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(seagulls squawking)

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(upbeat music)
(ferry horn blaring)

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- The ferry brings thousands
of people every day

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from Staten Island to Manhattan to work.

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There\'s a culture that only
really happens on the boat.

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You have people at the same time,

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same place, almost every day.

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Some passengers read,
some drink their coffee.

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Most people just do their
normal commuter routines.

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But not us, we have our own special place

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that we go to where no man has ever been.

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- The women\'s bathroom is a phenomenon.

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You have no idea the scope of
what goes on in that bathroom.

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- It\'s a big mystery to most people

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because they keep wondering

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why are all these women coming in here?

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It\'s this black hole almost.

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It\'s like, they seem to go in

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and they don\'t seem to come out.

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And it\'s not that they don\'t come out.

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It\'s just, they come out
looking like different people.

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- It\'s it\'s like, I\'ve secretly clubhouse.

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That\'s what I think it is.

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- This is what we do in the morning.

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We have a cup of coffee

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and I used to always
call up the transformer

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because we walk in there,
looking like pure (beep),

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and walking out looking like a rad girl.

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- Let me see them both.

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- I\'m 29 years old.

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I have a husband.

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I have four children.

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I work in finance or
public relations firm.

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I\'ve been getting on the ferry,
since I was 14 years old.

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I started going into the
ladies bathroom five years ago.

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It took me a couple of times.

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And it was a riot in there.

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It was a riot.

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And once you build that
momentum of all of the energy

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like a synergy that happens in there.

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It\'s unlike any other place
that I\'ve ever been in.

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- I grew up right on
the water in Bay Ridge.

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So bringing up the water

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and hearing the ferry
go off in the mornings

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when I\'m up very early and
everything is really silent.

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I\'ll know what time it
is by the ferry signal.

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If it\'s the half hour or the hour.

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So it\'s really, it\'s a comfort.

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- I was born and raised in Brooklyn.

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My husband and I moved to
Staten Island five years ago.

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Two things I really love
about living in Staten Island

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is I love my house

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and I love coming on
the ferry twice a day.

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- I didn\'t start wearing makeup

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up until like two years
ago, like makeup, makeup.

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I never wore makeup, I
couldn\'t be bothered.

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Then three kids, and a
house still looking haggard.

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People start asking you, are you tired?

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Do you feel alright?

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Then you know it\'s time to wear makeup.

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Before it was the blush, the
lipstick, a little mascara.

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No, yeah, you know, it\'s full face.

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- If it\'d been me, it
been like excuse me. Bye.

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(laughter)

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- I come in with my loud self, you know

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bringing out the true
personality in people.

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I actually came to Staten Island

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through a battered woman\'s shelter.

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Okay. I was a battered woman.

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No, you know, you wouldn\'t think that

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the way I looked now. All
sexy, and foxy and energetic.

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I was a very depressed person back then

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which that was about nine
years ago. No, 11 years ago.

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I started working the hand,

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and I started going in
the women\'s bathroom.

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And, it\'s just been a part
of my life ever since.

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I\'m a survivor and that\'s, that\'s,

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that\'s the end of the story.

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And my personality is going
to get me through anything.

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I can get through an earthquake.

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Okay. With wax shoes on.

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- Big brown brush.

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Funny a long time ago,

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I said I want to be the next Donna Karen.

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And then reality struck.

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For eight years I was working two jobs.

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I was working night and day.

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My husband he\'s been at
school this whole time.

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Yes. I\'ve been ready to
kill him late lately.

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I went from the benches to in here

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because I couldn\'t take
the people staring at me.

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And back then, a lot of men rode the boat.

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There\'s a lot more women working now.

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- I\'ve been taking the ferry
as long as I can remember.

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I\'m a student, I\'m a mother.

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I have three children.

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I\'m a wife.

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I\'m a full-time socio therapist
for a foster care agency.

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I\'m a lot of things to a
lot of different people.

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When you ask them, who am I to me?

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I\'m finding that out every day.

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(birds chirping)

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- Well, my alarm rings
technically at 5:30.

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I don\'t get out of bed until maybe 6:15

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- Five o\'clock my alarm goes off by 5:30.

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I already have a wake up call.

