)

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- Your motion for a new trial is denied.

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(people chattering)

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- [Linor] I realize how hard it is for me to do it.

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Who am I?

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Like, I'm 29 years old, from Israel,

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who was raped like all the other girls I'm talking to.

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And I'm playing like a big mama, which I'm not, you know?

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And trying to save the world, which I can't.

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I see what I'm going through, like, at night,

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it's getting inside my body, you know,

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to see all the pain of these girls.

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- Linor called me for an emergency session,

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so I accommodated her pretty late at night.

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She was having symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder

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she didn't have for a long time,

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such as inability to sleep, nightmares, flashbacks.

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- See what's happening to you.

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You have, you know,

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people pass so many crises in their life.

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Why to make another one if you can choose not to do it?

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(tense music)

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- I cannot go with all this weight on my shoulders.

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(train whistle blaring)

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I feel like I'm drowning.

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Right now, I cannot continue doing that.

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(upbeat music)

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- When she start with the religious,

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it was very, very, very difficult to me and my husband.

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It's like losing your child.

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I couldn't accept it,

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especially when she change her clothes.

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But many, many victims become anorexic,

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physical problem, spiritual problem,

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so if it make her happy, we're happy.

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It's her decision.

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- I was not the same.

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I was going out drinking

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just to suppress and numb everything.

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- I'd been keeping a secret of an eating disorder,

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keeping a secret of being a victim of rape.

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And there was too much.

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I couldn't handle it anymore, and I wasn't healthy.

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I wasn't, I wasn't happy.

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I was miserable.

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- I would just sit there and think,

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"If I just cut my skin, it would feel so much better,"

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and I never knew why.

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- I actually used a pair of scissors,

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pressed down and dragged them across my forearm.

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- I got this knife, and I started to cut myself

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inside of my palm and my arms and my legs

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to punish myself because I was not capable of running away

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or use my hands to protect myself.

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- Do you find that there is a connection

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between what happened to you

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and the way that you have become religious?

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You know, people are going into it when they are in trouble.

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- Until we become religious, we all in trouble

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because we are always looking for something,

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something that is stronger than us.

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- [Interviewer] Well, could you marry Oron

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if his beliefs are different from yours?

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- We believe in the same thing.

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We do.

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- [Interviewer] So, you can't--

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- [Motty] He's not keeping the Shabbat.

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- He does with me.

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- That's not true.

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- [Linor] He does.

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- Smoking and the Shabbat and watching television,

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it's not keeping Shabbat.

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- Hopefully, it will happen.

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But you know what?

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You never know what will be.

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You never know.

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(tense music)

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Nur's parole hearing is coming up again.

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They need to know about the other victims,

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the women before me who tried to get him convicted

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but the courts didn't believe them.

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(gentle music)

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- I couldn't sleep last night.

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She's starting a new life with a great guy.

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He will take care of her.

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Our friendship will stay, but my role will be different,

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but it's okay.

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I hug her in my heart.

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(cheerful music)

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(audience cheering)

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(lively music) (guests clapping rhythmically)

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(tense music) (jet engine roaring)

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(keyboard clacking)

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- I had to come back to Italy.

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Oron and I are trying to start a family.

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I think I have to face the past

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in order to open the door to the future.

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Hi, Adele?

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(Linor sighs)

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- She said, "Even if I know, I wouldn't give it to you."

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- I'm sure, by the way, she know.

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The way she talked, you know, she knows.

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- Yeah, by the way she talked, she knows her.

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- Did you know about the first rape of (beep)?

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Did you know it?

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- The first case, I knew on the sentence

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because I read the sentence.

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- I see. - And I produced the sentence

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on front of the judge in your case

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to explain that Shlomo Uri is usual in this kind of crime.

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- Do you know which evidence they found?

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- They didn't find the knife?

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- I think no. - No?

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- But it's too much clear that it would have been used

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because you are full of

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- Stabs. - stabs.

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- It doesn't make sense with so many evidence

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to release someone.

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I mean, it make you think

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why would anybody go to the police.

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- It was my last day in Milan.

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I had been trying to find Nur's other victim.

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The girl was his secretary here,

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but we hadn't been able to track her down.

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(tense music)

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- [Motty] Okay.

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- She said, "Hi, I'm the girl

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"that Nur did the same 16 years ago."

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And she said that this happened to her the same.

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Took her to the same place, and she pressed charges,

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and nobody believed her.