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One of my best friends calls me

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and wakes me up every morning.

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You up? I\'m up. Get out of bed.

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I\'m a bad hanger.

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- My morning routine is.

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Number one, rolling over

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and thanking God, I woke up this morning.

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(alarm sounding)

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- I hit the snooze for like two
or three times. Love snooze.

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Snooze was like the best
invention there ever was.

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- It\'s very important
not to turn on the light.

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When you get back out of the shower

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that you can get dressed
by the light in the hallway

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because your husband is
not ready to get up yet.

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- So when I wake up, I
by immediately come down

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and have four cups of coffee.

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- It\'s one kid at a time.

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You know, and you got to kiss your kids,

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so you have boogers on your shirt.

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Everybody packs up their
school bags with their lunches.

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And then I dropped them at the sitter.

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Yelling, screaming, and throwing (beep).

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It\'s is a regular black mom syndrome.

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- In the meantime, my husband is like

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Irma I\'ll be downstairs.

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I\'m like, okay, I\'ll be there in a minute.

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15 minutes later,

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I manage to pick out
something clean to wear.

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It sort of matches.

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- I\'ve been known to get in the car

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with my slipper because you
don\'t get yourself together,

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you get your family together.

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I\'m always running for the ferry.

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I don\'t care what time
I leave for the ferry.

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I always get it when the doors are closing

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and a famous noise is beep,
beep, you hear that sound

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and you going to be a jogger.

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(ferry horn)

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(seagulls squawking)

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- I go to the powder room to talk

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to women that I wouldn\'t be able to talk

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to regularly because we\'re all so busy.

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And we get to share ideas

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share our feelings about life, work, love

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and everything else.

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- Get to know one another,

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and we learn a lot from one another.

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And, we share makeup and we share tips

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and we share how to
get rid of no good men,

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and we share how to a
beat, other women up.

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In the powder room.

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- In the powder room.

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- And we learn how to get
good deals on a house.

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- Yes.

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- Oh did you just get your
deck, who did you use? You know.

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- We get caught up in jobs and families,

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and homes and gardening and husbands.

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- You talk about everything.

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I mean we get deep, deep into it.

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- Vacation spots. Where you been? Oh yeah?

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- Secret spots.

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- I\'m sure if I wasn\'t so tall,

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- We talk about sex most of the time.

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- And that 30 minutes. Is you and girls.

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(women chatting)

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- I had never wanted to be a part

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of a click in my life, but I think I am.

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Oh, it\'s so ridiculous, honey.

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But, I\'m a part of the ferry click.

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(women chatting)

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- They was very snotty to me.

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They was very withdrawn.

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You know? Cause I\'m from
Brooklyn originally.

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Brooklyn girls were straight up.

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Whatever we feel,
whatever we want to wear,

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we going to wear it.

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And we just make, we\'re statement women.

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Staten Island girls is more
like, I\'m pearls and champagne

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and blase, blase, you now,

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it was like this fake fantasy world.

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And I\'m like that (beep) ain\'t true.

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- I have seen people shunned
from the conversation,

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of kind of like, you know,

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like what are you doing joining in?

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Like, who are you?

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Like, I don\'t know you.

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- When I first came in here, it was so bad

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that you couldn\'t even
get to the front mirror

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that they had the whole line locked.

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There was a lot of big,
big head dogs up in here.

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You know, that was all friends.

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They was all like a little country club.

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Every morning these same girls
was in the same exact spots.

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And you could not break that line.

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So, you know me. I broke the line.

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- It\'s like a lot of the
women that I\'m friendly with

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it\'s because I know someone else,

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and I\'ve been introduced.

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And you know, I slowly
have been assimilated

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into the group, you know?

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- Cause I\'ve been riding the
boat for like 10 years now.

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- You don\'t have to wait,

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or know anyone to participate,

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you just have the balls to engage

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one of us who, who is
having the conversation.

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Once you engage one of us, it\'s on.

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- We would always need
something, you know?

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And I think I met Valerie

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by helping her out one day,
with her, dress herself.

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Like, I think her impression
of me was probably

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a lot different than when I
what I turned out to be for her.

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- I though she was the
corniest girl I ever saw.

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- She was stressing and
it wasn\'t fitting right.

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I\'m like here, come here,
come here, let me fix it.

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- The back of the suit had
a click on it and it broke.

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So it killed the whole suit.

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She took some safety pin. Now
I didn\'t even know this chick.

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Number one, she was white. Right?

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So she sitting and looking at me like

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I want to ask you, can I help you?

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And I\'m like, sure. Give me your help.

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I appreciate you with doing that,

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cause it took a lot of courage

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with my big myself to approach me.

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- Every now and then,

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is somebody that doesn\'t know the rules.

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- Those are my favorites.

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The ones who are the virgin ferry riders.

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Yeah. We want to pop
those cherries real quick.

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- The first rule is don\'t come in here,

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looking busted, than you
should be. Number one, okay.

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The second rule is you
don\'t use the toilet here.

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It\'s just for show.

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- I\'ve never seen anything
confrontational in four years.

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- No fights?

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- Never.

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- Yeah, I have actually.

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- Oh really?

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- Oh yeah.

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Yeah, this one girl spilled
hot coffee on this other chick

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and they got in an all out roll.

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We had to the police in
there. Oh it was fabulous.

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- Yeah, they fight.

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- I almost got arrested once.

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- What happened to you girl?

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- Because someone stole my seat.

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We have our own spot.

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Everyone knows you don\'t step in this spot

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because it is Diana\'s spot.

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And that\'s her piece of the mirror rights.

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And Carolyn always gets
a seat. That\'s the rule.

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- There\'s a bit of a pecking order. Yeah.

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- Doing your homework in
here is not a good idea.

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Eating your breakfast is not a good idea.

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You do not sit there and read a book.

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You do not sit there and
stare at other people.

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It\'s like an unwritten
rule that you can\'t come

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to the powder room with no makeup.

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It\'s just not done. So, I have these.

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- The biggest rule of all
don\'t, don\'t hold seats.

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I learned that myself being
a new girl on the boat.

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- Oh, saving seats. We heard about that?

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Heard about Valerie?

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- I had somebody hold a seat,

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and it was a big commotion over that.

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- She was saving and holding and holding.

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I could have been done with my makeup.

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I could have been like sat
down and done and gone.

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And you always have that
one person that just,

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I don\'t know, it\'s like
they have blinders on.

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And they don\'t see the chaos
around them that, you know

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they\'re getting pushed and shoved.

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And it just kind of look at
you like, yeah, I\'m not moving.

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- Yes. And eventually it does get up.

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- Just be a lady.

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That\'s it

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- Just abide by the rules.

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And every morning you\'ll
have a beautiful commute.

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(upbeat music)

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- The ferry is my transition period.

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It gets me from work,

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to motherhood, wife

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and from wife, motherhood, to work.

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And in between them I am Camila Hanks

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born September 4th, 1972, uncut.

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This is who I am.

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I am not, Mrs.

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I\'m not mommy.

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I\'m not Mrs. Hanks from,

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can you give me this RHD report?

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You, know, and, this is where is.

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And behind that we put on makeup.

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(urban music)

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- Makeup can be a real business, you know?

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And they come in with such
a narrow business about them

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with these big bags of makeup with them.

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And then you can, you can tell this,

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this woman\'s going into
something with that makeup.

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What is she going to do?

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- Sometimes I\'ll just watch
somebody put on makeup.

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How do they do that?

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I can\'t put on eyeliner like that.

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And I have a steady hand.

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But, wow.

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- Get in here and fix up the grill

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and get out there and
make it look like a face.

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I believe that\'s what it is.

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- They size you up and down.

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They check you out.

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First, their checking out the shoes,

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the makeup, and then
their checking out you.

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- Who got the better
job? Who kids look cute?

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Who husband looks better?

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- In a lot of ways the ferry
keeping up with the Joneses.

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These girls get on, and
one girl has Gucci shoes on

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so, you know, the next one
has to go out and buy them

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because she\'s flaunting them
and she\'s doing her own thing.

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You know, even though she
didn\'t pay her rent that month

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because she\'s got shoes on.

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And that\'s the thing about the ferry.

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You can be that flied wonderful women.