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I just told her, "Listen, everything is so planned.

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"We weren't supposed to be here, you cannot disappear."

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She was paralyzed.

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I didn't get a letter to the parole board

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from Nur's victim here.

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She was too afraid.

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(tense music)

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- [Linor] I still have to work through what happened to me.

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I know I need to.

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- I can't wait to get to Rome to see my angel,

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the person who helped me turn everything around.

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This is where I met Nur.

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This was his agency, now it's something else.

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And the first time that I saw him was here

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when I wanted to get a ticket to Tel Aviv.

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He came to pick me up, and he said he wants to go

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through the apartment to take some stuff.

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This is the last place that I was

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before the most horrible thing in my life happened, here.

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- I was four years old the first time

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that he laid me down on the floor.

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- He folded me over the tub,

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and he raped and sodomized me, and.

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- I couldn't even raise up a hand because my body shut down.

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- You don't even think of getting out of there.

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You're like, "You know what?

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"This is the end of me."

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And not even dying, you just think, you know,

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the whole pain that they're causing,

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it has already killed you.

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(tense music)

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- I was just so not prepared to what happened.

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I was paralyzed.

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First, I started screaming, so he punched my face.

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He took out masking tape and rope.

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He tied my hands and put the masking tape on my mouth

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that I wouldn't speak.

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And then he raped me again like this.

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I was shouting.

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I felt like I was fighting for my life.

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He started to freak out and took a plastic bag

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and put it on my head.

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I thought, "That's the end of me."

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And then in one moment, he stopped.

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Just stopped.

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He started to tell me that he's sorry,

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that he can't believe that he did it again.

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I saw that he's coming back to himself,

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so I said, "Now, you're gonna show me

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"that you're a good man,

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"and you're gonna take me to the train."

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I knew that if I'll cry, he's gonna kill me.

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So, I didn't cry.

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We never left Milan.

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We were circling around Milan.

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Put my suitcases on the train

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and just told me to call him when I get there

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because he's gonna worry, gonna be worried.

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And then he left.

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So, I went down, I had this phone here with Telecard.

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- 5:30 in the morning, your call.

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And I remember it, and I won't forget it.

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And Linor said.

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- After being raped twice, sodomized, tied, strangled

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in very brutal ways, stabbed

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she has the intelligence and the calmness

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to reassure him that if he would let her go,

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he would be okay and she would not press charges.

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And this is something I think saved her life.

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(peaceful music)

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- [Linor] Even more than the rape,

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I felt more hopeless in that train ride

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because I didn't know what was gonna be there,

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like, who's gonna wait for me there

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'cause I just hang up the phone with my mom.

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- For me, it's still a trauma, this train

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'cause you didn't go with iPhone or mobile.

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You couldn't speak.

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Eight hours I waited to phone call,

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and I spoke with her boyfriend.

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- [Linor] I have never stopped thinking of Ofira.

00:51:48.754 --> 00:51:51.337
Without her, I wouldn't have a case.

00:52:20.724 --> 00:52:23.644
- I met Linor when she came to Roma

00:52:23.644 --> 00:52:26.554
a day after she's been raped in Milano.

00:52:26.554 --> 00:52:30.394
I went with her to the police station and to the hospital,

00:52:30.394 --> 00:52:33.547
and I gave my testimony in her trial in Israel.

00:52:34.916 --> 00:52:37.666
(Linor chuckles)

00:52:53.979 --> 00:52:56.562
(gentle music)

00:52:57.504 --> 00:53:00.144
- [Linor] I did the thing that scared me the most.

00:53:00.144 --> 00:53:03.524
It felt really good to go back to Italy by choice

00:53:03.524 --> 00:53:05.359
and to be in control.

00:53:05.359 --> 00:53:08.222
(speaking in foreign language)

00:53:08.222 --> 00:53:10.754
I feel relieved, and I believe I'm going

00:53:10.754 --> 00:53:13.949
to have an open in space in my heart now.