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- But it\'s all an act it\'s part of living

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- Just because somebody has

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a Louis Vuitton bag
doesn\'t mean they\'re rich.

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- As women, we are so caddy,

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that we don\'t realize,

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that we\'re so insecure with one another.

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Like one of them may be
like, well, you know,

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I\'m married, I have a bunch of kids.

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Or one may be like, I\'m not married.

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But the common thread is that,

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that person wants the kids that you have.

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(women chatting)

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- I think a lot of people
may not be comfortable

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with their stations in life.

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And so they use the powder room

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as a place to find their way about things.

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- I remember something
that Camilla had said

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about coming in here and
putting our faces on.

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And kind of like a
protective barrier against,

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against the world.

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And I started thinking about it.

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I\'m like, you know, that was
my way of dealing with my life.

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The chaos in my life

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- My life is so crazy

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that when I get on the boat

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I just laugh about everything
and make fun of myself.

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And can you believe, but maybe
I don\'t feel that way inside

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But you do have women in
there that are very quiet,

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and they put their makeup on
and they stay there all day.

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They just want to listen.

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I think it\'s hysterical, you know

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and that\'s a very different
need, you know, the Voya need.

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(laughs)

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- I just, this may sound like a jerk,

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but I, I really do love people.

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I love to watch them.

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- See, I knew Elizabeth, you know

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and I would always say things
and say really raunchy things

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and look at her face to
see what she\'s excited.

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I knew she was listening.

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And that\'s one great
thing about the mirror

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because you can look from here

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and bounce off and you see them.

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So I\'m looking at her and you
know, I\'ll smile, I\'ll wink.

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And you know, and it\'s the show.

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It\'s the all in the, in the presentation.

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And feel like, oh my
God, I was on the boat

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with these women, and
you should have heard

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what they was saying. It was so horrible.

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But they come back, they
come back for the 8:15 show.

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♪ Good morning to ya. I
hope get to see you again. ♪

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- To upset these women in the powder room

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is to wake up the sleeping dragon.

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- No. She was married to,

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- Who?

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- Her new husband.

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- Who?

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- The one that lives with her.

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- Oh I can\'t take it.

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- It\'s a soap opera in
the bathroom, sometimes.

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(women chatting)

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- We all knew that her
husband had had an affair.

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We all knew that the other one had a child

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out of wedlock by a man,

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well, she started saying it
was her husband too, later.

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And, this kind of thing.

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We never knew that that was the same man

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that they both been talking about.

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The story where, the unmentionables,

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was that we all was friends.

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- When I saw both of them in the boat.

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And like the girlfriend,
the lover was in the front,

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and then the wife was like, in the back

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and they didn\'t look at each other.

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- These two women rode
the boat every morning

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almost together knowing what
was going on in their lives,

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fighting over this one man.

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And ain\'t never said nothing.

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They never had any discrepancy.

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They were, I got to give it to you two.

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You know who you are.

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Y\'all was classy as (beep).

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- I was speechless.

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- They was surprising,

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because this one particular black girl

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that, that got involved with it,

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she was very, very looked up to

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for her style, her class, her physique.

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The way she carried herself,
she was just a real, real lady.

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And to find out that she
was just a skanking ho to me

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because you don\'t break up a happy,

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you don\'t break up a family like that.

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You know what I\'m saying?

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You know, I mean, how do you
sit with this girl, you know

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that you slept with her
husband and had a baby for him.

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- It\'s caused a lot of
controversy on the boat

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because there\'s been two
different schools of thought.

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Some people want us to support her

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whole heartedly, regardless.

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And other people want
us to support the wife

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and other people, others
want to stay on the fence.

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- I think everybody didn\'t
want to betray that one

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the black girl, because
they felt like, you know

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we have to stick up for her, you know?

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And so what her husband

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cause the Caucasian
girl, husband is black.

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So, and I\'m thinking a little bit of bad

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came out in these girls like,

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well her husband\'s black and she\'s white.

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And blase, blase.

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And you know, every black man

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goes back to a good black woman.

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And that\'s, that\'s what it was.

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That was the energy of it.

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But they took to the white girl\'s side

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and they went against the black girl.

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- I confronted the person
about it because I felt, I said

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I said, you\'ve been lying to us.

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I said, you\'ve been telling
us, you have this husband

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and, and this kid and this
relationship, but it\'s not true

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- When she started her
lie, it ended her lie

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on this bathroom.

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(upbeat music)

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- Race exists everywhere.

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Make no mistake.

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However, what we think
about that race has changed.

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- Majority of my
girlfriends are Caucasian,

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white girls in the powder room.

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And let me tell you something,

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these is the most downest, chillest

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white girls I\'ve ever met. Okay.

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- It\'s just personalities.

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I think I don\'t even think it\'s race.

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I think it\'s personalities.

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- We\'ve realized through Justine,
that white girls do fight

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and they will get all up in your (beep).

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And they\'re not going to
look at you like, you know

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just because you\'re black

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that you have any certain
type of power over them.

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You know, that was interesting.

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I was like touche, go girl.

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- Justine. I had a problem with her.

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I had a problem with
Justine when I first came in

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because I figured she
was this Caucasian girl

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but she just was really, really loud.

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- I thought she was loud,
obnoxious, out of control,

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you know, and full of hot air. (laughs)

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- I mean, she came in
here like, what is this?

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And move your stuff.

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And I mean, and I\'m sitting there like,

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oh, she don\'t know me like that.

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You know, don\'t touch my stuff.

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- With the big attitude.
I mean, she\'s a big girl,

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but she had a big attitude.

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- If somebody is louder than
me, I got to shut them down.

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- We had words.

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- Our personalities was
just too alike to get along.

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But one day nobody was
in here, but me and her

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we actually broke ground and
we talked and she was like

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I know you don\'t like me.

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I was like, no, I really didn\'t.

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And she was like, well, I
don\'t really like you either.

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She was like, but I like your opinions

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and the way, what you stand for.

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You know, we started talking, you know

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and that was the first time
we ever had a conversation.

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- When I first seen
Justine, I ain\'t gonna lie,

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she was the type that she was like,

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my first husband, I\'m
gonna divorce that (beep).

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And she was just, all, she
would say awful things.

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She\'s a mean little (beep).

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- I think it\'s a comfort that

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you know if what you say
is going to stay there

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within those, that circle,
with that group of people.

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(urban music)

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- But every man wants to take a peep

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in the powder room.

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- Some of them get very
daring and come in.

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- And we, oh they,

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- They run away.

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- Well some people came and started

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taking pictures of us, and ran.

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Remember that?

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And of course, everybody threw down

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their Louie Vuitton, and
ran after that (beep).

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But we couldn\'t catch him.

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- I think they\'re in,
like awe of this room.

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I think they\'re afraid of this room.

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I know my husband is kind of like curious.

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He wants to know exactly what\'s going on.

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- He takes an earlier than me,

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though whenever I come

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because he\'s on the 7:30.

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So luckily we don\'t have to
take the boat over together.

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- Men don\'t understand, at all.

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Your husbands don\'t understand.

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And actually the less you tell them

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about what goes on in the
bathroom, the better, because

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- They\'ll think you gossip all the time.

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- it\'s not even that
they think you gossip,

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it\'s our freedom.

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(whistling)

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- [Boat Captain] Could be anything,

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nothing would surprise me,

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what would go on in there.

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I would say the woman\'s room is

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in the heart of the
ferry and it\'s the center

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and the largest cabin and the Sloan deck.

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It has two doors to it,

24:19.434 --> 24:23.442
one on the port side and
one on the starboard side.

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So, occasionally a woman who will come

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on with a her date for the day,

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or something like that, which
she\'s not satisfied with,

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and she wants to leave
him or disappear from him.

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She would tell him I\'m going

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to the powder room and
she\'ll enter one door,

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and she would go in, while
he was waiting on that side.

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She exits on the other side
and disappears in the crowd.

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So that that\'s happened a couple of times.

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(blues music)

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- Successful women have a hard time

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making that transition.

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It\'s very difficult to
be a successful woman,

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who\'s got it going on and going home,

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and dealing with man
who is also successful.

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But you\'re still a woman, kind of thing.

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It\'s still, you know, the
baby\'s crying. He looks at you.

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Now, we both had it, the
baby, you know what I mean?