00:53:13.949 --> 00:53:17.616
(speaking foreign language)

00:54:22.747 --> 00:54:24.883
(peaceful music)

00:54:24.883 --> 00:54:27.836
(keys clacking)

00:54:27.836 --> 00:54:32.253
♪ Mother, should I run for president ♪

00:54:44.586 --> 00:54:49.253
♪ Mother, should I trust the government ♪

00:55:01.176 --> 00:55:06.176
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:55:06.789 --> 00:55:11.789
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:55:11.975 --> 00:55:14.216
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:55:14.216 --> 00:55:19.216
♪ Of course mama's gonna help build the wall ♪

00:55:27.803 --> 00:55:32.803
♪ Hush now, baby, baby, don't you cry ♪

00:55:32.889 --> 00:55:35.639
(Linor laughing)

00:55:36.529 --> 00:55:41.529
♪ Mama's gonna wait up till you get in ♪

00:55:42.139 --> 00:55:47.139
♪ Mama will always find out where you've been ♪

00:55:47.358 --> 00:55:52.358
♪ Mama's gonna keep baby healthy and clean ♪

00:55:56.704 --> 00:56:01.704
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:56:02.693 --> 00:56:07.693
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:56:07.974 --> 00:56:09.986
♪ Ooh, babe ♪

00:56:09.986 --> 00:56:13.819
♪ You'll always be baby to me ♪

00:56:20.117 --> 00:56:24.450
♪ Mother, did it need to be so high ♪

00:57:10.732 --> 00:57:13.315
(gentle music)

00:57:25.582 --> 00:57:30.582
♪ Winter time, I'm confused and feeling low-down ♪

00:57:32.027 --> 00:57:34.604
♪ The house is cold ♪

00:57:34.604 --> 00:57:38.854
♪ And you, you're not around ♪

00:57:38.854 --> 00:57:41.537
♪ I'm tryin' to call you ♪

00:57:41.537 --> 00:57:45.677
♪ But you're not there ♪

00:57:45.677 --> 00:57:48.256
♪ Just want to tell you ♪

00:57:48.256 --> 00:57:51.090
♪ How much I care ♪

00:57:51.090 --> 00:57:53.419
♪ And tell you, I'm sorry ♪

00:57:53.419 --> 00:57:55.157
♪ I'm sorry ♪

00:57:55.157 --> 00:57:56.820
♪ So, when I talked to Linor last, ♪

00:57:56.820 --> 00:57:58.631
She told me, "You have to talk to your family.

00:57:58.631 --> 00:57:59.924
"The worst has already happened."

00:57:59.924 --> 00:58:01.444
And she was completely right.

00:58:01.444 --> 00:58:04.534
- The opportunity to speak with Linor,

00:58:04.534 --> 00:58:09.424
while terrifying, really, it showed me that I'm not alone.

00:58:09.424 --> 00:58:11.154
No one deserves to be treated like that,

00:58:11.154 --> 00:58:13.884
and I finally have my voice back.

00:58:13.884 --> 00:58:15.914
- It's put me in touch for the first time

00:58:15.914 --> 00:58:20.774
with people who have also survived rape, molestation,

00:58:20.774 --> 00:58:21.814
and it's helped me to realize

00:58:21.814 --> 00:58:23.664
that despite what happened to me,

00:58:23.664 --> 00:58:27.454
I can go on and have a happy life.

00:58:27.454 --> 00:58:30.124
- Since meeting you, Linor, I got married,

00:58:30.124 --> 00:58:33.424
and it's all because you helped and encouraged me

00:58:33.424 --> 00:58:36.424
to continue following the hopes and dreams

00:58:36.424 --> 00:58:40.024
that I had before the rape, and I thank you for that.

00:58:40.024 --> 00:58:41.904
- Since meeting Linor, Munni and I

00:58:41.904 --> 00:58:45.294
have graduated from college, still living together.

00:58:45.294 --> 00:58:47.684
As a person who has not experienced this,

00:58:47.684 --> 00:58:50.494
you cannot know how it feels,

00:58:50.494 --> 00:58:53.034
but that doesn't mean that you can't be a support system.

00:58:53.034 --> 00:58:54.384
- Yeah.

00:58:54.384 --> 00:58:57.151
- I am very, very proud of her, very.

00:58:58.203 --> 00:58:59.403
You don't know how much.

00:59:21.890 --> 00:59:23.067
♪ My baby ♪

00:59:23.067 --> 00:59:25.530
♪ My baby ♪

00:59:25.530 --> 00:59:28.843
♪ I'm here to see you through ♪

00:59:28.843 --> 00:59:32.693
♪ Oh, I'm here to see you through ♪

00:59:32.693 --> 00:59:35.266
♪ I'm here to see you through ♪

00:59:35.266 --> 00:59:38.730
♪ We can survive ♪

00:59:38.730 --> 00:59:40.730
♪ Oh oh ♪