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The two of us, sperm, egg, we had sex.

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Baby cries, he looks at you.

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- I am a full-time mother.

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I\'m a full-time, I\'m a full-time wife.

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And I cook and I clean and
I satisfy my man, you know

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and he satisfies me.

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And if he doesn\'t, I\'m gonna let him know,

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and if I don\'t, he\'s gonna let me know.

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But for the most part, it\'s evident,

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that I haven\'t had that problem.

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- And that\'s the chapter of our meeting.

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- The majority of the women

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that I see in here are working mothers.

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And when you work,

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and you have children,
it\'s very stressful.

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Mornings for me are very stressful.

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So it\'s like if you come in here,

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everybody\'s venting.

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- My son\'s in second grade.

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He got suspended.

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- Did you whoop his (beep)?

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- Well, all the kids started
with him but he finished.

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(women chatting)

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- I mean, you know, I
recently got divorced

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and it\'s been has it been a rough road.

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So it was nice to talk to people

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who can understand what
you\'re going through.

26:21.554 --> 26:25.260
There\'s a lot of women in the
same position and you know

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you get a lot of advice and stuff

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but it\'s good because you
know, you\'re not alone.

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- I think the common
thread is having somebody

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really like you. Just for you, you know?

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You don\'t have to be
Tanesha\'s mom, you know,

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or, or Damion\'s wife for them to like you.

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(women chatting)

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People come to me and
they just start crying,

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you know, right in the bathroom.

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Or they come to me and
be like, I need to talk.

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I mean, I mentioned that no names.

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I had a girl come in here that
she had just got an abortion.

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One of the girls who come
in here and she was bleeding

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all over the place, you
know what I\'m saying?

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And I\'m like, how could you just come

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from having an abortion
and getting on the ferry?

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She was like, I\'m wanting to see somebody

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I could connect with. She
said, I\'m so depressed.

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I feel like jumping off the bridge

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or running in front of
the train, you know?

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And I was just glad I
was there for that person

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because what would she have
done if I wasn\'t there?

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I\'m telling you so much drama has happened

27:21.510 --> 27:23.218
in his bathroom is really deep.

27:23.218 --> 27:24.847
- You know how many hats
we put on every day?

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- Absolutely.

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But in the bathroom meet different people,

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and you can kind of-

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- You can just be a girl.

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- And when you get on the boat, like this,

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it\'s so difficult because
there\'s 20 other people

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there who have issues just as you do.

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- I have my friends, I
call them all the time.

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And yet I still have this need

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to come in here and talk to someone.

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You know, it\'s like, you know,
I go see a shrink once a week

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and you know, it\'s, that\'s not enough.

27:52.600 --> 27:55.382
- And it\'s funny because
people who have issues

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tend to find each other.

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I come from an alcoholic family,

27:59.190 --> 28:01.620
siblings, alcoholic, you know?

28:01.620 --> 28:03.383
So I have alcohol issues.

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And the whole big thing with me is

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that when I was little

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I was molested by my uncle.

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And it was something
that I didn\'t process.

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Luckily I was finally been able
to find a therapist to work

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with me on it and to help
me get through it and stuff.

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I think a lot of what happened

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in the past is what brings
them to this room here.

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(guitar music)

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- It\'s a break.

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From whatever they just left
before they came in here

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and whatever they\'re going to have to face

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when they leave here.

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And it might be the break
that keeps them going.

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- It\'s 20 minutes, that\'s all chicks need

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to get it together.

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Keep it moving anything longer than that.

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I can\'t answer that.

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- I consider the powder room
to be the great equalizer.

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Because I mean, you have
rich people from Toad Hill

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on this boat, hanging
out with their Mercedes

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and you have people from
the projects, you know.

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We just took the bus to work

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and you know managed to get here.

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And so it\'s funny, you
know, so we all hang out.

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I mean, this may be the only place

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that we hang out together.

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- No one knows that you\'re sitting here

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talking to a chick from projects,

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and you may live in
Annandale in a nice house.

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But you know what, the
problems that you have

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with your kids are totally the same.

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(blues music)

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(women chatting)

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- There\'s also, you know,

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there\'s a lop side to the powder
room, but for the most part

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your not gonna to come out
of there maimed, or anything.

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- That\'s the dynamic of the room,

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where we\'re supposed to be women,

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we\'re supposed to be comradery

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we\'re supposed to be, you know,

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all for one, and one for all.

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I\'m like, no, a lot of the
times, some of the things,

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are just dead wrong.

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(women chatting)

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- I don\'t believe in hitting children.

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- Yes. This one girl was
in there beating her kid.

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- The kid full wits of gear on,

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and all you hear slam, slam, slam on skin.

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There\'s no place for her to
hit this kid but his head.

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- Oh my God.

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- I\'m going, oh my God, oh my God.

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Nobody did a freaking thing.

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- And so, I\'m like sitting there going,

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should I do something?

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What should I do?

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Should I sit?

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And people were sitting there,

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you could see them watching in the mirror.

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They\'re like-

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- And I pushed the stall
door open and I said,

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I know you\'re not hitting that child.

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- This white lady who doesn\'t believe

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that you should beat your kids.

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Who\'s a friend of mine got up
and got in the middle of it.

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And I said, well, you deserve
to get your (beep) kicked

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because I was disciplining my children,

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and you got in my business,
you would get done in.

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- I was pissed because
after they finally left

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and they were like, you better
not go, you know that girl

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she\'ll jack you up or
she\'ll pull a knife on you

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and blah, blah, blah.

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And I\'m like, yeah.

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And why didn\'t somebody say something?

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And I see how people backed me up.

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And, oh, well we give her an eye.

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We gave her a look.

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That\'s all we had to do.

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She knew that we disapproved

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of what she was doing by, by our actions.

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We showed our disapproval.

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And if she killed the child?

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I mean, that\'s my response.

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And then would you say, oh,
I should have done something.

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- Women can get along, can be friends,

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can have a sisterhood, can disagree,

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and still be able to join
together in difficult times.

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- For me to even approach Manhattan,

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and it\'s not there, it\'s still unreal.

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From Staten Island, you
have a beautiful view

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of the skyline.

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It\'s gone.

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And it\'s like, well, what
happened to the skyline?

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- I was on the 8:30 ferry that day,

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and it was a regular day.

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We came out maybe like three
minutes before the boat docked.

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And there was this guy with
headphones on and he said

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a plane just flew into the World Trade.

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And when he said it, it
really didn\'t register.

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Cause I was still finishing

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up and put on lipstick or whatever.

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And I went on to work.

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People started saying
the building\'s on fire.

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So everyone was running towards the front.

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Now myself not coming from
the best neighborhood.

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I see people running
towards the excitement.

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I\'m saying, well, they
must\'ve be shooting,

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because there was shooting running away.

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But I couldn\'t figure out
exactly what was going on

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- People are panicking.

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They\'re putting on their life vests,

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hundreds of life vests are going on.

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- I got off and I was
walking towards World Trade

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- Wow, big fire.

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I was like (beep), what the
(beep) was that, you know

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I kept walking, walked right to it.

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Basically, pretty much. You know.

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You know, it\'s like New York.

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Oh, fire, still got to go to work.

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You know, nothing stops me
walking, but I kept going.

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I didn\'t think to turn around and go home.

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Should of.

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Should of.

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It was a bad day.

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- And while we were watching
the building on fire,

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we saw a plane.

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- You knew it was going to hit something.

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It was too low.

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It was going too fast.

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- So as it hit the second
building, I actually blanked out.

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- At that point, they
had completely shut down

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the Staten Island ferry.

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I couldn\'t turn my car
back around, get off.

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So I was literally just
stuck to watch everything

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- I see in the school, the kids.

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And I thought about them.

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Where was their mothers?

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And the kids was crying.

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So me and this other lady,
we just grabbed all the kids.

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We just kept running towards the ferry.

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We kept the kids running
towards the ferry.

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- And it was like, I
was in a Diehard movie.

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- You couldn\'t see
anything in front of you.

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I mean, you would actually,
it was like we was

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in caveman days, you was
feeling on each other.

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I mean, people was grabbing
my shirt, feeling on me.

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I popped my strap on my shirt,

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breasts out, everything. Did not care.

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- When everything cleared
and you see shoes and bags

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and people just laying in the streets,

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just, I mean, trampled
from people running,

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you just,

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you realize what really happened.

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- Everybody was just embracing each other

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white, black, Chinese,
old, young, crippled.

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And to me, it was just
so overwhelming to me

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you know like, wow

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the city is really coming
together right now.

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(guitar music)

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- The room felt so different

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in the weeks following September 11th.

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It almost, in a way became
like the unsafe zone

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because you didn\'t know who
you were going to run into.

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You know, are you going
to run into the person

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who saw people jumping off the buildings?

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Or are you gonna run into the person

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who happened to lose someone?

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Or knew someone who lost someone?

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And emotions were really high.

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I just didn\'t want to deal with it.

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I wanted that to be my escape from it.

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And some people would just talk about it.

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- People trying to outdo
each other with stories.

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Oh, my friend was there and they did this.

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And you know, try to compete
for who was the most effective?

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Or who lost the most people?

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Or who was closest to the
actual physical building?

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- I think whenever you
talk about something,

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the more you speak about it,
the less power it has over you.

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- We really kind of take
for granted the community

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of the ferry, of the powder room,

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and when it happened
and we were all kind of

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all over the place and we
hadn\'t seen each other.

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When we finally saw each other,

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those of us that make up there,

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it was like, oh, how are you?

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We\'re hugging we\'re crying,
we\'re kissing each other.

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- People are more like, like

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if they see us, seeing people, like,

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you wanted? Do you want?

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You know, we\'re more considerate.

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Yeah. We\'re considerate to each other.

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And it\'s like, when people leaving

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I think that\'s more touching to me.

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Cause people like have a nice
day, be safe, get home safely.

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We never had to say that before.

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See you later. Bye. I\'m out.

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You go the other way,
we all just fly our way.

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It\'s like, you have to
say have a safe day.

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- It became more of a family in a way.

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It, it\'s weird.

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It\'s like people started to
really care for each other.

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- If this isn\'t a kick in
the pants, it\'s telling me

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that I need to pursue my life
in a way that makes me happy.

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- If one is honest with themselves

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I don\'t think you can ever
live the same life again.

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It doesn\'t mean the same thing.

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I can\'t be afraid of the things.

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I guess I have a new set of fears.

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I looked at some of the fears
I did have and I realized

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you know, I always thought
I was going to grow old.

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And now I don\'t know, I don\'t
know if I\'ve got 20 minutes,

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or 20 years.

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(blues music)

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(women chatting)

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- It\'s like being in a
group, like a witches

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and conjuring up a spell
and the spell comes up

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and it grows, and it grows
and it grows and grows.

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We like conjure up this mood.

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I mean, it\'s electrical.

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- As long as there\'s mirrors
and seats, we\'ll be here.

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- I tried to talk to my daughter.

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My daughter was like, I didn\'t
want to put on no makeup

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because she, you know, she\'s a kid,

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you know how a kids get.

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But, you know, one day she will be sitting

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in one of these seats.

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She will be on her way to
Manhattan putting on some makeup.

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She will be talking about how
my mom is driving me crazy.

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Or how I can\'t stand my man,

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and how I want to get rid of my kids,

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if I couldn\'t get arrested.

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(ferry horn)

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But it\'s funny, cause as soon as you hear

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that bump against the boat,

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everybody transforms
into the working woman.

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(women chatting)

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- It\'s like bye, bye, bye.
Conversations stop instantly.

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And whatever, stop that day,
it starts the next morning.

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- In the moment it\'s an in the moment type

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of thing that you can\'t duplicate
from one day to the next.

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But it\'s addictive, it\'s really addictive.

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- It seems like there\'s a little space,

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but to us it\'s so big.

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(upbeat music)

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- In my mind, you know, every
day is really fairytale,

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because you wake up

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and you really don\'t know
what\'s going to happen.

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So you have the opportunity every day to

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create a new fairytale for your life

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and a reality for yourself,
a new truth for yourself.

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- You get the chance to love somebody.

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You get a chance to
interact with somebody.

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You get a chance to give
something to somebody.

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You get the chance to receive.

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It\'s really what you want to do

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with that opportunity that\'s going to make

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or break your day or your life in general.